When I came out to my mom, her response was that she already knows, and she was just waiting for me to tell her...The majority of my female friends also said that they already "figured it out" before I told them...I honestly don't know how they knew, I don't act extremely campy...Have you guys ever had someone say "I know" when you come out to them?
I know what you mean. The "I know" can sound offensive to some people. It's not necessarily in someone's behavior, but in the way they respond to things. Maybe you shy away if someone mentions the word 'gay' or perhaps they've noticed that you don't talk about girls or a girlfriend.
I've never gotten the "I know" response but I have gotten a few "Oh, yeah that makes sense". I guess, prior to coming out, we're all trying to "pass" and some of us aren't that good at it?
I don't think I'll get an "I know" I dated girls in high school and played sports like my dad wanted. I tried to mold myself into what they wanted. Even the friends I told were shocked. It scares me.
For some people, I believe it's their way of dealing/coping with it. It's better, to them, to be on the I knew all along team, than to be blindsided -- folks don't like being made to feel dumb or out of the loop. And some, well, they probably say that because they can't think of anything else to say. On a personal note, the two people I have come out to, with my sexuality they both (jokingly) assumed I was asexual, and going to become a monk. As for the transgender aspect, well, one look at me and you'd think, yeah, that's a guy. So, both of them, with well-intentioned laughs, accepted it, but I knew why they were laughing -- it's just totally unexpected.
When I talked to my mother about it she said something along the lines of: 'Wow, we really are having the talk now aren't we? I've been waiting to have this talk for a long time.' Not surprising however because I had been dropping hints long enough that it wouldn't be a total shock.
Nope. On the contrary it's usually "what?! Really?" and they either acknowledge it or don't believe me O_O
My younger sister said this to me when I came out to her. Apparently she read it in my diary and was waiting for me to come out. When I came out to my mom as trans, she said she knew all along. I mean, it wasn't too hard to tell.
The first few people I told about being trans said they suspected something, but I haven't gotten a straight "I know" response. My father found out I was presenting as a woman online but didn't believe me when I told him.
My mom knew... but she asked me a question. I was about to com out. Me: "Mom. I gotta tell you something." Mom: "Does it have anything to do with the videos I found on the Living Room Computer?" Me:"........." Mom: "Don't worry. I won't tell your dad. You know how he is." This happened over facebook while we were in separate rooms. She had a suspicion but she didn't care much to find out.
It's most likely this...I NEVER talked about girls, and every time they asked me about getting a girlfriend, I tried to change the subject..
