1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

How much do/did you blame yourself for being LGBT?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SonicBoom, Jan 30, 2015.

?

How much did/do you blame YOURSELF for being LGBT?

  1. A LOT

    9 vote(s)
    15.3%

  2. A FAIR amount.

    7 vote(s)
    11.9%

  3. A LITTTLE

    11 vote(s)
    18.6%

  4. NEVER

    32 vote(s)
    54.2%
Thread Tools

Thread Tools

Page 1 of 3
  1. SonicBoom

    SonicBoom
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 19, 2015
    Messages:
    542
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Trying to find my way.
    Gender:
    Male
    The purpose of this thread is we can better understand ourselves and share our experiences.


    So, how much did you blame yourself for being LGBT?




    I personally NEVER blamed myself for being gay.


    How about you?
     
    #1 SonicBoom, Jan 30, 2015
  2. C06122014

    C06122014 Guest

    I do not blame myself for being gay, and never have blamed myself for being gay. I didn't always understand my sexuality but I've always known it wasn't my fault.
     
    #2 C06122014, Jan 30, 2015
  3. Composerbpc

    Composerbpc
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 1, 2015
    Messages:
    22
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Baltimore, Maryland
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I did not, do not, and will never blame myself for being gay. Actually, I LOVE IT!! :grin: :grin: :grin: :grin: I was actually lucky because I never really doubted my sexuality, being attracted to guys just felt...right.
     
    #3 Composerbpc, Jan 30, 2015
  4. Jinkies

    Jinkies
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Oct 27, 2011
    Messages:
    2,321
    Likes Received:
    47
    Location:
    Northern Ireland
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    The best part about it is knowing that there is no blame to give to anybody, not even yourself.
     
    #4 Jinkies, Jan 30, 2015
  5. Zombi3

    Zombi3
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 8, 2015
    Messages:
    191
    Likes Received:
    5
    Location:
    Lancashire
    How does one blame theirself for being who they are?
     
    #5 Zombi3, Jan 30, 2015
  6. Chiroptera

    Chiroptera
    Admin Team Full Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2014
    Messages:
    2,505
    Likes Received:
    1,383
    Location:
    Brazil
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I am who i am. If the rest of the world don't like it, fuck the rest of the world.
     
    #6 Chiroptera, Jan 30, 2015
  7. Composerbpc

    Composerbpc
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 1, 2015
    Messages:
    22
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Baltimore, Maryland
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    People do it all the time. I guess they think they didn't do something the right way and they turned out gay. They didn't have enough girlfriends, they didn't hang out with the right people etc. I agree people shouldn't, but many do, unfortunately.
     
    #7 Composerbpc, Jan 30, 2015
  8. Fallingdown7

    Fallingdown7 Guest

    I never did. When I was younger, I blamed others for the way LGBT was treated.
     
    #8 Fallingdown7, Jan 30, 2015
  9. iiimee

    iiimee
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Oct 12, 2014
    Messages:
    51
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    In my imagination.
    When I figured out I was trans, I didn't want to be! I thought there might be some way for me to change, some pill or something! However, as I learned more, I realized I wasn't as much angry I was trans, as that people wouldn't accept me for it. I am proud to be somebody who can help others now, but I still blamed myself, thinking if I could only change my mind somehow I'd be fine...
     
    #9 iiimee, Jan 30, 2015
  10. SonicBoom

    SonicBoom
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 19, 2015
    Messages:
    542
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Trying to find my way.
    Gender:
    Male
    I know parents of LGBT people blame themselves for their children being LGBT all the time.

    One of the main prevailing theories on the cause of homosexuality is the person didn't bond with the right parent. So, in theory lesbians didn't bond with their mothers and gay men didn't bond with their dads.

    I'm just wondering how many LGBT people blame themselves for being LGBT.
     
    #10 SonicBoom, Jan 30, 2015
    Last edited: Jan 30, 2015
  11. iiimee

    iiimee
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Oct 12, 2014
    Messages:
    51
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    In my imagination.
    ...I am looking at the results so far and feel terribly alone. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
    #11 iiimee, Jan 30, 2015
  12. Andrew99

    Andrew99
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Nov 13, 2013
    Messages:
    3,402
    Likes Received:
    8
    Location:
    Milwaukee
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Never because I knew I couldn't change it however it did take me a fair amount of time before i actually accepted i was gay.
     
    #12 Andrew99, Jan 30, 2015
  13. Tightrope

    Tightrope
    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 31, 2013
    Messages:
    5,415
    Likes Received:
    387
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Well, I'm not with the majority, but I'm almost there. I didn't choose it. However, I choose to act on it. Sometimes I've acted on it in ways that might resemble acting out. I'm not sure. Let's just say I'm not proud of everything I've done in that department.

    I think we're a combination of our wiring and the sum total of our life experiences. That's all I can say.

    Also, no one should feel self conscious of how you vote here. You're just being honest.
     
    #13 Tightrope, Jan 30, 2015
  14. Steele

    Steele
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 18, 2013
    Messages:
    631
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    West Coast, United States
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I've never blamed myself for being gay. I have felt ashamed and disgusted with myself for being gay, but I've never blamed myself for it, because it's not something I have any control over. I blame homophobia and heterosexism/heteronormativity for it instead.
     
    #14 Steele, Jan 30, 2015
  15. Skaros

    Skaros
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 9, 2013
    Messages:
    1,254
    Likes Received:
    2
    Location:
    Chicago, IL
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    All but family
    A little back then, but none right now.
     
    #15 Skaros, Jan 30, 2015
  16. Pret Allez

    Pret Allez
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Apr 19, 2012
    Messages:
    6,785
    Likes Received:
    67
    Location:
    Seattle, WA
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I never blamed myself for being queer.

    I did feel shame, but that's different than blaming myself...

    Now I love being queer. It's one of my favorite parts of myself.
     
    #16 Pret Allez, Jan 30, 2015
  17. imnotreallysure

    imnotreallysure Guest

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2013
    Messages:
    2,937
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Leeds, UK
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    never blamed myself. i never even saw it as a bad thing. i'm pretty content with myself.
     
    #17 imnotreallysure, Jan 30, 2015
  18. Ditz

    Ditz
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 28, 2012
    Messages:
    372
    Likes Received:
    2
    Location:
    South Africa
    Interesting question... I can't recall ever blaming myself. I didn't like the fact that I wasn't straight and I went trough a stage where I wished I could blame something or someone for turning out to be what I am until I realised that I am what I am and have always been.

    Blame is something that is futile and destructive when it comes to my sexual orientation and I'm glad I didn't wallow too much in it.
     
    #18 Ditz, Jan 30, 2015
  19. mbanema

    mbanema
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 11, 2014
    Messages:
    1,485
    Likes Received:
    30
    Location:
    MA
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Not at all. I am who I am and I'm okay with that. I may be stupidly trapped in the closet, but I don't wish I was straight.
     
    #19 mbanema, Jan 30, 2015
  20. Mirko

    Mirko
    Admin Team Advisor Full Member

    Joined:
    Apr 26, 2008
    Messages:
    18,884
    Likes Received:
    3,219
    Location:
    Northern Hemisphere
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I never blamed myself for being gay. If at first I wouldn't have found it too comfortable in the closet, I probably would have come out a lot sooner than I did. My fears of how others would react or what they would say, held me back more than anything. I can't recall an instant where I hoped that I would be straight - even though I tried by best to go with the flow while I was in the closet.
     
    #20 Mirko, Jan 30, 2015
(You must log in or sign up to post here.)
Page 1 of 3