Loving someone vs someone loving you, which one do you want more?

I want to love someone. Don't get me wrong, I'd like to be loved as well... but the stronger feeling is for me to love someone.

 

None.

I don't like the idea of loving someone... romantically speaking of course. It is too much hussle for disaster.

Same applies for opposite. I hate to break someone's heart but if a heart meant to be broken it will broken.

I am very happy with lacking both. The more I check or analyze the more I realize I am more suitable for being alone.

 

Ideally it's both, otherwise there's someone getting hurt emotionally.

 

I'm not exactly sure what you mean, so I'm going to answer in a couple different ways.

When it comes to one person loving another person and the other not reciprocating the love, I would rather be the person who loves the other. It seems like a bad answer since I'm currently (kind of) in the situation and it sucks. And hurts. All I want is for her to like me back, but it's just not happening for me. She's in a relationship. I'm glad she's happy, but I just wish I was the reason.

When in a relationship, I would rather be the one who loves more (again). I know it's not a contest and that feelings could really get hurt this way, but to answer your question, yeah. I love the idea of both partners thinking that they love their partner more, so they still put forth the effort to "win them over" time and time again. :rolle:

 

Both equally

i do need the second thing in order to do the first but our feelings can develop and evolve together

 

I would choose someone loving me...

 

I would choose to love someone.

I can't think of a situation where someone liking me more than I liked them didn't end very painfully, whereas I'm pretty good at dealing with my own feelings. Besides, loving someone brings something, makes me kind of happy all by itself.

 

Loving someone. Personally, I would rather be hurt than have hurt someone else. Getting out of this somewhat relationship last night was painful, even though I wasn't really into him. When someone says they want to end things with me, it hurts and I let it all out but I usually get over it in a few weeks. When I break up with someone else, all that repeats in my head is, "You're a jerk" and I suddenly fear people making rumors about me and the people they know who I know as well, suddenly not liking me because of it.

 

Ditto.

 

Its wonderful to be loved. But more to love someone who loves you. In general in love I'm a giver falling in love its my high.

 

Being loved. I spent half my life being unsure over whether my friends really like me.

 

One without the other is painful. For me, finding someone that can love me is the more difficult part of the equation but it's not like the other way is common either.

 

Itd be nice to hhave physical friends that care about me. Instead of just family and the people that get paid to care. I'd like to be loved more than anything right now... i need it.

 

Neither.

Can't agree with this more right now. As time goes on, the more and more I figure I'm probably just best left alone.

 

If you only give me those two choices... To love.

If you give me the third option, being left alone, I'd take it.

 

I could love somebody easily, if they'd let me.

So, of these choices, I'd go with somebody loving me. Not what I can do, not what I provide, but for me.

If I had a partner-in-love behind me, there's no telling how much more motivated I'd become, because the idea of being touched and cuddled, just makes me want to excel more so than I already do.

Of course, I could manage being alone my entire life. But I'd always feel like, I wasn't living up to my potential. And, I do like the idea of trying to "out love" the other, because in the end, both parties are winners. Then again, I like playful competition and lovingly-done teasing.