How Do You Handle Problems?

Well, I rarely come across problems I have too much trouble with, If I do I just take time out to read up on the subject so that I can effectively resolve it (so your fourth option).

 

Depends on the problem and how concerned I am with solving it. But generally giving up is not in my nature. So usually some combo of 1,4, and 5, although I may accept something/go along for the ride for a bit until I can regroup to beat it to death later. Once if a very rare while I may actually give up at something, but only after spending an extended period of time (as in months to years) trying to make it work.

Todd

 

If the problem is something I want to tackle, then I will keep throwing myself at it to an unhealthy, obsessive degree. If it's something I don't want to tackle, then I will give up for the time being and try again later after I adjust my attitude.

 

First take it head-on, with the most direct approach. If that doesn't work, I'll try to go at it more carefully, observing for any details that might have gone unnoticed the first time. One of my favorite mantras is "Everything is more complex than it seems." It has not let me down yet.

And if that doesn't work, call in outside help because it's probably a beast lol.

 

It definitely depends on the problem. I find it difficult to focus on something I find boring and/or isn't important. I prefer to attack. Waiting rooms are the bane of my existence. I'd rather be getting it over with so I can focus on more fun things.

Small problems can actually be kind of fun. Even if I felt really angry about a guy trying to con me, I managed to hold back for a few weeks and my victory was glorious.

As I've said before, only a fool believes they can get through this life without getting hurt. It's difficult but sometimes I can admit when I need help. I don't like to owe anything to people and I have this crazy fear that some things could be used to manipulate me.

I'm always collecting knowledge on the side that could prove useful sometime. I thought emotions should play no part in decisions... until I read Descartes' Error. Although I do agree that it isn't terribly productive to just stand there saying 'fire... fire... fire...' in a quiet voice when there's a fire in the kitchen. People can freeze up because of normalcy bias.

Little problems such as video game challenges... I listen to music to increase my resistance to frustration and repetition. I prefer to solve problems on my own but if I'm really stuck I will check a guide book and/or watch how other people succeed on YouTube. I can always play another game for a while and return to that problem later. I might not be able to solve that problem right now but there's little point in holding myself back from solving other problems. Although I will be trying again for a while almost every day and I almost never give up on a problem.

I'm usually an excellent problem solver. I tend to have more trouble dealing with emotional problems. Sometimes I don't know why I'm feeling bad and I just ignore it. Although I think I've gotten a little better in recent years. Well, I at least know I probably wont be making good decisions when I'm tired... so sometimes you really do have to sleep on a problem.

 

If it's a physical problem them I'll tackle it head on.
If it's a problem that need careful thought, then I'll wait til I'm in bed and just about to fall asleep and then think about it. Thoughts are much clearer then and the solution is easier to find.

 

Basically, how do you go about solving a problem?

Ask friends or family or talk to myself in my room. People may think that talking to oneself is crazy but it actually helps quite a bit.

Do you keep at it until something gives?

Yes. I try my best to hold it all in and bite my tongue but there are times where I've had enough and I have to say something. When I say something when I'm mad or upset, I'll regret it but it's also the honesty coming out. It may not be truthful, but it's honestly how I feel.

Do you throw your hands in the air and give up?

It depends on the situation. There are times where I have given up on someone or something, simply because there was nothing I can do to fix the situation and it was time for me to move on with my life.

Do you just accept it, and go along for the ride?

Again, it depends. I go along on the ride if I have hope in the situation, hope that things will change, hope that things will get better.. if they won't change and won't get better, then I won't go along for the ride.

Do you fall back and educate/prepare yourself, so that when you return, you can resolve it?

Any sort of education or preparation would've been done in advance by pure coincidence. If however, if it's between two people I'll consider hearing each side out but normally with my life and my family and friends, it isn't necessary.

do you find more resourceful ways of overcoming obstacles?

No, not really. I only do what I know and each hurtle in my life comes with a new experience that I take along with me. I'm growing as a person, blossoming into myself and realizing that I can't be dependent on people and simply wish people would just care. If they do, that's great but I need to get my head out of the clouds real wick.

 

Lets say I act like my cat when he sees a new object. Circle around the thing until you find a weak spot and pounce...

 

A combination of 4, then 1.

I will generally keep at it persistently until finding a solution or at least find alternative ways around it where that isn't possible or practical. Sometimes changing a course of action entirely works out for the better.

However there are certain problems I have difficulty with that are proving to be more stubborn than others, mainly relating to my personal situation in terms of health problems and, by extension, the obstacles they cause, as well as my other caring responsibilities. Patience is not a virtue I possess in great quantities, especially when faced with a problem where there appears to be no realistic solution within my sights. For somebody like myself who likes to believe they can overcome anything, it is frankly maddening. For the past several years, there have been a number of problems which I'm caught in a sort of limbo over; my persistent nature refuses to let me give up (and giving up is not an option, anyway. It would only make things worse), and yet there isn't a clear answer. It's that old paradox of: What happens when an unstoppable force meets an immovable object?

 

Often my knee jerk reaction is panic, but after I calm down I am strategic and rationale in my approach. I tend to gather as much information as possible on the issue so that I can approach it with an informed perspective. In some ways my anxiety can help me here, because I can be rather tenacious when it comes to a problem that is bothering me in particular.

 

Spread some chocolate on it... That's normally a surefire way to fix problems.

 

I hate giving up so I will always give it a go. Depending on the problem, I prefer to get it over with as quick as possible instead of delaying it because I love my sleep to much. Im a bit of a worrier and will probably stay awake for hours worrying about it. But usually I will just keep going until something gives or just accept it and go along with the ride.

 

If I have a problem, most likely I put it off until the last possible minute and while that time doesn't come, I keep complaining about it -.- .

But, I hardly ever give up on it.

 

How do I handle problems? Badly, to say the least. I just keep it bottled up and get really snappy with anyone who talks to me :/ I tend to get really stressed out, but I never end up doing anything about it until the last second

 

If I come across what looks like a problem, I ask myself a question: Is there as solution?

If there is no solution, then there is no problem, and it turns out that what seemed to be a problem actually isn't.

And when there really is a problem and it's important, I try to solve it. If it's not important, I don't waste my time.

 

When it's a personal problem, I bury it. When someone else is involved, I shut them out. (I know it's a stupid approach, but that's just how I do it.)
And when it doesn't relate to any of the previous situations, I try to improve my abilities and gather useful experience to tackle them.