This woman I met at a psychiatric hospital, and whom I bought a bird off of a couple of years back, sees me as a friend and I picked up the bird at her house. She has a serious hoarding problem. Their house is full of stuff piled on top of one another, even in the kitchen! I felt a little sick actually because that can't be very hygienic. Anyway, she's invited me over for a visit a couple of times, but I managed to think up an excuse every time. She stopped calling for a while. That is, until Sunday... She called me THREE TIMES. Two of those times I just left my phone to ring, and one of those times I actually rejected the call. My phone JUST rang again - it was her! I rejected the call immediately, but a few seconds later, she phoned again. I rejected again and switched my phone off. She can leave a voice message if it's really that important. When will she get the message that I don't want to talk to her again??? How many more calls do I have to reject before she finally gives up??? This is driving me INSANE and I don't know what more I could do to let her know that I don't want to talk to her. Sending her a message is out of the question because I have a terrible way of words and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I know I'm not supposed to judge but they also live in a dodgy part of town and I felt uncomfortable driving around there, by myself. How would you deal with this situation? :bang: :eusa_doh:
This is a difficult situation. You really should be direct and say you don't think you're going to have time in your schedule anywhere in the foreseeable future to get together with her. If you absolutely can't do that, you should be able to call your phone compnay and have her number blocked.
She'll get the message when you actually send it. Silence is far too ambiguous, and the uncertainty it creates can hurt much more than a direct message. It's good that you are aware that you're not very good with words, this way you can consciously try to be better, and tell her as gently as possible, yet honestly, that you're not interested and that she shouldn't lose her time nor make you lose yours. If after telling her she was still insisting, then do take other measures to block/avoid her. Or that's what I'd do.
