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Rest in peace

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  1. dano218

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    Today is the day my boyfriend's family had his funeral and I chose to celebrate his life in my own way the way he would of wanted. He was a deeply religious person who believed in God with all of heart. He prayed every day. His favorite prayer was John 3:16. That prayer will always remind me of him and I'll cherish it forever. He was only 47 years old when he died and it was sudden.
    Even though he lived out almost half his life he had dreams, visions, and plans for his future. It breaks my heart that those plans now won't happen but I know by how strong his faith was he is resting peacefully with Jesus. I know in his heart he would of wanted me to celebrate his life in my own way because his funeral is in a church in a town he abhorred. A community of people worshipping him whom he despised them including his family. If only I had any rights over the arrangements and of course he did not have a will stating his wishes so his parents of all people got to make the arrangements. His parents who disapproved of his sexuality and wrote several letters warning him of the dangers of sin. I know I would of been sick going to his funeral. I would of known him better than anyone there and I do know him better than his community or family known him. Rest in peace my love.
     
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. :frowning2: That's horrible to hear. [​IMG]

    It's beautiful that you cherish his memory and beliefs so strongly. I bet he was lucky to have someone like you.

    My best wishes and deepest condolences to you.
     
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    Thanks I appreciate it.
     
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    I am so sorry to hear this. This reminds me of the movie Bridegroom. I look forward to meeting him in heaven with all the rest of my LGBT brothers and sisters in Christ.
     
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    I hope you managed to take some time out to remember him in your own way. Cherish every memory you have of him - death cannot take these away.
     
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    I'm so sorry. I'm sure he wouldn't have wanted you to go if it would have caused you pain, and it sounds as if his family had little to do with his life.

    If you had a circle of mutual friends, or family who supported both of you, you could always have your own memorial for him. I've known a few people who have had a memorial service instead of a funeral. That way you could celebrate his life the way he really lived it.
     
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    My deepest and sincere condolences.
    They don't really go away, you know : We carry them in our hearts, and they are still there in a way, giving us enough strenght to carry on and build something new and beautiful in our lives. They are still here, among us, and they shall never be forgotten.
    I send you both my love

    (*hug*)
     
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    Thanks. It's not exactly like the movie bridegroom. My life was not threatened by his family and I did not get calls or texts telling me not to attend the services. I just know he would of wanted me to remember him in my own way. The saddest thing is I knew him better than his family and community that he lived in and that that is why it would of been painful to go to his memorial service that his family arranged.
     
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    dano218, I'm sorry to hear of the passing of your boyfriend. :frowning2:

    May his soul rest in peace and I hope you will be fine.
     
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    Thanks I appreciate the support. I am doing ok. He had a huge faith in God so I know he is at peace with Jesus even though he died so suddenly and when he still had plans for his future. The most important thing was his faith in God and knowing he'll be in heaven someday because of his faith.
     
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    you have my sincerest condolences
     
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    His favorite prayer John 3:16-"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall no perish but have external life."
     
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    I sometimes wish I knew he was gonna die. He died so suddenly. I mean he did not feel good for a few days like he wouldn't eat and slept the whole time but I had no idea it would lead to his death of natural causes. It's hard to understand why these things happen and I pray that God will help me be at peace with what happened. He had so much planned in his future and to see that all disappear is overwhelming sometimes. But I can understand why God would want him in his heavenly home because he was so dedicated to his faith and prayed daily for every reason you can think of.
     
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    Im very sorry to hear that (*hug*) I can't imagine what you must be going through but I think you're acting very strong about this.
     
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    Thanks I appreciate it. It's hard when your life changes just like that but it will better as the days go on.
     
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    Well I found out the funeral home posted his memorial service online. Thinking if I had the courage to at least watch it or not. It would be interesting to see how his family celebrated his life being he kept a lot hidden from his family and that small community.
     
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    I watched my boyfriend's service online and it wasn't bad. I honored his memory in my own way that best represented him. Because I knew him better than anyone. His hopes, dreams, secrets and everything else will be forever cherished. In Jesus Name Amen.
     
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    Bought a pint of vodka tonight in memory of my boyfriend. The kind of vodka we drinked when we first meet and had an amazing night going all the way.
     
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    I'm sorry for your loss
    May his soul rest in peace
     
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    Thanks. I know fully in my heart he is resting in peace and watching over me. He may be gone but never forgotten. You never forget your first love and I know someday we will meet in the heavenly paradise.