Do straight transgendered people come out as gay first?

Sometimes, if they don't know what transgender means or has no idea about the differences between gender identity and sexual orientation like you did.

Sometimes they do it just to test the water and ease people around them about accepting them being transgender later.

But not all of us do that.

Congratulation though on your second coming out!

 

I know one trans woman who identified as male before, but not gay. She was basically asexual, and explained that she had no interest in being in a relationship with someone who valued her for her male anatomy, so it never crossed her mind (to be a gay male, she would need to feel comfortable expressing herself as a male, first, and she never did). I also asked if she had any thoughts on why so many trans men come out as butch lesbian first, compared to trans women being gay, and she thought it was due to societal norms being more strict on male-bodied folk, so it's more of an "all or nothing" decision for most.

 

I did, i didn't know what transgender really was and i liked guys so i figured i was gay at first.

 

The opposite happened to me. I defined myself as a trasman, but then I discovered I'm a manly gay woman.

 

Erm... I don't know. It depends on people's minds.

 

To be honest I thought I was gay but I never came out as gay because it didn't feel right. Glad I wanted, I think it spared people confusion.

 

Lol, I was asexual when I came out to myself. I couldn't possibly make a coming out about my sexuality xD

 

For a while I thought I was bisexual, then when I figured out asexual was a "thing" I thought that was more accurate. Then I found out "demisexual" was a thing and that seemed closer. Then I accepted that I'm trans and have come to realize that a lot of my issues with sorting out sex have to do with the fact that I'm in the "wrong" body. Still trying to work out exactly where that leaves me.