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Anyone always get mistaken for he wrong sexual orientation ?

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  1. stocking

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    For me based on how I dress I'm always assumed straight , and if people find out I'm attracted to women I'm always assumed bisexual. One time I had to explain over and over that I was not bisexual .

    only lgbt spaces I can say I'm lesbian and people will believe it and not ask if I'm actually bi.

    What about you guys what sexually are you assumed as ?
     
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    People always assume I'm straight. Eventhough I don't tend to express much desire for either sex/gender.

    ---------- Post added 14th Mar 2015 at 12:34 AM ----------
    I have the exact opposite sometimes, when I tell people I'm bi, they'll ask me if I'm sure I'm not actually gay.
    Eventhough until that point they'd assumed I'm straight.
    Think it's probably due to bi-ignorance in general and male bisexual erasure specifically.
     
    #2 Linthras, Mar 13, 2015
  3. CrazyAwkward

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    People assume I'm straight like they assume most people are straight. Yay heteronormativity :dry: No one's ever not believed me when I tell them my actual orientation though.
     
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    I agree specially around males , I wish people were not that ignorant :frowning2:
     
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  5. TheDude

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    I often get mistaken. I guess it's not that obvious in me :eusa_eh:
     
    #5 TheDude, Mar 13, 2015
  6. NingyoBroken

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    Most Americans would look at me and scream "GAAAAYYYYY" off the top of their lungs.
     
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  7. randomly me

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    I'm apparently gay and married to someone in my class never mind that they are actually straight.oh and we adopted to children and have a dog.
    It's funny what rumour can do....
     
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    I think I've been mistaken for every sexual label under the rainbow. It made questioning a lot more difficult, I'll tell you that!
     
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    People assume I'm straight too except for a friend of mine I've known for a long time. She's asked me if I'm a lesbian but I denied it..
     
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    People do occasionally make the mistake of thinking I'm a gay male...
     
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    Similar to Nekoko but opposite, people think I'm a lesbian but I'm actually a gay male... People I know, anyways. I don't know what the public eye thinks.
     
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    People assume I'm straight... Even though at times I'm obviously not :lol:
     
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    I've been mistaken for a cis straight guy, cis gay guy, cis straight girl, cis gay girl and trans girl.

    No one ever thinks I'm a trans boy, for some reason.
    Though people seem to assume I'm a straight boy right now.
     
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  14. Fallingdown7

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    A few times I've been mistaken for straight. I get more straight/bi girls pressuring me to be straight/bi than anyone making mistakes though.
     
    #14 Fallingdown7, Mar 13, 2015
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    I've heard that one or two people wondered if I was gay.
     
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    ^this^ too.
     
    #16 Linthras, Mar 13, 2015
  17. Acm

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    Like Tai, everyone thinks I'm a lesbian. It's weird because I'm basically the opposite; I'm not a girl and I'm not into girls either...
     
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    Absolutely. I never ping anyone's gaydar.
     
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    People assume I'm straight. A few times when I've come out to friends I've gotten legitimate "WTF? I would have had no idea."
     
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    So one of my closest friend's and I attend the same school/are in the same program. We've known each other for years. She's bisexual (with a bf) and I'm gay. She's always assumed people knew I was gay.

    Well one day last year, I gave her a hug and left class. Apparently, a few of the other girls asked her right after that if we were dating. This happened a few other times. She was definitely perplexed and we still talk about how some people don't know, which surprises us both!

    I have no problem...if it's a female saying it. I just worry that it's going to cause issues with other guys, if you know what I mean. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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