When I came out people thought I was gay for the "attention" and I was faking it. Im just wondering if anyone went or is going through a similar experience.
Pretty much all my female friends thought I was just confused and that I couldn't be a lesbian . One male friend insisted that I was bisexual and just didn't know it and there was no way I could be a lesbian because you know I didn't look like one . He also said I'll meet the right man and what I need is the right man . I was like no man I love the chicks only still doesn't believe I'm a lesbian to this day pretty much explains why we're no longer friends .
I don't know about gay guys, but in my experience as a lesbian this happens pretty much with every person I'm ever acquainted with lol
Some people knew, and some people were honestly surprised. They weren't mean about not believing me at first, though, they were just simply unaware.
There were a few who have said things like "*Gasp* what! No? Wait, really!?!" Not because I think they weren't willing to accept it? but because they were either being smart asses(knew) or because they were genuinely shocked(also knew), by the fact that I told them, I've yet to meet someone who hasn't assumed! But in the words of mike(HMO3) "assuming makes an ass out of you and me" whatever that means :lol:
My mother said "this makes sense", my brother said "this is weird", and my father asked "is this a joke?" When I told them. I got 1/3 in my family. Don't feel bad and don't force yourself to act any differently than you do
My parent didn't believe me nuts that's because before hand I said "Can we get breadsticks as well?" Before saying "I'm also gay". In retrospect I should have been more serious. But honestly, just be you and you'll get far!!
One of my old friends didn't (and I'm pretty sure still doesn't). That's fine by me, though, he's condescending to me about everything now, anyway.
Nobody seems to believe that I might be lesbian and says that I'm bi. I'm questioning, so it really just makes me feel even more confused. I wonder if it's because I don't look like a lesbian...
Yes. Mom and bro were skeptical ("you just need to find the right woman"/"how do you know if you've never tried" etc), and most other folks either seemed to forget altogether or just have some magical filter in their ears that turned "bi" into "gay" so I've had to correct them the few times they've ever brought it up. I hate to be a stickler about something like that, but it could communicate the wrong idea about me to people who don't know better, which seems to be everyone.
I have surprised a number of friends & family members when I told them, mostly because I act quite masculine & dated a few girls before really coming to terms with my sexuality. Once I explain to them my process/journey with coming to terms with my sexuality, there's seldom any doubt.
when i came out about my demisexuality, one of my closest friends told me i wasnt cause its a "fake" sexuality :/
I came out when I told my mum that I had a girlfriend. It was the first time I brought someone home. My mum told me I have to really think if I like this person just because she likes me or if I really like someone because of the way they are. Back then I took it as if my mum thought I took the first person who liked me, afterwards she came around to the fact that I was in love with this girl. Otherwise everyone has guessed it before I told them.
Yes a person close to me thought it may either be a choice/ phase and that as I had recently broken up with my girlfriend I was just confused and thought that I might like a relationship with a boy...
