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**EM68** · 12th Nov 2008, 07:17 PM

I just found out this evening that my best friend's mother passed away. She was 74 and had COPD. She smoked for about 40 years and quit about 2 years ago. She suffered quiet a bit. For anyone who is thinking of smoking, DON'T! It is an awful way to go.

Right now I am very sad.

My friend's wife is expecting twins in February and wanted to be there to see them. The wake is tomorrow and the funeral is Friday. Its weird, its the first time since I started my job I did not book any appointments on Friday. I think things happen for a reason. He is one of the first people I plan to come out to.

thespanishheart · 12th Nov 2008, 07:31 PM

Sorry hun

Good luck with it! Everything DOES happen for a reason

s5m1 · 12th Nov 2008, 07:36 PM

I am really sorry. Hang in there.

Mirko · 12th Nov 2008, 07:45 PM

I am sorry to hear that.

Nixon · 12th Nov 2008, 08:24 PM

sorry

beckyg · 12th Nov 2008, 08:26 PM

I'm so sorry about your friend's mom.

**Lexington** · 12th Nov 2008, 08:38 PM

Lex

**EM68** · 13th Nov 2008, 05:18 AM

Thanks guys!

Kimi · 13th Nov 2008, 09:57 AM

I'm so sorry to hear that

george678 · 13th Nov 2008, 10:19 AM

Ah Man how Bad just keep up good Sprits.

I am sure friday will be sad for him keep him happy.

tm74 · 13th Nov 2008, 02:48 PM

All I can say is this - now is the time your friend will want his friends around him.

**EM68** · 13th Nov 2008, 02:59 PM

I just got back from the wake. My friend and his family were doing good. His dad was real strong. I think they feel comforted by the fact she is not suffering anymore. I only stayed for a few because there was a constant line of people and I did not want think he had to leave the line to talk to me. He said that we would talk when the craziness stopped. I told him that I was there for him because he has been there for me in the past. I also told him that I would be at the funeral tomorrow. I feel better now. Thanks for your hugs!

jayden · 13th Nov 2008, 03:05 PM

its bad news , what does copd mean??? my dad and mum somke i wish they will stop !!!

**EM68** · 13th Nov 2008, 03:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jayden

its bad news , what does copd mean??? my dad and mum somke i wish they will stop !!!

Its a chronic lung condition. this is the link on Wikpedia.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chronic...monary_disease

jayden · 13th Nov 2008, 03:55 PM

thanks em68. i under stand it now. i wish my parents would stop also smoking . i dont ever want to start it

**EM68** · 14th Nov 2008, 02:48 PM

I just got back from my friend's mom's funeral. It was a very moving service. At the end my friend's brother and sister read a letter to their mom. It was funny and moving. After that I went the the grave site then to the home for a get together. I was able to talk to my friend and his brothers and sister. It was nice! We reminisced about the great times we had growing up. We both said that we will always be there for each other.

This week even though it was sad, I had a lot of time to think and realize that life is to short.I know it is but it really hit home and I do not want to hide my true self anymore. I am so ready to come out to my friends and family. I plan to come out to my friend the next time we see each other and my family after the holidays.

george678 · 15th Nov 2008, 03:17 AM

Cool I think you should move on and tell them!

12th Nov 2008, 07:17 PM	#1
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	I'm Sad... I just found out this evening that my best friend's mother passed away. She was 74 and had COPD. She smoked for about 40 years and quit about 2 years ago. She suffered quiet a bit. For anyone who is thinking of smoking, DON'T! It is an awful way to go. Right now I am very sad. My friend's wife is expecting twins in February and wanted to be there to see them. The wake is tomorrow and the funeral is Friday. Its weird, its the first time since I started my job I did not book any appointments on Friday. I think things happen for a reason. He is one of the first people I plan to come out to. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

12th Nov 2008, 07:31 PM	#2
thespanishheart EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: Tampa Bay, FL Age: 22 Posts: 417 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: I'm Sad... Sorry hun Good luck with it! Everything DOES happen for a reason

12th Nov 2008, 07:36 PM	#3
s5m1 Gay and Couldn't be Happier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Maryland Age: 46 Posts: 861 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: I'm Sad... I am really sorry. Hang in there.

12th Nov 2008, 07:45 PM	#4
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,052 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: I'm Sad... I am sorry to hear that. __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~

12th Nov 2008, 08:24 PM	#5
Nixon EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Go to Catholic School So, NO Location: Dundee, Nebraska (It's in Omaha) Age: 19 Posts: 575 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: I'm Sad... sorry __________________ "I drink to stay warm, then kill selected memories"- Conor Oberst' "Some people don't know me neither do I"

12th Nov 2008, 08:26 PM	#6
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: I'm Sad... I'm so sorry about your friend's mom. __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

12th Nov 2008, 08:38 PM	#7
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: I'm Sad... Lex

13th Nov 2008, 05:18 AM	#8
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: I'm Sad... Thanks guys! __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

13th Nov 2008, 09:57 AM	#9
Kimi EC's Biggest Horndog Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Japan Age: 22 Posts: 3,017 Join Date: Feb 2007	Re: I'm Sad... I'm so sorry to hear that __________________ AMAZINGLY, I GET HOTTER WITH MY CLOTHES OFF

13th Nov 2008, 10:19 AM	#10
george678 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male ♂ Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England Posts: 1,071 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: I'm Sad... Ah Man how Bad just keep up good Sprits. I am sure friday will be sad for him keep him happy. __________________ George

13th Nov 2008, 02:48 PM	#11
tm74 Hug Whore Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: no immediate family - pretty much everyone else Location: Wales, UK Age: 38 Posts: 415 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: I'm Sad... All I can say is this - now is the time your friend will want his friends around him. __________________ "Free your secrets to free yourself"

13th Nov 2008, 02:59 PM	#12
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: I'm Sad... I just got back from the wake. My friend and his family were doing good. His dad was real strong. I think they feel comforted by the fact she is not suffering anymore. I only stayed for a few because there was a constant line of people and I did not want think he had to leave the line to talk to me. He said that we would talk when the craziness stopped. I told him that I was there for him because he has been there for me in the past. I also told him that I would be at the funeral tomorrow. I feel better now. Thanks for your hugs! __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

13th Nov 2008, 03:05 PM	#13
jayden hey snowy Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Sydney bondi beach Age: 21 Posts: 1,055 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: I'm Sad... its bad news , what does copd mean??? my dad and mum somke i wish they will stop !!! __________________ i like surfing and horse racing

13th Nov 2008, 03:55 PM	#15
jayden hey snowy Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Sydney bondi beach Age: 21 Posts: 1,055 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: I'm Sad... thanks em68. i under stand it now. i wish my parents would stop also smoking . i dont ever want to start it __________________ i like surfing and horse racing

14th Nov 2008, 02:48 PM	#16
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: I'm Sad... I just got back from my friend's mom's funeral. It was a very moving service. At the end my friend's brother and sister read a letter to their mom. It was funny and moving. After that I went the the grave site then to the home for a get together. I was able to talk to my friend and his brothers and sister. It was nice! We reminisced about the great times we had growing up. We both said that we will always be there for each other. This week even though it was sad, I had a lot of time to think and realize that life is to short.I know it is but it really hit home and I do not want to hide my true self anymore. I am so ready to come out to my friends and family. I plan to come out to my friend the next time we see each other and my family after the holidays. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

15th Nov 2008, 03:17 AM	#17
george678 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male ♂ Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England Posts: 1,071 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: I'm Sad... Cool I think you should move on and tell them! __________________ George