Can anyone explain this?

[gaydog]

I am in my 30's. Ever since I hit puberty, I have constantly had gay fantasies. I get turned on reading gay porn or watching it. Much more than straight porn.
However, I am also married. When I look at people, I am usually only attracted to women.
My wife turns me on, but during sex, I usually fantasize about guys.
It has confused me for a long time. Anyone have an answer for this?

Well are you attracted to men emotionally?

[Lexington]

Welcome to EC!

Hard to figure out your three decades of life in a couple of sentences, but an obvious possibility is that you're bisexual - attracted to both sexes. You no doubt are attracted to your wife, and enjoy having sex with her. But since you haven't had sex with a guy (right?), this fantasy is stronger and more exciting. After all, we tend to fantasize about thing we DON'T have. We don't daydream about having the job we already have, or driving the car we already own. We daydream about the stuff we DON'T have. So you may simply be fantasizing about having sex with guys, and finding that more interesting that fantansizing about women (since you at least do get that).

Lex