Being ignored

I've never seen your posts before! I'll have to keep a lookout for them

But I can understand that feeling. Sometimes for me I have to look at the situation and realize I'm either A.) not actually taking part, so why would i be noticed anyway or B.) I'm expecting too much of people or being really attention seeking.

The feeling sucks, but this site is a good place for support, all in all.

 

Why would people here ignore you? I dont see any reason why should people ignore, at all. If they are ignoring you, just ignore them too. Youre too precious to waste your time on them.


Anyways, I always feel ignored. Here on EC, inside our home, and at the uni. To be honest, I am greatly affected by it and I am still learning to shrug the feeling off.

 

I don't feel ignored, neither do I tend to ignore others.
I do refrain from making friends somewhat as, without seeming shallow, I'm never going to meet another member in real life so I don't feel as attached as my actual friends.

 

no you are not too crazy! I've seen your posts a few times and the reasons why I did not respond were that I did not really what advice to give to you.

I've posted a few times & people did not respond.. i my case I think it was because my those posts were too long/complex/specific and those who read them probably did not know how to respond...I did not think that ppl were ignoring me though.

Its just that some situations are easier to offer advice on, and some not- I can relate to some of the feelings you are having, but I have not figured them out completely for myself yet.

 

Hey sweetie, I'm sorry you feel ignored.

I have looked at some of your posts, and I worry sometimes that you're not really able to have fun with your sexuality. It seems like you've been actively searching for men not do date necessarily but to be attracted to. I almost wonder if might feel validated by being attracted to men. But you don't have to be. It's okay to be attracted to women too.

I hope you won't feel slighted, because I want to help , but I should also mention that HOCD is a fairly controversial diagnosis in the psychological community. Not a lot of people are convinced about it from a clinical perspective.

~ Adrienne

 

Well, how about a crazy proposal? Write in this thread what problems etc. you might have had that you felt people ignored? Maybe all of us can do it - real-time support?
Assuming I'm not being ignored and there is at least some enthusiasm for this idea, maybe I can go first? Because I kind of just felt like I was being slightly ignored, too.

Okay, so I posted a thread under "Support - Gender identity and expression", called "How to deal with everyday dysphoria?", and well, that's about the content of my post - how to process dysphoria when being mislabelled etc.
And don't get me wrong! People were really nice and supportive, it's just I waited forever for a reply and then I wrote back, saying I couldn't really control my feelings all that well sometimes, and again I've been waiting for (long time in cyberspace) for a reply.
Maybe someone here has some advice on what I could do?
And as I said, I am very grateful to those who did answer, you were very kind!
PS. Don't forget to post what's on your heart that you felt maybe was ignored, sporn and everyone else.
Hugz (*hug*)

 

There's many reasons why you may be "ignored":

- Certain areas of the forum are not as active.
- Some topics are not as much of a draw as others.
- Folks may not know what to say, or have nothing substantial to provide.
- Threads get lost under other ones, especially all of the "WHAT SEXUALITY AM I?" ones.
- Some folks get "tired" of answering the same topics/questions, with similar answers.
- The time of the day determines a lot, too. Time Zones and employment/school are a bitch.
- Somebody may have said what another would have, so simply repeating something isn't viable for them.
- Some folks feel shy or insecure, even if they have something to provide, so they refrain from doing so.
- The Staff has to manage the site, the chat room, coding, enforce rules and regulations, AND provide input and solutions. That is exhausting, I'm sure.

Also, don't think you're "too crazy". I'm quite confident, if you compared the lot of us, we'd all be somewhere on the crazy spectrum; some of us may even surpass you. <3

 

To be honest, this is the first time I've "seen" you on here.

What threads do you want responses on?

If you aren't getting any responses, it doesn't mean people don't care, they probably just don't know what to say to your questions or situation.

There are plenty of big mouths on here, including me, who love to give their advice and suggestions.