Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it?

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

Nope...I like guys, and guys only...It's impossible to imagine myself with a girlfriend...

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

I lean toward the "no"
Most straight girls I know have a clear expectation on how a guy should act. Don't think I can ever live up to their standards.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

I said yes, because I'm bisexual and would be fine with dating any gender. While I have a slight preference for women, I'd be willing to try dating a male since I'm also attracted to them.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

No. I can't imagine it, I don't look at guys this way...

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

Absolutely not. Ever. Even if I was sexually attracted to men, my answer stays the same. Reason being is because I hate straight culture.

I do not fit into stereotypical gender roles that most men would be expecting and as I also said, I hate the standard of straight sex (PIV is real sex and everything else is 'foreplay/fooling around' BS). I hate being penetrated by anything, even a finger, how could a guy ever understand this and still realize we could have sex by my standards? I've never met a straight person who had an open-minded definition of sex, but almost every girl I was interested in assured me that we can still have real sex without my vagina being used and I do not have to do such a thing if I don't like it. A straight guy would force me into it, or force me into therapy.

Plus penises gross me out and semen especially grosses me out; so I would have to request that no penises or semen must ever touch me in the relationship and I find this unrealistic.

I would also probably hate the idea that straight culture would pressure me into having babies, which is something that freaks me out (I am insanely phobic of pregnancy, considering the fact I am also severely autistic with sensory integration; pregnancy would trigger the latter to a high degree and my child would also be born with the issues I do not want to pass on).

I feel that if I did date a man, what would happen (even if I were sexually attracted) is I would end up resenting him and possibly being unintentionally abusive to him throughout the entire relationship. I would slam his culture and blame him for it. This is also a reason why I don't want to date/have sex with straight women and I am disgusted if they try to make a move on me.

So no, even with sexual attraction I can see no good ever coming of this.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

Yes, I think I could, if it were the right guy. I've had crushes on guys before, the only thing missing was the sexual attraction, really. Since most of my interests are pretty nerdy I think I could get on pretty well with a nerdy guy. But then, one of the thoughts that's lead me to realize I'm gay is "Why can't I just have a roommate relationship with a guy?" :lol: Unless he were asexual I doubt most guys would go for that, though.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

Well ofcourse yes, if you are attracted to that person... Isn't the whole point of LGBT to be attracted to whoever you want? If you like someone go for it, don't try to fit some label.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

I'm pansexual and in a "straight" relationship, I really like the person I'm with and in time I may love them.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

It is true that not every straight couple follows stereotypes, but every straight person in existence defines sex the same way, which to me is a dealbreaker (and something I have a lot of passionate hatred against). I have never met a straight person for example, that said they were not a virgin after a blowjob, but I have met plenty gay men and bi women who state this fact. It may not be every person in the gay community that believes this, but at least you can find them within gay culture; in straight culture it is next to 0%.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

I think so, yeah. As long as the woman was the dominant one. :lol:

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

I like the "traditional" things about girls - communication, cuddling, sharing feelings, that type of thing. When I was younger, I even thought I might be bi. And, as I am sure most gay guys have experienced at one time or another, I have had a girl or two who thought they could "straighten me out." :bang: But I can not imagine ever thinking a vagina is as hot and exciting as a spectacular cock... (!)(!)(!)

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

Idk.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

Maybe if the guy is cool and doesn't force me to be he submissive one. I also would want to make sure he doesn't fetishize my sexual orientation. I'm extremely turned off by straight guys who claim to prefer dating bi girls.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

It's kinda hard to know what "your sexuality allows for it" means.

I am a Kinsey 4...attracted to both men and women, but with a distinct preference for women. I have often said that I could never see myself living with a guy...there are too many benefits to living with a woman, totally apart from sex. So one might say "oh, yeah, then your sexuality allows for living with a guy, but you still wouldn't...question answered right?"

BUT I have to say that if I was *straight*, I would almost certainly think about the tradeoffs quite differently...living with a woman with *no* sexual relationship, and just forever dating men for sex...that doesn't sound appealing either. So in that case, I think I would pretty much have to say yes, I would live with a man, warts and all.

But doesn't that mean that a *straight* sexuality *would* allow for me living with a man, where my Kinsey 4 sexuality does not?

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

i dont think so i like girls and all i just dont see us married ! i mean come on i have this bitching season with every girl and i always see myself fighting with them on guys and makeup and what color goes with that the only thing we can agree on is shopping sleep parties and watching glee though even when i get married to a guy i still want a girlfriend (as a friend) who can be my BFF and always there for me idk maybe cause i grow up with girls i always need a feminine touch in my life
but i like being with a guy it gives me this feeling of being safe and loved and idk something about men turn me on sometimes that sexy tone that hot flirty voice and hell i get turned on by both men who shake their hips and those who walk wanting to be one of the dudes i just want to get married to a man adopt a bunch of kids and live this lovely GAY life i always dream of

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

My orientation isn't just about sexual attraction. For me, it's also about romantic and emotional attraction, which is something I only feel for girls. So, if only my sexual attraction changed, no, I still wouldn't be happy in a relationship with a guy.

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

Straight people can be in a happy relationship and bisexuals/pansexuals can also be in a straight relationship, so I don't see why I couldn't be in a happy relationship if I were straight. I don't understand why this is even a question...

 

Re: Could you be happy in a straight relationship, if your orientation allowed for it

I'm not exactly the demographic you're asking for (I'm bisexual), but I wanted to say two things:

One, I could deal with either sex, provided they weren't assholes. And two, I find some of the generalizations being mentioned here, kind of amusing. You find assholes in every sexuality, and you find those who embrace and enforce roles too, gay, straight, or between.