Does anyone else pretend to be asexual?

Labelling yourself as whatever you want is really good and considering you know how you want to be treated, using that label is probably very beneficial.
Honestly, I do not know anyone who calls themselves Asexual but isn't (I don't know them personally)
I recently read an article on transgender teens using the blanket term of Asexuality to describe that they do not want to have sex until they have experienced more operations, hormones etc.
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-Bonnie<3

 

I used to tell people I was asexual, because I clearly wasn't into guys, and I didn't want to admit that I was gay. Now, I'm out to friends, and I just pretend to be straight in front of people I don't want to come out to.

 

No, but I pretend to be Heterosexual to people that don't know that I'm as Gay.as the next queen...

 

I didn't pretend to be asexual; I actually was. Or am. It's still a huge mess in my mind.

 

I used to think I might be asexual because I didn't have sex with people, but I think if I could get comfortable enough with my body and had a partner who perceived me as a girl and would have sex with me, I'd want to do it. Lately I've been dreaming about it a lot, so it's safe to say I want this.

 

Yes for years I told people I was asexual. I'm totally gay, I'm attracted to men but I feel like I was born with a low sex drive.

 

Hmm I would suspect asexual is just as hard to explain to the average person as anything else you may be.

 

At my old school, I was known for being immature. Since around 6-7th grade, people at my very gossipy school would gossip about how I was a lesbian. I hadn't come out but they just assumed. I often tried pretend that I was so immature that I was unaware of what sexual attraction even was. It wasn't until 8th grade that someone asked me about my sexuality, and I said I was straight. From then on at that school, I pretended to be straight, so much that rumors were spread that I had a huge crush on a guy. So much for avoiding gossip.

 

It's easier and less problematic to tell my friends that I'm an asexual than that I'm on the LGBT spectrum. I'm still not comfortable with admitting that to them.

 

Don't need to pretend to be what you already are.

Btw(and this isn't jumping on anyone, because it can be an understandable thing to do), why does this seem eerily similar to the whole unintentional 'bi erasure' thing? :\

 

Once, a couple years ago, my mom flat-out asked me if I was a lesbian. I wasn't ready to talk about it at that point, and I'm uncomfortable talking about sexuality at all with my parents in the first place, so I told her (in broad an indefinite terms) I had never felt attracted to anybody and that I thought I might-could-possibly-maybe be asexual. Oddly, that seemed to upset her more than the idea that I might be gay, which I wasn't expecting.

More recently, I let a sad, drunken friend of mine crash in my room. I'd known for a while that he liked me, and when he drunkenly asked about the chances of us getting together, I told him that I had never felt attracted to anybody. I didn't want to have to deal with what ever his reaction might be otherwise, and coming out to someone while their mental faculties are incapacitated didn't seem like the greatest idea. His response was something in the vein of "you'll find someone eventually," which I did find mildly offensive.

But really, coming out as anything other than what you are is unhealthy in the long run. It feeds the idea that some people in the LGBT community "have it easier" than others, and can perpetuate the idea that some orientations are less viable or "real" than others once your true orientation is revealed.

 

I always said I was asexual and that was to pretty much hide the fact I was really a gay guy.

 

I pretty much already am asexual. I'm not lying when I say I'm not attracted to other people (not sexually, at least). So it wouldn't be too hard for me to brush off someone hitting on me...

 

I did for a while. It as a mix of "I don't want to admit that I like boys", "I have already told x amount of people, so I can't stop now" and "I don't feel comfortable with my body anyways, so I don't want that right now."

 

Kind of. I told myself I was asexual, and at least two friends. I used ot always imply that. When people discussed relationships/sex, I would always chip in with a "I don't understand sex" or "I'm just not interested in sex." While this is still not completely untrue for me today, in truth, I was just avoiding the fact that I'm gay, albeit with a low sex drive, but still extremely gay. lol