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Lesbians and Bisexual Girls

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by MysteriousMadam, Apr 17, 2015.

  1. MysteriousMadam

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    Hey hey hey :slight_smile: happy Friday!!!
    So I just remembered a video I watched recently about lesbians and their opinions on bisexual girls. I remember how they thought that a bisexual girl was "still a closet lesbian" and one said that she wouldn't "date a girl who just had a dick in her mouth last week". It was to show the misconceptions about bisexuality and biphobia within the LGBTQ+ community.
    Being a bisexual female, when I initally watched it, I will admit, I was hurt. But thinking about it throughout the day, I feel like I can understand where they were coming from. All the lesbians in the video said that they would prefer another lesbian. I try to be as open as possible but honestly I would prefer other bisexual people, or people who aren't just gay or straight because I want someone to understand the multiple attractions. I remember talking to trans* people a while back on a thread I made saying how I wasn't attracted to trans* people and I felt bad about it, and I was told that because I didn't know a lot of trans* people, which I had mentioned originally, it was explainable why I wasn't attracted. I wonder if it's like that with bi (just going to use bi now, if that bothers anyone tell me) girls and lesbians. I think it would be easier to date/be with someone who's the same orientation as you, I get that and now, also because I see it in myself, I'm down with that.
    A bit off topic but not really...there's some lesbians at my school. I used to be friends with one who's in my grade but I stopped talking to her because she would make me feel like her back-up friend. Last year, had a crush on a really homophobic girl who rejected her, I still feel really bad for her about that. Most of the lesbians are very tomboyish, they get picked on for "following the stereotype" (I always roll my eyes at this...I think they're fine the way they are). I don't think any of them are that into me, I probably come off as straight to them. I personally like really girly girls like myself, but I've noticed that I'm starting to like the tomboys too. There's this one girl who I like named Gina in my grade but she's straight, and she's kind of annoying and full of herself. She knows I'm bi but I don't think she really believes it. There's another girl named Taylor, but I don't know her enough and I just like her blonde hair...(I know, I'm desperate...) To be honest, I think sex with a girl would be much more fun. Yeah, you can laugh at my raging teenage hormones...but really, I always imagine myself in a relationship with a girl and we're just a wonderful couple in my mind. It's a best friend taken to a more genuine, understanding level almost. I've never been in a relationship, straight or lesbian, but that's how I always see it. But I always imagine being in relationships, with guys too. Just my being weird...
    So yeah, I'll stop running my mouth. So...what's you view on the whole thing? Would you date a bi girl or a lesbian? Do you have preferences? Any other opinions?
    Thanks everyone :grin: love ya all~
     
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    Well I'm a guy but I've never understood people who dislike bisexuals. You love/like them and they presumably feel the same. Who cares that they look at both genders? I honestly think being bi must be the most awesome thing due to the large range of possibilities!
     
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    Yes, some lesbians are incredibly biphobic just like some bisexuals are incredibly lesbophobic [have you seen the stuff bi tumblr writes about lesbians...]

    And I think I'd kind of prefer dating a lesbian [similar reason as yours, I'd want someone to understand you can be attracted to only one gender] but as long as she's not a lesbophobe I wouldn't mind dating a bi girl either.
     
  4. Fallingdown7

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    Like acciocarrie said, both sides are pretty bad in regards to this kind of hate. Plenty of biphobia and lesbophobia on either side.

    But I also think that lesbians who wouldn't date bi girls, probably wouldn't date lesbians that weren't "gold star" (ugh) either.

    As for my opinion, what I look for in a partner has specific traits that aren't really relevant to sexuality. There are lesbians who piss me off and bi girls who follow my desires in a relationship. That's all that matters to me.
     
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    Shouldn't you just date the person because of who they are, and not on the basis of whether they're bi/lesbian?
     
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    I don't care what a girl's orientation is. As long as we are into each other, that's all that matters.
     
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    Hey...

    If lesbians don't want the bisexual girls, that's fine by me. I'll take them.

    And thank you, ladies, for making my job easier.

    LOL.
     
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    Thanks for understanding my line of reasoning! And the moment you mentioned tumblr, I threw up inside. To be honest, I haven't heard of lesbophobia but I just imagine what people would say. Is it misogynistic stuff or stereotypes?...I'd rather not look it up.

    ---------- Post added 17th Apr 2015 at 07:28 PM ----------

    I volunteer as tribute...just to let you know :wink:
    Ah I think I'm so funny...sorry

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    So much open-mindedness here...you ladies are awesome (!)
     
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    I'm fine dating bi girls, but I would prefer to date a gay girl. Mainly because I'm scared bi girls won't be as into me.
     
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    I'm bi. Thankfully, in the real-life LGBT group I joined, I've never encountered any biphobia. At the moment I am involved with a lesbian girl whom I'm seriously into, and she doesn't seem to mind. To be honest, I don't care what my partner's oriemtation is so long as I'm included in it, and I don't really understand other views (sorry).
     
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    Wow I had completely forgotten about the "gold star" thing. How incredibly obnoxious. Thankfully I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that vapid.
     
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    I hate biphobia, personally I don't care if a girl is bisexual, if I like her and she likes me that's all that matters.
     
  13. I don't understand biphobia. My first love didn't even use labels, which I completely respected and understood. As long as they like you, what does it matter who else they have the potential to like?
     
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    Well yeah it's biphobic to claim that they are "lesbians in the making"...so I see your point.
    Though, given a choice I will not date bisexual girl for completely different reasons and not because they are "gays in the making".
     
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    I don't mind either. I almost got into a thing with a lesbian a while back, so either way I'm cool. Going out with a bi girl would be cool though as we understand each other in terms of liking two genders, but I'm fine either way. I don't care if you're lesbian, bi, or pan. Even with guys. The guy I'm with now is bi also. Bottom line: whether gay, straight, bi, or pan, if we connect and like each other, who the hell cares?
     
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    I remember that video... I just didn't understand it and it was kind of hurtful... I guess everyone has their preferences but when they were saying stuff like Oh they're all greedy and confused and such, I was like Why? I'm afraid to tell people I'm pan because it seems that the majority of people either don't believe that is possible or have these crazy misconceptions T.T I heard that it was really a thing about misogyny because people think bi/pan girls secretly want the d (so they're really straight) and bi/pan guys ALSO secretly want the d (so they're really gay) smdh
     
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    i don't know if any of you guys have seen this chat thingy where the one lesbian said it wasn't 'cause she hated bisexual but because of her insecurities she felt she couldn't offer her,then, bi girlfriend what guys could offer her and was always worried that her girl friend would leave her for a guy. sad really. judging her situation i could understand her (though she may want to work on her insecurities) and it wasn't biphobia that she had i would say.
     
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    Pure insecurity on the lesbians' part if they truly won't date a bi or pan girl. Seriously? grow up and realize that anyone can leave you for anyone. I hate people who are like this.
     
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    Dear lord, I saw that.

    Needless to say, I hated every second of it. The best part is, one of the most offensive people on the video made a response, apologising for what she said, which she then proceeded to take back.
     
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    I haven't ever dated anyone yet, or even even known someone that wasn't straight that wasn't my friend. But if I was dating or met someone lesbian or bi I think I would be fine with it. As long as we like each other and "are on the same page" it would be fine what really matters is our feelings for each other more then any thing else.