Bi sexual but maybe... gay - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Larry Myster · 20th Nov 2008, 07:03 PM

Hi, its been like 8 months since i have not post... well anyway, I had been so thining hard in that many months, I have finally just saif I am bi sexual, however, out of a range of 90/10 of liking its men/women. So I like men ALOT more now. Its pretty cool I might say.

Larry Myster · 20th Nov 2008, 07:34 PM

So whats happeninin yall?

starfish · 20th Nov 2008, 08:42 PM

Cool, glad you are getting it figured out.

So was a certain event that was the turning point or something you just worked out over time?

Steam Giant · 21st Nov 2008, 04:49 AM

It's great to hear that you're understanding yourself more! ^^ It really is a long and drawn out process, to truly understand yourself, and it sounds like you're beginning to take some major steps!

I've learned that a lot of people who identify as gay will admit to being 90/10 with the same sex/opposite sex as well, and that being 100% attracted to the same gender is a lot more rare than most would have you think.

Really, all that matters is how you best identify with yourself. If you think of yourself as gay, then you're gay. If you're more comfortable with calling yourself bisexual, then call yourself bisexual. Even if you still have some feelings for women in a 90/10 way, as you'd said, there's really no problem with referring to yourself as gay, if that's how you feel about yourself.

Larry Myster · 21st Nov 2008, 04:50 PM

First off, i want to thank Steam Giant for your greate speech, I loved it, and understood well. and thats what I am going for, I believe though, I want to stay bi, just for the family but, I'll upgrade to gay on this. See I have to live with my dad for like another years, and he doese not like gay people at all! he is not cathlic or anything, just from the day where homosexual "wasnt free."

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Originally Posted by starfish

Cool, glad you are getting it figured out.

So was a certain event that was the turning point or something you just worked out over time?

But anywho, starfish,

The point I turned to be gay was like a month ago acctually! I just decided with my "online BF," he is a sweet guy from United Kingdom.

So yeah.. thats where I stand? Anyone else in same situation?

Derek the Wolf · 21st Nov 2008, 05:52 PM

Welcome back, and I'm glad to see you've "figured it out."

Larry Myster · 21st Nov 2008, 05:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by derek

Welcome back, and I'm glad to see you've "figured it out."

Thank you!

20th Nov 2008, 07:03 PM	#1
Larry Myster EC 4 Life! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Extreamly Gayrific Out Status: Some people Location: Coos Bay, OR Age: 21 Posts: 153 Join Date: Jan 2008	Bi sexual but maybe... gay Hi, its been like 8 months since i have not post... well anyway, I had been so thining hard in that many months, I have finally just saif I am bi sexual, however, out of a range of 90/10 of liking its men/women. So I like men ALOT more now. Its pretty cool I might say. __________________ Yep its me.

20th Nov 2008, 07:34 PM	#2
Larry Myster EC 4 Life! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Extreamly Gayrific Out Status: Some people Location: Coos Bay, OR Age: 21 Posts: 153 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Bi sexual but maybe... gay So whats happeninin yall? __________________ Yep its me.

20th Nov 2008, 08:42 PM	#3
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Bi sexual but maybe... gay Cool, glad you are getting it figured out. So was a certain event that was the turning point or something you just worked out over time?

21st Nov 2008, 04:49 AM	#4
Steam Giant EC Addict Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Interested in men Out Status: As bi: out to everyone; As trans: 2 Location: Northeastern Pennsylvania, USA Age: 29 Posts: 2,044 Join Date: Apr 2007	Re: Bi sexual but maybe... gay It's great to hear that you're understanding yourself more! ^^ It really is a long and drawn out process, to truly understand yourself, and it sounds like you're beginning to take some major steps! I've learned that a lot of people who identify as gay will admit to being 90/10 with the same sex/opposite sex as well, and that being 100% attracted to the same gender is a lot more rare than most would have you think. Really, all that matters is how you best identify with yourself. If you think of yourself as gay, then you're gay. If you're more comfortable with calling yourself bisexual, then call yourself bisexual. Even if you still have some feelings for women in a 90/10 way, as you'd said, there's really no problem with referring to yourself as gay, if that's how you feel about yourself. __________________ Started Estrogen and Spironolactone on May 2, 2011

21st Nov 2008, 05:52 PM	#6
Derek the Wolf Furry Overlord Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Majority Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 1,325 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Bi sexual but maybe... gay Welcome back, and I'm glad to see you've "figured it out." __________________

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