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is sexuality a choice?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by stocking, Apr 25, 2015.

  1. stocking

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    Do gays, lesbians and bisexuals choose their sexuality?
     
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    No, your sexual attraction is not a choice -- and this goes beyond the nature vs nurture debate. Having sex with anyone is a choice, however.
     
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    No. I feel like you already know that.
     
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    No it's not. I agree with Austin, regardless of how It's caused doesn't factor into this. Even if sexuality was 100% caused by the environment, so are a lot of other things we don't choose like our favorite colors and forms of entertainment. And our personality. So It's really silly.
     
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    No.

    I'm kinda confused about this thread though?
     
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    Probably not.

    Even if we did, it's our business only, and we would have the right to make that choice. I don't think that's the case, though.
     
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    You're right I do but I want to know what you guys think
     
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    This.
     
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    Absolutely not a choice. Why would anyone (or, well, most people) choose to be gay given all the sh*t that gay people put up with - especially if you live a country where it's legal to murder, harm, fire, and subjugate gay people? There are simply way too many studies which confirm homosexuality is not a choice - from studies of twins, to brain scans, to studies of African tribes which engage in homosexual per-pubsescent activities, and then only 10% wind up gay as adults.

    There are many cultures which oppress any kind of homosexual culture and activities, yet they still have gay people. Why? Because it's innate and basically immutable.
     
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    No, it is definitely not a choice, but you can choose to act on it or not. In the end it's still better to be true to yourself than to pretend who you're not.
     
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    I find it funny that this is somehow the "Debate of the Century" about LGBT people: Is it a choice or not?! We must find out!

    No, I didn't choose my sexuality. If you say "sexuality is a choice", you are wrong, because I didn't choose it. If there's one exception, the blanket statement is false. And judging by the fact that almost every single LGBT person says they didn't choose it, it's not. Although for conservatives, our own testimony isn't enough.

    I agree with what other people are saying, however, it being a choice doesn't suddenly make it "illegitimate". I don't have a need to prove to halfwits that I didn't choose my sexuality.
     
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    Sexual attraction appears to be something that's quite constant in a person's life. In other words that's not a choice.

    Acting on those attractions and going against the current is a fairly recent development in the history of the "Western civilization". I do believe that is a choice dictated by our current society. Just less than hundred years ago people felt strong obligation toward the country, family, etc. Nowadays, it's the complete opposite. One is almost considered a failure if they don't follow their dreams and be themselves. I can imagine a Western society several hundred years in the future, where individualism has been replaced by a different philosophy focused less on the "I" and more on the "us". If something like that happens I'm pretty sure that most homosexuals will forgo our modern day gay lifestyle for something else that will be better accepted by their society (such as marrying women and having their own children).
     
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    I most certainly do not think that sexuality is a choice, it's just something that happens. Your brain just chooses to make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside for a certain gender plain and simple. Do we go around asking straight people is heterosexuality a choice? No. What I do think is a choice is whether or not you decide to act on your sexuality. Whether that's choosing to come out, date people, etc. now that's a choice.
     
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    Saying it's a choice is like saying you choose what race you are or what color eyes you have.
     
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    The only part of sexuality is choosing to act on the attraction instead of repressing it. You can not choose sexuality, if I could I wouldn't have chosen to be a lesbian.
     
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    Strange question, coming from you.

    But let's back that up a bit, shall we? Because this question could settle the whole debate. Here it is.

    Did you choose yours?
     
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    Honey, I wish it was.
     
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