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Paul_UK · 23rd Nov 2008, 01:52 PM

The question is from a film trailer but I thought it would be an interesting one to ask and chat about here...

If you could make someone love you, would you?

Beth · 23rd Nov 2008, 01:54 PM

i'd like to think they would love me of their own free will. i'd be uncomfortable knowing someone loved me because i made them, like it was a lie...

littledinosaurs · 23rd Nov 2008, 01:55 PM

I might.

Linkmaste994 · 23rd Nov 2008, 01:56 PM

I dont think so I would feel so bad for doing it.

pirateninja · 23rd Nov 2008, 01:58 PM

Probably. I once said that I would give ANYTHING for her to feel the way about me that I do about her. But of course there's the moral side to it as well, namely because she's straight and with a boyfriend, and happy with that boyfriend. And I do want her to be happy, but if she loved me, she would be happy with me.

Hmmm..... if I'm honest, I most likely would. Selfish, I know, but I honestly would give anything for her to love me.

spellbound118 · 23rd Nov 2008, 01:58 PM

When i first read that i thought of coures i would theres nothing i wouldn't do. But thinking about it, i would always know it wasn't real. So no i don't think i would. Extremely tempting though !

**EM68** · 23rd Nov 2008, 02:01 PM

No, I would want them to love me for my wonderful self,

. I want something that is real.

**Martin** · 23rd Nov 2008, 02:20 PM

I would.

23rd Nov 2008, 02:23 PM

I don't know, I would give almost anything for her to love me the way I love her but then I would probably feel bad about it, and it wouldn't seem as amazing as it should be because I would know it's not the way she truly feels.

Paul_UK · 23rd Nov 2008, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Martin

I would.

Yes, I think I probably would too.

I know it's selfish, but I don't feel the chances of someone I find attractive also finding me attractive are that high. And I really don't want to wait for too long.

I would need to choose the right person though, everything as right as it can be apart from their attraction to me. Not just used on someone who happens to be cute or whatever but that I hardly know, because it wouldn't change the rest of their personality.

biisme · 23rd Nov 2008, 02:33 PM

I don't know. If I did I'd probably just be depressed because I'll know they don't really love me.

pirateninja · 23rd Nov 2008, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Paul_UK

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martin

I would.

Yes, I think I probably would too.

I know it's selfish, but I don't feel the chances of someone I find attractive also finding me attractive are that high. And I really don't want to wait for too long.

I would need to choose the right person though, everything as right as it can be apart from their attraction to me. Not just used on someone who happens to be cute or whatever but that I hardly know, because it wouldn't change the rest of their personality.

Exactly, I mean, the girl I have in mind is probably the most amazing person I know; smart, clever, witty, caring and completely and utterly accepting. I've known her for a few years and I just know that she is the perfect person for me. I love her and would do anything for her. And yes, as selfish as it is, I would make her love me if I could. It certainly wouldn't be wasted on someone who I just think "Ooooh, boobies!".

Hendrix · 23rd Nov 2008, 02:47 PM

I have a crush on one of my good friends. I've been pushing him slightly to see me as "more than a friend" because I know that he likes me. But he broke up with his boyfriend a short while ago and still isn't over him. He cares about me enough not to bring me into that and asked me to just be a friend. I would wish that he would forget his ex boyfriend before I wished that he'd love me. But still I'd have to say that it's better just to let things happen. I think that the harder something is to obtain, the more magical it seems when it does happen. If love were just handed to you by magic it would ironically take away the magic that is love. It wouldn't be love at all

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 23rd Nov 2008, 02:51 PM

I would, and I don't think it would be selfish. In some cases people want to be in love but they're not. If you can magically make someone requite your love, and then you both are happy together, then that's good for both of you, right?

I don't have anyone specific in mind here... well, actually, maybe I do.

**Owen** · 23rd Nov 2008, 03:02 PM

Love? No. Love doesn't feel right unless it comes equally form both sides. There is a guy in my school who, as much as I wish I could make him love me, he's a good friend, and I'd hate to run that. Lust, on the other hand...

Trumpetplyer23 · 23rd Nov 2008, 03:18 PM

There have been people that I've really liked, that, well, I would have given anything for them to love me.

But, I'd rather it be genuine, sincere love. Not manufactored fake love.

musican · 23rd Nov 2008, 03:25 PM

I think that I would make someone love me, only to realize that it was a mistake. Some people seem like they would be the perfect partner, but only when you see them occasionally. When you start seeing someone more, you might realize that they have a mannerism that bugs you, but you didnt notice it before because you didnt spend so much time with them. I would feel terrible knowing that I made this person love me and I couldnt love them for whatever reason; I would have to live my life knowing that I set someone up for heartbreak by messing with their heart.

I know that it would only be sensible to make someone love me that I really know well and think would make a good boyfriend, but I'm lonely so I probably would make someone love me without thinking about how uncompatible we could be.

sdc91 · 23rd Nov 2008, 03:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paul_UK

The question is from a film trailer

If the World Were Mine? *cough*

Nope, got my boy already and I didn't need to force anything.

But if I didn't, I still wouldn't because it'd always nag me that he loves me because I made him.

**Martin** · 23rd Nov 2008, 03:46 PM

It's Were The World Mineeeeeeee

*runs away*

devushka · 23rd Nov 2008, 03:54 PM

I dunno...the straight up love thing, probably not for reasons people above have mentioned. But if I could make some one notice me/be attracted to me who I'm attracted to and then we could go from there--that would be good. there have been various times when I had crushes and would have loved to see where things could go, but the other party didn't like me like that. I think at that point, it's still at a casual level and if I could have that power to get them to say "ok, let's give it a go", then we could see where it went. I think serious love, on the other hand, is something I'd much rather prefer to be more mutual.

23rd Nov 2008, 01:52 PM	#1
Paul_UK Former Empty Closets Admin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bournemouth, UK Age: 47 Posts: 13,155 Join Date: Nov 2004	If you could make someone love you, would you? The question is from a film trailer but I thought it would be an interesting one to ask and chat about here... If you could make someone love you, would you? __________________ Paul

23rd Nov 2008, 01:54 PM	#2
Beth EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Everyone but extended family Age: 21 Posts: 281 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? i'd like to think they would love me of their own free will. i'd be uncomfortable knowing someone loved me because i made them, like it was a lie...

23rd Nov 2008, 01:55 PM	#3
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I might. __________________ Âllo Là

23rd Nov 2008, 01:56 PM	#4
Linkmaste994 Soccer Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian/Bi Out Status: Pretty out, if anyone asks I just answer :) Location: Ontario Age: 20 Posts: 167 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I dont think so I would feel so bad for doing it. __________________ Some were born great. Some achieve greatness. And some have greatness thrust upon them. -William Shakespere Share a smile with someone, I did!

23rd Nov 2008, 01:58 PM	#5
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? Probably. I once said that I would give ANYTHING for her to feel the way about me that I do about her. But of course there's the moral side to it as well, namely because she's straight and with a boyfriend, and happy with that boyfriend. And I do want her to be happy, but if she loved me, she would be happy with me. Hmmm..... if I'm honest, I most likely would. Selfish, I know, but I honestly would give anything for her to love me. __________________ Holly the Pirateninja Ars Longa, Vita Brevis.

23rd Nov 2008, 01:58 PM	#6
spellbound118 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England Age: 20 Posts: 55 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? When i first read that i thought of coures i would theres nothing i wouldn't do. But thinking about it, i would always know it wasn't real. So no i don't think i would. Extremely tempting though ! __________________ If you don't try you fail by default - JKR Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open - Dumbledore GOF.

23rd Nov 2008, 02:01 PM	#7
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? No, I would want them to love me for my wonderful self, . I want something that is real. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

23rd Nov 2008, 02:20 PM	#8
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,039 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I would.

23rd Nov 2008, 02:23 PM	#9
Hidden Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I don't know, I would give almost anything for her to love me the way I love her but then I would probably feel bad about it, and it wouldn't seem as amazing as it should be because I would know it's not the way she truly feels.

23rd Nov 2008, 02:33 PM	#11
biisme Call me Katie Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Ask me and I'll tell you. Location: Lincoln, Rhode Island Age: 20 Posts: 8,119 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I don't know. If I did I'd probably just be depressed because I'll know they don't really love me. __________________ From BIG problems to little problems, from broken hearts to broken shoelaces, I really do care. Feel free to PM me anytime about anything. I want to know.

23rd Nov 2008, 02:47 PM	#13
Hendrix Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: Raliegh, North Carolina Age: 24 Posts: 78 Join Date: Jun 2007	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I have a crush on one of my good friends. I've been pushing him slightly to see me as "more than a friend" because I know that he likes me. But he broke up with his boyfriend a short while ago and still isn't over him. He cares about me enough not to bring me into that and asked me to just be a friend. I would wish that he would forget his ex boyfriend before I wished that he'd love me. But still I'd have to say that it's better just to let things happen. I think that the harder something is to obtain, the more magical it seems when it does happen. If love were just handed to you by magic it would ironically take away the magic that is love. It wouldn't be love at all

23rd Nov 2008, 02:51 PM	#14
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I would, and I don't think it would be selfish. In some cases people want to be in love but they're not. If you can magically make someone requite your love, and then you both are happy together, then that's good for both of you, right? I don't have anyone specific in mind here... well, actually, maybe I do. __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

23rd Nov 2008, 03:02 PM	#15
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,869 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? Love? No. Love doesn't feel right unless it comes equally form both sides. There is a guy in my school who, as much as I wish I could make him love me, he's a good friend, and I'd hate to run that. Lust, on the other hand... __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

23rd Nov 2008, 03:25 PM	#17
musican EC's Resident DJ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: "I wanna kiss a boy" Out Status: family and facebook Location: (Not the city), New York Age: 20 Posts: 3,832 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I think that I would make someone love me, only to realize that it was a mistake. Some people seem like they would be the perfect partner, but only when you see them occasionally. When you start seeing someone more, you might realize that they have a mannerism that bugs you, but you didnt notice it before because you didnt spend so much time with them. I would feel terrible knowing that I made this person love me and I couldnt love them for whatever reason; I would have to live my life knowing that I set someone up for heartbreak by messing with their heart. I know that it would only be sensible to make someone love me that I really know well and think would make a good boyfriend, but I'm lonely so I probably would make someone love me without thinking about how uncompatible we could be. __________________ How I miss our love when the winter surrounds me icicle teardrops.

23rd Nov 2008, 03:46 PM	#19
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,039 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? It's Were The World Mineeeeeeee runs away

23rd Nov 2008, 03:54 PM	#20
devushka Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Location: Northern VA, soon to live in CA Age: 23 Posts: 59 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: If you could make someone love you, would you? I dunno...the straight up love thing, probably not for reasons people above have mentioned. But if I could make some one notice me/be attracted to me who I'm attracted to and then we could go from there--that would be good. there have been various times when I had crushes and would have loved to see where things could go, but the other party didn't like me like that. I think at that point, it's still at a casual level and if I could have that power to get them to say "ok, let's give it a go", then we could see where it went. I think serious love, on the other hand, is something I'd much rather prefer to be more mutual.

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