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Old 23rd Nov 2008, 04:55 PM   #1
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Default So I'm an idiot...but...

I'm kinda sorta maybe back with my ex...the one who asked me to marry him then ran away...I can't explain it really. Well...maybe I can.

He's my Mr. Big.

I can't decide if I'm stupid or happy.

(I'm leaning towards happy at the moment)
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Old 23rd Nov 2008, 05:00 PM   #2
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Tell my 3 reasons why you should go back with him...I'd like to hear them .
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Old 23rd Nov 2008, 05:04 PM   #3
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1) I love him.
2) He makes me happy.
3) He loves me too.
4) We were miserable without each other.
5) We have this weird bond where even discussing Skittles it amazing.
6) I'm willing to give up everything to be with him.
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Old 23rd Nov 2008, 05:06 PM   #4
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7) He makes me laugh/smile.
8) When I think of my future it includes him (even after he left).
9) I know that I am not myself without him.
10) When I am with him I never feel that bad feeling that I have for years prior to him, and after he left. Now that he's back I stopped having that bad feeling.
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Old 23rd Nov 2008, 05:20 PM   #5
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Default Re: So I'm an idiot...but...

seems like if you can come up with 10 solid reasons why you want to be with him.. you shouldn't regret it. But, regret really isn't even the right word. If you love someone, and it messes up, don't regret it.. because it was meant to be that way. If you guys are getting back together and you're both happy, then seperating was a mistake in the first place. I wish you luck. :]

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Old 23rd Nov 2008, 05:27 PM   #6
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Thanks Ky.
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Old 24th Nov 2008, 10:31 AM   #7
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I wish you luck as well, however I dont think we can count reason 5 because skittles are pretty cool, all the colours and flavours, I made a DNA model out of skittles and toothpicks recently, that was amazingly cool lol. Seriously though if you have that many reasons then I think you at least need to give a second chance so if you are back together then good luck...(again lol)
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Old 24th Nov 2008, 12:10 PM   #9
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I wish you luck too, but did you say there were reasons why you were apprehensive to getting back together? I dont want to sound pessimistic ... sorry
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Default Re: So I'm an idiot...but...

You're not an idiot...
Everyone tells me that I'm an idiot for still being with Mike, and I think they're right a lot.

But what they don't understand is everyday I'm happy.
I may not be happy all-day everyday, but there is not a single day that I wish I wasn't with him.
(Totally stealing this from 'Sex and the City')

So I totally understand where you're coming from.
You're in love... not an idiot.
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1) I love him.
2) He makes me happy.
3) He loves me too.
4) We were miserable without each other.
5) We have this weird bond where even discussing Skittles it amazing.
6) I'm willing to give up everything to be with him.
You made the right choice
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Old 24th Nov 2008, 02:42 PM   #12
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Well he left and broke my heart before so why wouldn't he do it again?
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Old 24th Nov 2008, 03:50 PM   #13
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Well he left and broke my heart before so why wouldn't he do it again?
Because he's learned from his mistakes?

Everyone makes mistakes, and when you're in love sometimes it's scary. When people get scared, they make the wrong choices, and that's clearly what happened.

Everyone deserves a second chance.
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Stupid or happy?
WOW! I have never seen those two adjectives used to make a diffrenciation between something seing "Stupid" would not be considered a synonym for "Happy". But anyhow, the context is understandable.

Honestly, its up to you to know if you want to be hurt again yes or no. The questions you need to probebly ask urself is why on earth did he run away in the first place when he was engaed to u and what does he want from u now why he is "back"? Who is to say he won't run off again and whats the big idea with people falling for the same person who made them feel like crap months earlier.

Do what ur "heart" tells u but just be careful. "I'll give up everythign to be with him" o.0

ok sorry but thats just cheesy and a wild childish teenage fantacy. Anyone who lets u spoil ur future to please their love/sexual pleasure is a selfish asshole no matter what the case may be. But thats just my view. Appartenly u have nothing to lose.
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