No.. Not anymore, at least. I used to believe aesthetic attraction to guys were romantic attraction, and that confused me soo much :/
Yes, more so in the past. Not so much wanting to actually be someone completely, but imagining my mind in them living their life, or admiring them and adopting aspects of their style and such. With women I can actually do both and they can be very intertwined. Part of my confusion with males in the past came from the fact that I might have a similar admiration/imagining myself in that person's shoes and confused this with attraction.
Oh, yes. I think it's something many gay or trans folk can relate to. In my case, it always leads to long moments of wondering if it's one or the other...
Never wanted to be someone else... I always wanted to be with them. I can understand from trans people point but other than that that is really strange concept for me.
Ooh, I now finally understood the thread's title. I used to unintentionally mimic my crushes' interests and sometimes behavior, that at one point I had a minor identity crisis :lol: "Do I like this because I genuinely like this or is because my crush like this and that I have to like the same thing so I can impress them?" kind of thing. It was very confusing...like the way children copy their parents. In my current relatively crush-free state, I can confidently say that how I act, what I like is what I choose for myself =) I learn my lesson however: to never put anyone on a pedestal. I'd rather be me than trying to be somebody else, no matter how "awesome", "amazing", "perfect" my lovesick brains perceive.
I never have wanted to be someone except as a young boy when I had the strangest people I wanted to be. But I feel attraction and as gandalf has said, when I am crushing on someone I either copy their movements and physical actions or personality. when I am not crushing though I become my gamer/creative personality which is who I am really, but I worry too much whether a guy will like me for that, so I still change my personality or mannerisms to be more similar to the guy. I even might say you are like me, oh my God we are so similar. Or you remind me of myself. even when they are femme guys this happens. So it is more a combination of having a crush and wanting my crush to like me more.
Hmm, not really? I don't want to be someone else, but I do want to be the best me XD;;; I actually thought one of my friends was bi because she was always commenting on how hot girls were, but she told me it was just aesthetic T.T
Back when I was in school, there was this kid who seemed like he was perfect. He was tall, athletic, strong, good-looking, really nice, got straight A's, his parents were rich...sometimes I wasn't sure if I liked him because I wanted to be his boyfriend or because I wanted to be him. -_- lol
I wanted to be most of my crushes. I absorbed elements of their personalities not only to feel closer to them, but to somehow improve myself as well. Also I never felt comfortable with being a girl and would envy guys for being able to date girls without any sort of prejudice being inflicted upon them. Society presents men like they're innately strong and powerful, and I wanted that too.
i sometimes find a guy attractive but at the same time wish i had his body shape as i got a little fat over the past months and i dont feel good about myself like i used to thats why i think its a bad idea to love someone when you dont feel good about yourself so much ! many guys fall in love but have a little race between each other don't forget we are from the same sex we get jealous more because we are made from the same parts though to me i only get jealous of men bodies slim ones only though no muscles please but person wise i get jealous of women more than men the only men person wise i get jealous of are guys with femme traits who are better than me like maybe peter paige or chris colfer not exactly jealous though just wish i could be as successful as they are one day ! (which i will dont worry one day i will be the one who people wish to be)
Sometimes it takes me a while but as soon as I daydream about doing PG activities then I know it's more than admiration
I had brushes with this, once upon a time. But then I had the realization that we should never envy *anybody*...never want to be *anybody* else. Because that envy is based on the false premise that their life is better than yours. But in point of fact, we all suffer pretty horribly (yes, even straight white protestant American males). You have no clue what issues they suffer with...but you know damned well that they do, and that it's pretty bad in a way you've never had to consider. But if you allow yourself to see it (and that's a trick worth learning), you'll find that your unique life is filled with unique blessings that they'll never experience, and that you would in fact be rather sorry to have given up...you may not miss or even be aware of them until they're gone...but they are there. Since then I've pretty much just moved forward with my own life.
Yes the two can blur for me quite a lot. In the past I've dated people I'm attracted to but don't envy to try to neutralize it.
It's really easy for me, and you know why? Because nearly everybody I come into contact with I don't want to be, even those I'm attracted to.
