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what do u think

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by hoping, May 26, 2007.

  1. hoping

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    there is this guy i know and i asked him what he thought of gays and he said they we should all b gotten rid of by any means and i thought how can i come out to this guy. what do u guys think
     
  2. Hmm...it seems kind of dangerous to come out to someone like that.
     
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    Can you tell us a little more about him? How do you know him? How often do you see him? How many of your friends/family members does he know? etc
     
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    ive known him for about 3 or 4 years and all of my family and friends know about him. his mother is dating my uncle. i see him a few times a week. then he says that he wants to join the army so imagine what he will b like then
     
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    There are many different reasons why people like him dislike gays, and one of them is simply that they don't know anyone who's gay, or have never dealt with them personally. If this is the case, coming out to him might change his views. However, as was said above, it might also be dangerous to come out to someone with such radical anti-gay views. Personally, I wouldn't come out to him, but that's just me.
     
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    well the fact that he want to join the army doesn't mean anything, i'll be joining the army in a couple of years and i'm far from anti-gay :tongue:. Something to remember though is such a reaction probably means that he's probably insecure about his own sexuality and that's why he has taken such a hard line on it.
     
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    I wouldn't tell him. Why do you have to tell him? Is he a close friend of yours?
     
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    Typical homophobe. I say you should have just yawn at him and call it a day. And you don't need to say anything to him. Once ignorant, always ignorant...:thumbsup:
     
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    I have to disagree and say you should come out to him.
    I came out to a guy who I knew for about a year who I'm friends with but he's a complete bigot (he's still a disgusting racist), when I came out to him he was shocked at first but I think I made good impression on him.
    He used to think that gay people have chosen to be gay and could never understand it, now he knows a lot more about gay life and he's a bit less naive and a lot more tolerant now he knows someone gay.
    I had hoped it would stop hhs racism a bit aswell but no such luck...
     
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    i doubt it will change him on racism its different
     
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    Yeah I know, was just hoping it would have made him a bit more open minded and tolerant of other things too... I suppose you can't have it all though, a minor victory at least for wiping out bigotry!
     
  12. EthanS

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    i aitn gonna open to my m8s they all chav type, jus need to make sum normal frends
     
  13. hoping

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    he wants to join the army cause he thinks it would b fun to watch people die
     
  14. Ummm that's a slightly.....different reason for joining the army I must say. I would say to abstain from telling him, but it's up to you of course.
     
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    ummm in which case he needs some serious mental help!
     
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    Yea...... i would probably have a knife on me at all times when hes around me. This it the first time I have ever thought that coming out would be a bad idea. personaly i would get as far away from this kid as posibble.
     
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    Ok changed my mind, he's either a complete physcopath, just a prick, or trying to hide his vunerable side behind a huge macho side.
    Either way I doubt now that coming out to him would achieve anything, unless you just want some peace of mind yourself from telling him.
    Otherwise I avoid people like him like the plague
     
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    That's scary. Not only would I not come out to him, I'd sever all ties with him, unless it's unavoidable.
     
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    Yes, he sounds like the sort of person I would want nothing to do with.
     
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    its interesting to see that him and all his friends are the same. did i mention hes only 15. australia next generation of leaders huh