Do the two types of arousal feel different (bisexuals and transgenders please)

Maybe it's leaning towards dominant and submissive? When you're turned on like a man, it may be dominant while being turned on by someone else is your submissive arousal.

 

I think I'm grasping what you mean here, but correct me if this is wrong...

With men, it's pretty straight forward, for me. If I like what I like, then I like it.

Now with women, there's a more complex experience going on. I can find a woman very attractive, which is fine, but sometimes a woman can be attractive, for certain reasons, and it overlaps with dysphoria. Basically, I'm attracted to her because she is, quite frankly, radiating the very qualities I, myself, would love to.

You may be attracted to something, normally, but also attracted to something, ideally, as in they fit your ideal perception. For you, it would be fulfilling the role of something a woman-loving man would like, which is, well, a woman.

That close enough?

 

At least for me personally, I don't experience different types of arousal based on the gender/sex of who I'm attracted to. It all feels pretty same-y to me. My body tends to act the same way no matter who's involved, so long as that initial "urge" of attraction is seeded there.

 

My arousal towards women tends to be a bit stronger then my arousal towards men - as I prefer women personally; but otherwise it's not really all that different as long as the initial attraction the specific individual is there.

 

It's normally the same for me, but I find I am attracted to women more often

 

I find arousal tends to be the same towards anyone I'm attracted too, regardless of gender. That's just me though.

Happy days

 

My attractions to men tend to be more lust-based because I can feel noticeable physical arousal. When I see an attractive guy, my mind defaults to certain parts of their bodies. I can feel romantic attractions but not as strongly as with woman because with a guy sex is a means to an end.

With women, I feel physical arousal but it develops more slowly and I focus during my daydreams on kissing and foreplay the most, basically admiring HER in a more emotional/appreciative way.
These facts have often left me confused and thinking I have double standards with gender because intimacy and lust are heavily split for me lol.

 

It's kind of like this for me as well, through it's probably a little bit more reversed in my case.

 

It's fine, no need to apologize :smilewave

 

It does feel different. Arousal towards men vs women has the same foundation, the same pleasure but it has a different taste profile attached to it. Feels like it scratches a different pathway in my brain.

Even the orgasms I get with men and women are different. There's a different afterburn to it. I wish there were more research into this and I'd happily volunteer myself for it.