"Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Keegan4Strings · 25th Nov 2008, 03:58 PM

For the love of god, could people stop saying you're "admitting your gay"

ITS NOT A CRIME
ITS NOT A BAD THING
YOU AREN'T ADMITTING ANYTHING
YOUR COMING OUT

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i'm just angry right now for alot of reasons, but i figured that should be put out there
it really ticks me off

ColdSnap · 25th Nov 2008, 04:09 PM

i think you are misinterpreting the connotations of admittance here :S
In understanding who you are, there is likely to have been a stage of denial, and the english antonym of denial, is admittance. It's not suggesting anything negative. It's about the acknowledgement and acceptance of your own feelings.

admittance is personal, coming out is when you start letting people know you're ok with yourself

starfish · 25th Nov 2008, 04:33 PM

In this context admit means To grant to be real, valid, or true; acknowledge.

As someone who has lived in the closet for a long time it was a very big and important step to admit I am gay. All it means is that I acknowledged these feelings, find them to be true and no longer make excuses as to why I have them. My life changed the day I said to myself I am gay. It was an admission, not of guilt, but of who I am.

Wander · 25th Nov 2008, 04:39 PM

Admit that my gay what?

25th Nov 2008, 04:39 PM

Well, since "coming out" means absolutely nothing to a person who doesn't know the idiom, I think "admittance" is a great term.

25th Nov 2008, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Wander

Admit that my gay what?

Aaand Wander has just won this topic.

Kryz · 25th Nov 2008, 10:17 PM

I think admitting, is when you ADMITTE. NOT when you go tell them by your own will you're gay. When you ADMITE is when you tell yourself "Ok, I'm gay" OR Some one asks you "you are gay right?" if you say yes, you admitted it u_u

shakerdancee · 25th Nov 2008, 11:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Wander

Admit that my gay what?

thank you for being a you're/your nazi.

25th Nov 2008, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Kryz

I think admitting, is when you ADMITTE. NOT when you go tell them by your own will you're gay. When you ADMITE is when you tell yourself "Ok, I'm gay" OR Some one asks you "you are gay right?" if you say yes, you admitted it u_u

You don't ADMITTE anything. But you do admit things.

And now to contribute to the actual topic...

I've never thought of admitting to being gay at all similar to admitting to a crime or anything like that. It's similar to the way we admit that we actually like to watch The Suite Life of Zach and Cody, or eat peanut butter straight from the jar when we're home alone.

And that's not a good comparison either, because that insinuates that being gay is something to be ashamed of like watching kiddie Disney shows or eating gross amounts of food.

(I watch stupid Disney shows when I see them on, but I don't eat peanut butter straight from the jar)

25th Nov 2008, 11:22 PM

Wow, so please ignore my comment, it makes no sense....

Kryz · 25th Nov 2008, 11:53 PM

Haha, I LOVE how ADMITTE sounds!!!

riddlerno1 · 25th Nov 2008, 11:58 PM

sorry to be annoying but it is spelt ADMIT

Wander · 26th Nov 2008, 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by shakerdancee

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wander

Admit that my gay what?

thank you for being a you're/your nazi.

Having a dedication to grammar and spelling =/= a desire to eliminate inferior minorities, but thanks anyway.

Kryz · 26th Nov 2008, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by riddlerno1

sorry to be annoying but it is spelt ADMIT

I know....

starfish · 26th Nov 2008, 12:22 AM

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Originally Posted by ColbieMarie

... I've never thought of admitting to being gay at all similar to admitting to a crime or anything like that. It's similar to the way we admit that we actually like to watch The Suite Life of Zach and Cody, or eat peanut butter straight from the jar when we're home alone.

And that's not a good comparison either, because that insinuates that being gay is something to be ashamed of like watching kiddie Disney shows or eating gross amounts of food.

(I watch stupid Disney shows when I see them on, but I don't eat peanut butter straight from the jar)

Actually I don't think you are too far off the mark there. We all have shows we watch we don't want people to know about. Mine is South of Nowhere. We all have secret food habits too. I'm a single male, so everyone is better off if they don't know. When you are in the closet, your sexuality is another one of your traits you are hiding from the world.

So watching a drama aimed at teenagers or the fact I think drink straight out of the Brita picture, those really aren't bad things to hide about your self. Our sexuality is just another thing we hide, and it is a bad thing to hide. Ultimately we hide these things because we are ashamed of them and afraid of how others will react. When we admit to our sexuality we start down the path of no longer being ashamed of it and start the journey of becoming a whole person.

shakerdancee · 26th Nov 2008, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Wander

Having a dedication to grammar and spelling =/= a desire to eliminate inferior minorities

are you sure about that?

26th Nov 2008, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Wander

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Originally Posted by shakerdancee

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Originally Posted by Wander

Admit that my gay what?

thank you for being a you're/your nazi.

Having a dedication to grammar and spelling =/= a desire to eliminate inferior minorities, but thanks anyway.

There's also a difference between being serious and being a jackass...

Bunny · 26th Nov 2008, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Wander

Admit that my gay what?

...Awesome. 8D

25th Nov 2008, 03:58 PM	#1
Keegan4Strings fdfnmiodsnmafiodsmafda Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Friends Posts: 15 Join Date: Oct 2008	"Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) For the love of god, could people stop saying you're "admitting your gay" ITS NOT A CRIME ITS NOT A BAD THING YOU AREN'T ADMITTING ANYTHING YOUR COMING OUT fjasfiodsnmaovnciodsnafiodsnaofdiosna i'm just angry right now for alot of reasons, but i figured that should be put out there it really ticks me off

25th Nov 2008, 04:09 PM	#2
ColdSnap The easily corrupted ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boy Botherer Out Status: Out to everyone Location: C-diff - Wales Age: 22 Posts: 343 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: "Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) i think you are misinterpreting the connotations of admittance here :S In understanding who you are, there is likely to have been a stage of denial, and the english antonym of denial, is admittance. It's not suggesting anything negative. It's about the acknowledgement and acceptance of your own feelings. admittance is personal, coming out is when you start letting people know you're ok with yourself

25th Nov 2008, 04:33 PM	#3
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: "Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) In this context admit means To grant to be real, valid, or true; acknowledge. As someone who has lived in the closet for a long time it was a very big and important step to admit I am gay. All it means is that I acknowledged these feelings, find them to be true and no longer make excuses as to why I have them. My life changed the day I said to myself I am gay. It was an admission, not of guilt, but of who I am.

25th Nov 2008, 04:39 PM	#4
Wander Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, aunts, grandma, counselor, online friends Location: Central Alabama Age: 18 Posts: 2,360 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: "Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) Admit that my gay what?

25th Nov 2008, 04:39 PM	#5
Drizzt DoUrden Guest Posts: n/a	Re: "Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) Well, since "coming out" means absolutely nothing to a person who doesn't know the idiom, I think "admittance" is a great term.

25th Nov 2008, 10:17 PM	#7
Kryz EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 95% gay 4% lesbian 1% polyester. Out Status: 7 friends and my mum. Location: Mexico City Age: 23 Posts: 659 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: "Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) I think admitting, is when you ADMITTE. NOT when you go tell them by your own will you're gay. When you ADMITE is when you tell yourself "Ok, I'm gay" OR Some one asks you "you are gay right?" if you say yes, you admitted it u_u __________________ Nobody wants to be alone, everybody wants to love someone... ♪ Glitter and be gay... That's the part I play... ♫ It's SO not a choice. But if it were, I would choose to be gay.

25th Nov 2008, 11:22 PM	#10
ColbieMarie Guest Posts: n/a	Re: "Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) Wow, so please ignore my comment, it makes no sense....

25th Nov 2008, 11:53 PM	#11
Kryz EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 95% gay 4% lesbian 1% polyester. Out Status: 7 friends and my mum. Location: Mexico City Age: 23 Posts: 659 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: "Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) Haha, I LOVE how ADMITTE sounds!!! __________________ Nobody wants to be alone, everybody wants to love someone... ♪ Glitter and be gay... That's the part I play... ♫ It's SO not a choice. But if it were, I would choose to be gay.

25th Nov 2008, 11:58 PM	#12
riddlerno1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: London Age: 29 Posts: 712 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: "Admitting" your gay (ggrrrrrrrr) sorry to be annoying but it is spelt ADMIT