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trikuriboh · 30th Nov 2008, 05:08 PM

Well like I said I just wanted to say, when I came out to my friend I kind of always thought that all of a sudden the world would stop and something would happen. Who knows what like maybe all the people who I know would come out and surprise me and say get him or yay ur gay (rhymes ha) or that something would happen like the world would suddenly end or I'd die on the spot. But luckily none of those things happened. So I was wondering who else felt like this once the secret was out?

Dazed · 30th Nov 2008, 05:33 PM

i felt like that before my secret came out. then laughed when all my friends were like " WE KNEW IT!!!" haha

jazzrawr · 30th Nov 2008, 05:35 PM

Well, I thought everyone would hate me. So far, nobody hates me yet. XD
Yet, anyways.
I just felt relieved when I told the people who know now.

pirateninja · 30th Nov 2008, 05:41 PM

Yup, before I was out, I remember feeling like everyone learning I was gay would turn time inside out or something, or like everyone was watching me and waiting for me to slip up, and every day was just another to get through without blurting it out. But when I did blurt it out, it was very anti-climactic. My friends don't mind, and although I've had some problems with family members and not-so-close friends, 90% has been positive.

musican · 30th Nov 2008, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by pirateninja

Yup, before I was out, I remember feeling like everyone learning I was gay would turn time inside out or something, or like everyone was watching me and waiting for me to slip up, and every day was just another to get through without blurting it out. But when I did blurt it out, it was very anti-climactic. My friends don't mind, and although I've had some problems with family members and not-so-close friends, 90% has been positive.

I also feel like people are waiting for me to slip up. I wish I could say that I used to feel that way, but I'm not out to everyone so I still feel that way. I should have know that my best friend and my mom and my sister would all be accepting, but before I came out to them I was afraid that they would hate me when I told them.

**Maddy** · 30th Nov 2008, 07:50 PM

Definitely. I was positive everyone would hate me for it, and once I was out I just thought "wait, is that all there is to it?" I lost most of the people I'd thought of as good friends when I came out, which sucked, but the world didn't end.

boredofnormal · 30th Nov 2008, 07:53 PM

I knew that it would be a bomshell to my immediate family, but so far, everyone else has been like 'so....', my brother actually was interested in the process I had to go through to get to the place I'm at now...he asked really appropriate questions. The world didn't end, no one has said anything really hatefull or hurtfull yet...its been pretty good overall.

I'm actually having a harder time 'coming out' to my gay friends about my hetero marriage! Go figure!

Nixon · 30th Nov 2008, 08:54 PM

haven't yet

30th Nov 2008, 05:08 PM	#1
trikuriboh Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: just a few friends Location: United States Texas Posts: 55 Join Date: Nov 2008	Just wanted to say... Well like I said I just wanted to say, when I came out to my friend I kind of always thought that all of a sudden the world would stop and something would happen. Who knows what like maybe all the people who I know would come out and surprise me and say get him or yay ur gay (rhymes ha) or that something would happen like the world would suddenly end or I'd die on the spot. But luckily none of those things happened. So I was wondering who else felt like this once the secret was out?

30th Nov 2008, 05:33 PM	#2
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Just wanted to say... i felt like that before my secret came out. then laughed when all my friends were like " WE KNEW IT!!!" haha

30th Nov 2008, 05:35 PM	#3
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Just wanted to say... Well, I thought everyone would hate me. So far, nobody hates me yet. XD Yet, anyways. I just felt relieved when I told the people who know now. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

30th Nov 2008, 05:41 PM	#4
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Just wanted to say... Yup, before I was out, I remember feeling like everyone learning I was gay would turn time inside out or something, or like everyone was watching me and waiting for me to slip up, and every day was just another to get through without blurting it out. But when I did blurt it out, it was very anti-climactic. My friends don't mind, and although I've had some problems with family members and not-so-close friends, 90% has been positive. __________________ Holly the Pirateninja Ars Longa, Vita Brevis.

30th Nov 2008, 07:50 PM	#6
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,702 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Just wanted to say... Definitely. I was positive everyone would hate me for it, and once I was out I just thought "wait, is that all there is to it?" I lost most of the people I'd thought of as good friends when I came out, which sucked, but the world didn't end. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

30th Nov 2008, 07:53 PM	#7
boredofnormal Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Couldn't be any 'out-er' if I tried Location: Yuba City, CA Age: 46 Posts: 97 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Just wanted to say... I knew that it would be a bomshell to my immediate family, but so far, everyone else has been like 'so....', my brother actually was interested in the process I had to go through to get to the place I'm at now...he asked really appropriate questions. The world didn't end, no one has said anything really hatefull or hurtfull yet...its been pretty good overall. I'm actually having a harder time 'coming out' to my gay friends about my hetero marriage! Go figure!

30th Nov 2008, 08:54 PM	#8
Nixon EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Go to Catholic School So, NO Location: Dundee, Nebraska (It's in Omaha) Age: 19 Posts: 575 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Just wanted to say... haven't yet __________________ "I drink to stay warm, then kill selected memories"- Conor Oberst' "Some people don't know me neither do I"

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