Have You ever stayed in a straight relationship just because.

Nope, not at all. Though I've stayed in relationships because I felt guilty to tell the person I didn't love them anymore. I was in a bad relationship with someone who was very controlling but did all the controlling through pulling victim cards, faking depression, suicidal thoughts and would often guilt trip me into feeling sorry for them. It was that relationship that made me realize that if I didn't want to or couldn't be in a relationship with someone, I would just say it and end things. Yes, it may be a cold thing to do but if the heart knows what it wants then don't sit around waiting for things to happen.

As for your story, I'm very sorry to hear that you're in that position. Yes, it is nice to have someone care for and love you. I can't offer much advice to you except to try and listen to your own little voice inside of yourself. Are you doing this because you truly love him or are you doing it because you're in love with the idea of love? It's a hard question to answer but only you can answer that. I'm not sure how long you two have been together but it takes a bit to find out if you love a person or not. I think that if he truly loves you, then he'll be okay with your bisexuality but again, that's up to you to tell whoever you want.

 

When I was fourteen I stayed with my ex boyfriend just because I wanted to say I had a boyfriend. He broke up with me because of my lack of affection.

 

I did because I didn't want to be gay, I've followed the mantra of "nothing's impossible if you try hard enough" my whole life with great success, but I eventually learned sexuality is not like that. I literally tried to shag myself straight! Not wanting to be gay was never for any religious reasons, it just didn't fit in with what I wanted from life.

 

Yea when I was 12. Those days are gone.

 

LOL I have, it was horrible. I ended up avoiding the person in the end. I had very very low self-esteem as a kid and just got tired of being made fun of. Of course when I was in a so called relationship people were always asking questions about my sexuality. Never ever again.

All I can say is I never felt completely happy in the end. Like it was never going to make it in the end.

 

I would have, had I ever been in a relationship...

Forever Alone

 

I actually did stay in a bad relationship because of the security it brought, but it was actually a same sex relationship, before I figured out my identity. I did feel secure in feeling like I was loved, and I did love her. But eventually, I realized the relationship was actually poisonous, and I was a good part of that. I just wanted to feel like I had someone to take care of me. I can't tell when we stopped loving each other.

I think we both needed that mask. She needed someone to take care of her after her sister passed away. I needed someone to care about me after feeling tossed around by my parents.

 

Many of us that are older have. I know I did. I grew up in the 80's and you were just not gay. I dated lots of guys trying to find 'the one' that would turn me straight. Didn't work....