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People acting shocked when you act gay

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by sporn, May 26, 2015.

  1. sporn

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    I'm currently out to my ex-boyfriend/friend as bi. I did try coming out to him as gay at first, but he just laughed. When I said I was bi I didn't get that shocked reaction. I've had similar experiences with other people.

    I was once casually talking to him about online dating. He acted shocked when I was looking for girls. Why would he be shocked by that if I'm out as bi to him? Does that mean he secretly believed I was just a deluded straight girl?
     
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    In my experience if you don't bring it up or talk about it often people simply forget sometimes. I don't know how long you've been out to your friend, but I've been out to some of my friends for almost 6 months and it's still sort of new since I don't talk about it much. There's still a bit of a pause if I say things that indicate I like women sometimes. Try not to read too much into it. You know yourself better than he does.
     
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    I get it everyday! I can not help it. I am the most flamboyant person where I live and when I say super camp and gay...I mean the right out there gay. For an example, on my way home from work, I get the bus with a friend. And while on the bus we talk, obviously. Trouble is, I have a habit of talking rather loud, I can not help it though. And during the ride home I tend to sit talking about all the hot guys we have seen and more so, my crush on Tom Hiddleston (OMG give him to me now!). And being as we tend to be the loudest two on the bus we (I) tend to get alot of dirty looks and a few comments. But I really do not care I LOVE IT! I just bring the diva out and give it right back to them. They then soon end up turning there snooty heads back around :grin:

    I just can not help it though. I am the same in the shop where I work but there people tend not to mind so much. Generally because they know Bailey is a bit of a diva :grin:
     
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    I only had one friend act shocked so far. She kept saying "really?!" "No" after I told her I was serious she was ok with it.

    I have a really small group of close friends and we do everything together and for years I wouldn't act interested in girls and they would ask if I was gay and I would say no, that I was asexual, so I can see why she would think I was kidding when I finally said I was gay.
     
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    My friend asked me twice: ''Are you sure?''

    I don't think she thought I was being honest. I also think she thinks that this is something I chose. o_o
     
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    The two people I've come out to directly, are more surprised about me being sexual at all -- they believed I was going to be a monk.

    It's funny sometimes.
     
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    This shows the hilarious dichotomy between intellectually understanding that someone is gay, as opposed to viscerally "getting it" when you start talking about actually dating someone of the same sex...many people don't make that tiny mental hop to really explore the implications of what you've told them...
     
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    I don't really look like a stereotypical lesbian and when I started the job I'm currently in, a lot of the male staff would flirt with me (in a fairly harmless way) and when I had henna on my hands because I'd been to a Bangladeshi Eid celebration one of them asked me "so why have you been into all of this Bangladeshi stuff, is your boyfriend Bangladeshi?" I didn't say that I was gay at that time because we were in front of patients and I don't talk about my personal life in front of patients. Later on one of the OTs was in the nursing office, talking about a local community fair, he'd volunteered on. I said that I'd been there too and it was a really well run event. He asked me what I'd done there and I told him that I'd been on the LGBT tent. The next moment should have been in a comedy show, he gave a very genuinely puzzled "Oh?", then moments later the penny dropped and he couldn't hide his astonishment as he said "Oh!". Then stumbled on to ask how the tent had gone and if we'd had much success. He never had a problem with it afterwards but I did find it fairly hilarious to watch him try to grasp the concept!