would you date someone younger than you? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Jenni7117 · 6th Dec 2008, 01:12 AM

1. yes
2. maybe, depends how young
3. no

6th Dec 2008, 01:16 AM

No one under 18 though. I just can't deal with that nonsense/illegality.

6th Dec 2008, 02:58 AM

It really does depend on how big the age gap is, really.

**Maddy** · 6th Dec 2008, 03:13 AM

Yes. I tend to be into girls a bit younger than myself, 16 or 17.

Paul_UK · 6th Dec 2008, 03:13 AM

Yes I would. My previous partner was 5 years younger than me. And the guy I'm kinda flirting with at our local gay pub is quite a bit younger than that.

For me I think it is more likely to be someone younger (around 25-40 age-range) rather than my age or older. Though when I find I'm around the age of a guy's parents that feels creepy...

BeautifulStranger · 6th Dec 2008, 03:22 AM

No... absolutley not
I won't even date guys the same age as me...

I'm 16, act like I'm 19, and look like I'm 20 (for the most past... unless one of my moods catches me and then I act like a 5 year old)
I like older guys because generally they have a head on their shoulders and they know what they want.
Guys my age are generally just too immature. I'd feel like I was doing something illegal if I was with someone the same age as me or even slightly younger.

My age minimum is 1 year older.
I was 14, Logan was 18.
I was 15, Casey was 18.
I was 15, Pauli was 18.
I was 15, Steve was 23.
I was 16, Terry was 18.
I was 16, Mike was 18.

And now... with Danny.
I'm 16, he's 19.

riddlerno1 · 6th Dec 2008, 03:23 AM

i dont think id mind someone younger...but they have to be 18 for obvious reasons. But seeing as im 25 i do go for guys who are like 20-30

Fiorino · 6th Dec 2008, 03:28 AM

Well probably someone who's 16, but 15 is my limit. I think I'd prefer someone
the same age or older.

-Michael- · 6th Dec 2008, 03:43 AM

No-one under 16. Seeing as I'm currently 16 i guess the answer is no.

Peter · 6th Dec 2008, 04:20 AM

From legality to senility. It depends on the person but, hey, by now most of the world is younger than I...

Apocalypte · 6th Dec 2008, 05:50 AM

20 is as young as I'll go. Any younger and I'd feel like i was being a bit of a perv tbh.

**EM68** · 6th Dec 2008, 06:19 AM

I would depending on the person. I probably date someone in the early to mid 30's. It depends on their maturity.

ColdSnap · 6th Dec 2008, 06:42 AM

1 year below, 7 above, thems me rules

**Martin** · 6th Dec 2008, 06:51 AM

Yep. Obviously I wouldn't put myself in a position were it's illegal, but I know people younger than me who act more mature than people older than me. I'm not going to say I prefer older/younger as I am not bothered which way it goes. If the gap isn't massive or illegal then I am not bothered, just as long as we like each other.

-Michael- · 6th Dec 2008, 07:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martin

Yep. Obviously I wouldn't put myself in a position were it's illegal, but I know people younger than me who act more mature than people older than me. I'm not going to say I prefer older/younger as I am not bothered which way it goes. If the gap isn't massive or illegal then I am not bothered, just as long as we like each other.

Clearly you said yes because you love me.

Nugget · 6th Dec 2008, 07:08 AM

No. I either imagine my date to be my age or older. My mentality says anyone younger than me is too young, not sure why.

Maybe it's 'cause I am young

s5m1 · 6th Dec 2008, 07:39 AM

Yes. I am currently dating a guy who is in his mid-30's, even though I am in my early 40's I think compatibility is more important that the age of a person. Having said that, I think that too large an age gap, where that two people are in entirely different phases of life, can present real compatibility issues.

ccdd · 6th Dec 2008, 09:19 AM

One of my current crushes is younger than me so...that'd be yes

. Although the other two are older than me...

That said, I don't think I'd date anyone under about 21 - it'd feel a bit weird. Plus, to be honest, everyone I hang around is over 21, so I'm unlikely to fall for someone younger. Under 18 is a definate no-no (even though over here 16 or over would be legal)

Trumpetplyer23 · 6th Dec 2008, 09:42 AM

Nothing illegal, but if we were legal, consenting adults and I really liked the person, I'd go out with them (and they liked me).

edogs334 · 6th Dec 2008, 09:44 AM

I wouldn't rule out dating someone younger than me; it depends on the guy, how mature they are, and a host of other factors. However, I wouldn't date anyone under 22 (21 being my absolute limit given my age) and it goes without saying that I couldn't/wouldn't even imagine seeing someone 18 or under (for obvious reasons). I feel like dating someone under 21-22 would be like dating my little brother

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6th Dec 2008, 01:12 AM	#1
Jenni7117 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: san francisco Age: 23 Posts: 27 Join Date: May 2008	would you date someone younger than you? 1. yes 2. maybe, depends how young 3. no

6th Dec 2008, 01:16 AM	#2
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: would you date someone younger than you? No one under 18 though. I just can't deal with that nonsense/illegality.

6th Dec 2008, 02:58 AM	#3
tomahto72 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: would you date someone younger than you? It really does depend on how big the age gap is, really.

6th Dec 2008, 03:13 AM	#4
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,702 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? Yes. I tend to be into girls a bit younger than myself, 16 or 17. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

6th Dec 2008, 03:13 AM	#5
Paul_UK Former Empty Closets Admin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bournemouth, UK Age: 47 Posts: 13,155 Join Date: Nov 2004	Re: would you date someone younger than you? Yes I would. My previous partner was 5 years younger than me. And the guy I'm kinda flirting with at our local gay pub is quite a bit younger than that. For me I think it is more likely to be someone younger (around 25-40 age-range) rather than my age or older. Though when I find I'm around the age of a guy's parents that feels creepy... __________________ Paul

6th Dec 2008, 03:22 AM	#6
BeautifulStranger GaGa's Knight in Flaming Armor Full Member Gender: 여왕 Orientation: Boys Boys Boys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Jukjeon-dong, Yongin-si Age: 20 Posts: 1,823 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: would you date someone younger than you? No... absolutley not I won't even date guys the same age as me... I'm 16, act like I'm 19, and look like I'm 20 (for the most past... unless one of my moods catches me and then I act like a 5 year old) I like older guys because generally they have a head on their shoulders and they know what they want. Guys my age are generally just too immature. I'd feel like I was doing something illegal if I was with someone the same age as me or even slightly younger. My age minimum is 1 year older. I was 14, Logan was 18. I was 15, Casey was 18. I was 15, Pauli was 18. I was 15, Steve was 23. I was 16, Terry was 18. I was 16, Mike was 18. And now... with Danny. I'm 16, he's 19. __________________ Co-Founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club EC's official Diva Extraordinaire Future 'Mr. Kellan Lutz' "Since women have vaginas, they also have drama to fill the void."

6th Dec 2008, 03:23 AM	#7
riddlerno1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: London Age: 29 Posts: 712 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? i dont think id mind someone younger...but they have to be 18 for obvious reasons. But seeing as im 25 i do go for guys who are like 20-30

6th Dec 2008, 03:28 AM	#8
Fiorino Fio Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina Posts: 1,005 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? Well probably someone who's 16, but 15 is my limit. I think I'd prefer someone the same age or older. __________________ Why is it that as a culture, we're more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?

6th Dec 2008, 03:43 AM	#9
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? No-one under 16. Seeing as I'm currently 16 i guess the answer is no.

6th Dec 2008, 04:20 AM	#10
Peter Just a guy Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who is interested Location: Milton Keynes, England Age: 56 Posts: 474 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? From legality to senility. It depends on the person but, hey, by now most of the world is younger than I... __________________ Peter "God leaves us free to become whatever we like. We can be ourselves or not, as we please. We are at liberty to be real, or to be unreal. We may be true or false, the choice is ours." (Thomas Merton)

6th Dec 2008, 05:50 AM	#11
Apocalypte Ytse Jamming. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 27 Posts: 2,217 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? 20 is as young as I'll go. Any younger and I'd feel like i was being a bit of a perv tbh. __________________ "I like my beer cold...my TV loud...and my homosexuals flaming." - Homer Simpson

6th Dec 2008, 06:19 AM	#12
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? I would depending on the person. I probably date someone in the early to mid 30's. It depends on their maturity. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

6th Dec 2008, 06:42 AM	#13
ColdSnap The easily corrupted ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boy Botherer Out Status: Out to everyone Location: C-diff - Wales Age: 22 Posts: 343 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? 1 year below, 7 above, thems me rules

6th Dec 2008, 06:51 AM	#14
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,039 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: would you date someone younger than you? Yep. Obviously I wouldn't put myself in a position were it's illegal, but I know people younger than me who act more mature than people older than me. I'm not going to say I prefer older/younger as I am not bothered which way it goes. If the gap isn't massive or illegal then I am not bothered, just as long as we like each other.

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6th Dec 2008, 07:08 AM	#16
Nugget No Artificial Preservatives Regular Member Gender: Female Location: Northeast Posts: 389 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? No. I either imagine my date to be my age or older. My mentality says anyone younger than me is too young, not sure why. Maybe it's 'cause I am young

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ccdd Procrastination Queen Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 30(ish) friends, but mostly closeted. Out to mum Location: UK Posts: 1,009 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: would you date someone younger than you? One of my current crushes is younger than me so...that'd be yes . Although the other two are older than me... That said, I don't think I'd date anyone under about 21 - it'd feel a bit weird. Plus, to be honest, everyone I hang around is over 21, so I'm unlikely to fall for someone younger. Under 18 is a definate no-no (even though over here 16 or over would be legal)

6th Dec 2008, 09:44 AM	#20
edogs334 Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: hoping to kick down the closet doors for good Age: 30 Posts: 190 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: would you date someone younger than you? I wouldn't rule out dating someone younger than me; it depends on the guy, how mature they are, and a host of other factors. However, I wouldn't date anyone under 22 (21 being my absolute limit given my age) and it goes without saying that I couldn't/wouldn't even imagine seeing someone 18 or under (for obvious reasons). I feel like dating someone under 21-22 would be like dating my little brother