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Is race important in dating?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by robotman, Jun 12, 2015.

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Do you care?

Poll closed Jun 17, 2015.

  1. I don't care what race they are :).

    35 vote(s)
    36.1%

  2. I am only attracted to people from a certain background (race/religion).

    4 vote(s)
    4.1%

  3. I do care what race people are, I am only attracted to a certain race.

    6 vote(s)
    6.2%

  4. I am open to all, personality is what counts.

    39 vote(s)
    40.2%

  5. I don't know what I like and what I don't like, I just like whatever, don't question me lol.

    13 vote(s)
    13.4%
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  1. robotman

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    I didn't really want to create a thread like this but the more stuff I read the more opinions I have on the subject.

    Personally I love people from all backgrounds and religions, whether they are white, black, asian, latin, etc... I think that all people are attractive from everywhere but I have read alot of things lately and I am wondering what you all think.

    Are you open to dating whoever you want regardless of race, this is not meant to be judgmental btw. Although the more I think about it the more I think how can a gay person be against dating a certain race when they know how it feels to be segregated. Btw I didn't mean to make a controversial subject, I am just curious!
     
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  2. The Wallflower

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    As long as the other person loves me, I'm good. <3
     
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  3. anthonythegamer

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    I don't think it 100% matters. Race can be a preference.

    Real life example, I'm mostly attracted to East Asian and Latino guys. However, I don't care if I date a white person.
     
    #3 anthonythegamer, Jun 12, 2015
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    A couple of the answers appear to suggest the same thing.

    Regardless, I have never been a fan of phrases such as "I see past race" or "personality is all that counts". Anything that suggests colorblindness because I find that too often that is idealistic bullshit. I am not blind to color or race. I simply find all colors and races aesthetically pleasing.
     
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    I wouldn't turn someone away for being a certain race as that doesn't play a big factor in whether or not I would date them...however with that being said I do feel more attracted to Asian women...I love their skin tone as well as anyone else with that sort of mixed skin tone rather than just being black or white
     
    #5 mobrien1993, Jun 12, 2015
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    If it ain't white, it ain't right.​
     
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    yes im very racist
     
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    I'm more attracted to people of my own race.
    I wouldn't automatically rule someone out simply because they were a different race though..
     
    #8 SimplyJay, Jun 12, 2015
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    I'm white. I notice white guys most readily. I notice Middle Eastern guys quite a bit, but the religious hurdle would be more than I care to deal with. I've posted and discussed all this on "saw a hot guy" and "celebrity crushes" type threads. There are plenty of fish in the sea who are white and who were raised in a way to which I could relate fairly easily.

    I will be friends with anyone, though. Isn't that what counts?
     
    #9 Tightrope, Jun 12, 2015
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    No of course not but it is almost impossible given where I live in Minnesota. Racial diversity as much as gays and other groups don't exist where I live right now or even the big city I am moving too really. There are more Native Americans here thought than any other race and of course caucasion.
     
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    As some people have said, I am more readily attracted (to date) to my own race usually. However, I still find people of other races attractive, just less often. I think for me, race is less important than background (at least in terms of date-ability, not attractiveness), and white people more often share a similar background. I couldn't date someone who was stereotypically southern white person most likely, for example.
     
    #11 Austin, Jun 12, 2015
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    Surprisingly I m turned off by my own race not that i purposely dislike them but i prefer other races and everyone i likes is mixed, i guess i like diversity
     
    #12 MsAnchor, Jun 12, 2015
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    I don't have any preferences.
     
    #13 Acm, Jun 12, 2015
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    I have found women of all sorts of races and ethnicities attractive. If I were single I would date a girl if I find her attractive and I liked her personality. However, race IS important, and we can't wipe it away. Why would we want to anyway? Racial background, ethnicity and heritage can be vital to an individual's identity. It would be so boring if we were all the same.
     
    #14 Maeve, Jun 12, 2015
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    As long as they:

    1) Don't suck as a person.
    2) Love me back.

    Then I'm fine. :grin:
     
    #15 Taly, Jun 13, 2015
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    Me too. Ewww I won't date black guys.
     
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    Not to me. It's who I like based on my attraction to them. That's all.
     
    #17 Kasey, Jun 13, 2015
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    I'm more attracted to people of my own race.
     
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    Definitely open to dating people of other races, however, cultures are of more concern.
     
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    Well, religion...sometimes would matter, I'd never be with someone who was too religious.
    In attraction, I find some Asian (Chinese/Japanese) people really attractive and people of my own race not as much. It's just preference...
    I would not be against dating someone of any race. Their looks or race don't matter to me, it'd just be a bonus if they had it.
     
    #20 loveislove01, Jun 13, 2015
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