Are you self-conscious about your mannerisms?

Lolz, One hundred percent agree. I'm that person whose mannerisms will leave you guessing "is he gay or not?" Alot of people even ask if I'm bisexual. My personality is really androgynous. Most of the time when I'm in a new place and have no clue where to go I'll freak out. Then trip or bump into inanimate objects and apologize to them... you're not alone

 

I'm not generally over focused on my own mannerisms, when I do notice them I am aware there are some quite peculiar ones so I can only imagine what it looks like to someone from the outside lol! A few people have mentioned my quirks but never in an in-depth way. I can't quite imagine what I'd look like without them. I don't video myself though so I can't be certain of exactly where I fall on the odd-scale.

The thing is, because a lot of people are quietly feeling that way about their own mannerisms/looks/voice etc, consequently a surprising many are probably more focused on monitoring their own than they are on noticing yours. And even if they're not, those who do notice will likely only do so in passing. Everyone I know has some awkward mannerisms that I've picked up on (like when they are anxious/annoyed/uncomfortable), some more so than others. But I can't say that those things alone would cause me to dislike someone, solely for the way they appear. The only exception being when I pick up on certain things that indicate someone who is potentially bad-news to be around in which case I treat the situation with caution, but that's a different situation entirely.

And honestly anyone who would give you a hard time or look down on you just for being a bit awkward isn't someone you'd want to be around anyway. If you really think it will be useful you can look into changing your body language a bit (people sometimes do this for job interviews for example) but overall, worrying about how you present all the time too much is just going to make you more stressed and that will only exacerbate it. In terms of your sexuality, I don't think it's EVER a good idea to deliberately try and change how you present just to conform or appeal to someone. For one thing: those who don't take your word for it when you come out are either focused on stereotypes or just generally have their heads up their own backsides that they won't listen. For another: anyone you would seek to date who is worth it is going to be interested in the REAL you, not what they expect you to be.

This might not be where you're at right now and as difficult as it sounds, sometimes the best way is just to go with it without thinking too much. Being how you are naturally without the tension is what makes the difference between being regarded as either awkward, - or interesting.

 

Yes! Haha. I'm such an awkward person. And I always get self conscious about the little things I do too.

 

Sometimes I can be depending on what mood I am or how I feel that day.

 

Of course. Selfies always look better. You have no control over the pics that others take. Love yourself. Mannerisms and all. There's someone out there for you.

 

I wouldn't say self conscious, I just try and be more aware as I have the unique ability of being able to offend every single person in a room in under 30 seconds :lol:

 

Not really, but I hate my voice... it's so high-pitched and gets even higher when I'm nervous XD;;;;; I feel sorry for anyone who has to talk to me irl haha~~

 

Most of the time I'm clumsy and awkward, so yes, I'm a little bit self-conscious.

 

Yes. Pretty much. I hate full body shots of myself that I have not taken. I don't really like the way I carry myself. Not that I care a whole ton but I am a bit self conscious about it, when I notice it.

 

For a while I was because a conceited nasty cμnt with NPD and an inferiority complex incessantly ridiculed me about how my eyes "flutter like a fairy's wings" and my laugh was like a "fag wail."

 

I overthink myself. Like last year at summer camp when I was social I'd be like "These guys are cool" and continue talking to them. Later I'd be like "Oh my god, they haven't really talked to me since, do they hate me?" And then I give myself reasons as to why, like am I annoying? Do I talk too much?

So then I became paranoid and don't talk to them for a while, then I get into a convo with them and it seems fine and I start blabbing again which then continues the cycle of "Oh my god I talked too much, I bet they can't stand me!"

 

Yeah, I'd say I am too.

I find my smile to be a bit awkward, I'm not such of my voice that is still high-pitched and not masculine enough, not to mention I tend to stutter a bit. Me on video is a nightmare -_-

 

I am to a point sometimes. I still have sometimes. I still have some feminine mannerisms, but those do not bother me as much as they used to. I just still have my tendency to always talk too fast..

 

Oh, we're talking about body language? My bad. I would say not really, I couldn't give a sh!t what other people think of me. Not true, but if they have a problem with the way I act it's their problem.

My voice is hitch pitched (Higher than I thought it was, I watched a video and heard it myself) I also kinda talk sassy at times when I'm around my family.

I think if people had a convo with me they'd probably know I was gay, but no one has commented asking about it so I don't bother telling them. If they ask I'd say yes, or more like "Oh, I thought it was obvious" so I look like I'm confident in myself and the other person doesn't feel awkward.

 

people say that i'm a bitch when i'm mad my dad is like don't.....ever....drink!

 

No. I'm very much at peace with myself now. With the exception of some occasions at home where my mannerisms have been extremely flamboyant, I don't usually take notice to any mannerisms I may have.