Do you believe in waiting for the right person?

Hm, I don't really care about saving myself til marriage, or long-term partnership, but I rather not lose my virginity to some mega-slutty girl or guy.

 

Is this just talking about sex? If it is, I...guess so? I mean I have no interest in sex to begin with so, if it were to ever hypothetically happen, it would only be with said person I suppose...

Not sure why I even tried to bother answering this...it feels awkward just looking at it. :lol:

 

Yes.

 

For sex? No. It doesn't take anyone special to do that with, but for romance, that's another story.

 

I would agree that I believe more in the concept of experienced or inexperienced rather than virginity. Being a virgin is an abstract idea that relies on absolutes, and has many different definitions depending on who you ask.

That said, if it turns out I've been patiently waiting 29+ years to meet someone right enough only to end up with the WRONG person I am going to be seriously pissed off!

 

Honestly, I see myself with more of a left person.

 

For having sex?
hell no!!

personally i dont believe in the idea of virginity because there are no accurate measure/indicator of it. people might lie about their virginity status if you only took their word as an indicator.

i haven't had sex because of terrible circumstances. If i'd born in a more accepting culture then i'm sure i already lost it when i was 15 or 16.

 

Well it's a little too late for that lmao.... Hell no, but to each their own

 

I think that everyone you date could be the right person (indeed you are dating them because there is something of interest, no?)...until they're not.

Very often closeness, intimacy and love can grow simply out of spending ample and good time together. An obsession with finding "the right" person can lead you to reject someone too soon if they don't meet some specified criterion, which is why I avoid pre-conceived notions of who the right person could be. I'm far more interested in finding out what real people are like.

As for "until they're not", well, only getting to know someone, and them getting to know you, will tell you for sure whether that person is right for you. The best that can happen is that they love you so much that they are willing to be a better person, for you. Not that they should change who they are, only that they are inspired to be a better person because of you, and vice versa...

You really need to know who the other person is; as in: when they are angry, frustrated, sad, happy, silly, serious, drunk, handling money, etc., etc., etc. Only after all of that will you know for sure (it takes time unfortunately).

 

I don't think there's any real reason to wait for the right person to have sex. I think it's good to explore and get some experience first. That's just me.

 

*Cries a little*

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But yeah, just keep on waitin.

 

Not at all. I think you should be safe & try to be with someone you like and trust, but there is something to be said for experience before you meet "the one."

For all of the talk about STIs & the negative effects of sex, no one talks about the positive sides: lowers depression, improves mood, increases confidence which leads to -among other things - better public speaking skills.

 

Yeah, but only for like half an hour. Tops. Especially if they're not answering their phone.

 

No..

 

No, but I think that it's important to wait until you find someone you can truly trust. I'm hardly a romantic, but sex is way too intimate and exposing (literally and figuratively) to have it with just anyone, IMO.

I couldn't get naked with a stranger, much less sleep with them.

Those are just my personal feelings on the matter though. Ultimately, the right answer is different for everyone.

 

Well, I'm not going to waste my time and energy on the wrong person. If done enough of that. I'm happy enough as a single person enjoying my life and will only give that up for someone nothing short of amazing.

Happy days

 

Well I have had sex with three people. The first wasn't consensual. The second, the sex was great with her but I didn't see long term potential though I really did care for her. The third is with my current boyfriend after we had already said the l word, had known each other awhile, and were in a committed relationship for a few months.
I've also been in unrequited love where there was no sex but she was amazing as a best friend and still is and I'll always love her in a way.

So I've had a little bit of everything.

However I'm no expert but I think waiting often amplifies the experience. I've had to say no to many people many times, whether or not I liked them, because I like to know someone well before taking it to the physical level. Part of that is its hard for me to trust on that level.

I don't expect everyone to desire that though. I've rushed, I've taken it slow, and being patient definitely has proven to be more prudent. Besides even if you don't have much experience if a person really likes you they'll be happy to teach you.