So Who's Still Carrying their V-Card?

Virginity is kind of a stupid concept socially, but to answer your question, I have not had sex before.

 

I hear the call of my people. I have come no where close to losing it.

 

This, basically. I've never done anything sexual outside of masturbation, and I only use the term "virgin" for lack of a better word.

And, yes. I'm waiting for the right person, but I'm not getting my hopes up.

 

I'm not waiting for the right person, it's just that no one wants to fuck me

 

I'm a 44 year old loser virgin, with no sexual experience past Mr. Palm and his Five Brothers.

I was in denial for many years, until I was 42.

I might have been willing to "fool around" with another guy, pretending "it really meant nothing" when I was young, but the opportunity never came. Plus I grew up during the AIDS crisis, and that frankly scared me.

When I was in my 20s, I was tied down, due to a family situation that I lived with 24/7.

And recently it's just a lack of opportunity. I'm not sure I would hold out for Mr. Right. But I'm not interested in diving as low as a craigslist ad, or a guy on a cellphone app.

 

Me.

 

Agreed, never understood the obsession with "losing virginity". I don't get why it is of importance.

That being said, I'm not part of the virgin club.

 

Depends on how we're defining virginity here. Some people will say I'm a virgin and some people will say I'm not. But me? I say I'm not.

If you look at other people's definition's of "losing virginity", I am and to that I will say I'm looking for the right person.

I never have grasped the importance of virginity and why it's placed highly it today's culture. To me, it's just a method used to create a dichotomy of those that are pure vs. not pure.

 

Wait - there is a card that comes with it?!! Why didn't anyone tell me?! Does it offer discounts on contraceptives that one is only going to use to make water balloons and silly hats? Fuck it, I've been in the V-club this long and never knew there were membership privileges!


I don't really agree with the concept/common definitions of virginity. But by anyone's standards I am one, beyond kissing.

Ideally I would want to be in a relationship with someone first at least. It's just that for various reasons I don't really end up in potential relationship situations, and it is quite rare for me to meet someone I really 'click' with, let alone to the point of anything else. Throw orientation into the mix, and it would be exceptionally rare for all of those things to coincide.

 

There is truth in this, particularly years and years back when women were expected to virgins who'd be deflowered on their wedding night. I think some of that thinking persists, particularly in conservative circles.

Other circles create other dichotomies. A male losing virginity may be seen as a "real man" now. Or a guy like me who remains a virgin forever may be seen as some sort of loser. (Which is why I said "loser" in my post earlier. Although I don't actually believe this myself.)

 

I haven't had sex yet, but I want to. I'm waiting for someone who I'm attracted to who is attracted to me as well. Haven't found anyone like that.

 

Being asexual I don't find any reason, ever, to lose my virginity. I don't want to and that's okay with me. Sex isn't for everyone.

But I might reconsider if I were in a serious romantic relationship, after I was married.

 

I so agree

 

I'll give it away if I can find someone that deserves it...

 

Arfff!!

i still carried mine around,
sexually frustrated and determinately not waiting for the right person.
but i believe its circumstantial for me, if i'd been in a different/more accepting place then i might already lost it a long time ago~~

 

Kissed on the lips: -
Oral sex: -
Genital contact: -

I've cuddled with somebody, had my cheek kissed, and touched hands. But that was a whopping total of 2-3 times, and it didn't last too long.

Needless to say, I'm easily categorized as a super-mega-ultra virgin. But the reasoning isn't that I can't have sex, there is that part of town I could go to, if I really wanted it. I don't, at least not like that.

 

I would like to see us move away from this idea that we should lose our virginity by a given age, or that being a virgin is some bad or negative thing. It's really not. Many people rush into sex for the first time and profoundly regret it later, for multiple reasons. My first time was nothing to boast about and I really wish I had waited.

There is actually some debate about what constitutes 'losing virginity' in the context of a same sex relationship. I'm not interested in opening up the whole debate here, but I do think it's worth mentioning when this subject arises.