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Would you have sex before marriage?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by anthonythegamer, Jun 25, 2015.

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Sex before marriage?

  1. Sure. Gotta give my partner a test-drive!

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  2. No

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  3. I'm not interested in sex...

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  1. Basically the question here.

    I am aware that the topic of sex is something that will be brought up in relationship. Some people want to save themselves for marriage, but others want to test-drive a car before sticking with it almost forever. I know it can be a touchy subject, but how do you deal with sex in a relationship?

    Personally, I want to have sex with someone before I get married. Sexual compatibility is much more important than we think. I wouldn't want to be that guy whose bf has a sex drive of a bunny rabbit and I'm just "whatever" about sex at the same time. I think if you or your partner isn't satisfied, then you or your partner will seek that sexual satisfaction somewhere else, which can lead to cheating, heartbreak, and regret.

    *Please don't get into an angry debate in this thread! You can comment on one's beliefs on this topic and disagree with it. I'll tolerate mild debates, but don't disrespect others' beliefs. If you feel like getting into a bit of an angry debate on this, take it somewhere else. I don't want to have to intervene. Even worse, bring the moderators or admins into this. Thank you!*
     
  2. Fallingdown7

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    Yes I would, but not before a relationship.

    However, I am also fine with staying celibate as I am at the moment.
     
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    yeah, with alot of different people
     
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    Yeah, but I'd want to wait a while into te relationship :slight_smile:
     
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    Looks like the 'test drive' option is popular!

    Myself, yep, I think it's important to test the waters.

    My grandfather always used to say it was better to 'play the field' a while before settling down, and he was married over 60 years.
     
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    I'm not much for the traditional sense of the only moral way is to not have sex before marriage. If I like someone enough and consent is given, we will have sex, regardless of if we're married to each other or not.
     
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    I have had sex already before marriage. I think sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. I think you need to be serious before sleeping with someone though. So, will I? Yes, but I better know your status, and 99% of the time I will want to be with you when you are tested or have proof before we get intimate.
     
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    Sure! I don't think I wanna get married until I'm at least in my 30s.
     
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    I can't imagine not having sex before marriage. So yes, definitely. Sexual compatibility would be important. At least for me.
     
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    I don't care beans about "testing waters." It's just that having sex doesn't make it a marriage. Having mutual trust between each other does. It's just that really strong, fuzzy feelings of mutual trust, along with a sense of security and permanance, lead to people having sex and lots of it, like six times or more a day. That's what a honeymoon IS. That is how children are conceived.
     
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    Yes, I expect that I would. That's not a requirement for me though, just something I'd welcome and think hypothetical boyfriend would want. Maybe I'm being extremely naive, but I don't really worry about sexual compatibility -- I think if I found the right person that's something we could make work through passion and honest communication.
     
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    Sure, but not because it is a test-drive, but simply because i see no reason to delay it.

    I'm an atheist, by the way.
     
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    There's no ring on my finger.
     
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    I voted sure even though I don't care much for sex

    Also I don't see why someone wouldn't have sex before marriage unless they're religious
     
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    Yea and then they get divorced and it's like what's the point of waiting?
     
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    Does this really matter so much to gay people? As far as religious people are concerned, your marriage is as sinful as premarital sex. So what's the point?

    Anyway, I agree with Psaurus. Not so interested in sex in general.
     
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    I would, though I can't bring myself to answer the poll. Calling it a "test drive" just sounds... gross? :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    It's actually one of the many signs that eventually led me to realize my distinct lack of heterosexuality. Used to be that I never could understand why people found it so difficult to wait until marriage. Really, I found the prospect of waiting till marriage particularly appealing, probably as a means of delaying something that I hadn't yet realized wasn't quite so appealing to me. Then I (how should I put it?) *discovered* girls.

    Now, it's not so much that I want to have sex before marriage as it is that I think the experience can usher in a deeper connection and level of trust between two people, one that I feel ought to be attained before deciding to spend the rest of my life with someone.
     
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    Maybe not. I would rather save that moment with the one person I love and have it mean something special rather than just sleeping with other people for no reason.
     
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    absolutely yes!!
    sexual compatibility is one of the key factor to a successful relationship
     
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    Yes. Clearly my partner has to fuck me before we're going to get married. How is that even a question?

    Because otherwise, I can see the following scenario. 1) Get married. 2) Have first sexual encounter with husband or wife - Me: "Will you penetrate me?" Husband/wife: "No" :frowning2: I'd be crushed.