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Did you come out multiple times as different sexualities/gender identities?

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Have you came out multiple times as different sexualities/gender identities?

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  1. person57

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    Have you came out multiple times as different sexualities/gender identities? I've done this because I've been unaware/in denial about being transgender for a long time. The first time I came our, it was only to a few people, and I came out as bisexual. Then there was a point where I shoved myself back in the closet and around a year and a few months later I came out to the public as gay. I've felt like a female and saw myself as a female since I was like 10 or 11, but I didn't know what transgender meant back then. I also thought that every gay man felt like a female, but now I know that's not how it works. I learned what transgender was in late 2013 and I started doing research on it, and I started questioning my gender identity in early 2014 but I was scared to talk about it to anyone. I've brought it up to three friends. Two of them didn't know what I was talking about but I had one friend who was supportive. Later on in the year, I discovered that there were people who identified as both genders who are called bigender people. I decided to try to convince myself that I identified as both genders because I felt less worried and insecure about myself if I at least sometimes identified as a female. In February this year, I came to terms with the fact that I'm transgender. And discovering my true self has made me feel so happy and I just feel so happy with the amount of progress I made and I feel happy with myself.
     
    #1 person57, Jun 25, 2015
  2. sporn

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    I came out as gay the first time. That didn't go well. Everyone tried to convince me it was just a phase. I was terrified it was a phase so I identified as bi for about two years. I came out as bi. It was somewhat easier at first, but people acted stupidly shocked when I expressed interest in girls. They also pushed me to show interest in guys. Right now I just avoid coming out.
     
    #2 sporn, Jun 25, 2015
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    The people who I have came out to I've only came out to once and that will be the last time I ever do as well. I refuse to be closeted because someone doesn't agree with me.
     
    #3 Andrew99, Jun 25, 2015
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    I've come out multiple times, but mostly because my view of my sexuality changed. At first I came out lesbian to my friends, and honestly thought I was until my boyfriend came around. Then I fell in love with him- so I changed it to bi to my friends. When I came out to my parents, I first came out to my dad but didn't label myself (and my explanation actually sounded more pan now that I know what that is) and my mom was well- that's a bag of worms right there.
     
    #4 Xander27, Jun 25, 2015
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    Not really. I was questioning for a while, but as I began to read up about what the LGB and T really were, I figured out what I was pretty quickly.
     
    #5 An Gentleman, Jun 26, 2015
  6. MindvsHeart

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    Yup. I kind of came out to my sister at 14 as lesbian. At the time it didn't feel completely right but all I knew was that I wasn't straight.
    I came out again when I was 18 as a gay transman. I really self-analysed and researched more because I still didn't feel like it described what I was/what I was feeling. So after that, I came out as genderfluid and then that changed to genderqueer leaning more towards masculinity and was panromantic/demisexual. A little more time went past and I guess it kind of just clicked one day - and I came out (hopefully for the last time but most of these coming outs were more internal ones) as an agender person who is grey-ace/aromantic. :slight_smile:
     
    #6 MindvsHeart, Jun 26, 2015
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    I came out as bi to one friend because he found out I was gay before I was ready to admit it. Beyond that, I've stuck with telling people I'm gay ever since.
     
    #7 guitar, Jun 26, 2015
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    Came out as bi when I was 14. Didn't have a lot of understanding. Came out as lesbian because my girlfriend was one and I got less shit for it. Came out as FTM two years ago. Realized I still liked men, came out as gay. Coming out as bi again after realizing I always liked both.
     
    #8 thepandaboss, Jun 26, 2015
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    For a long time I thought I was bi and came out to a handful of people as such. It wasn't until I gave myself permission to be out at all that I realized that I'm really just gay (other than Jennifer Lawrence)
     
    #9 SemiCharmedLife, Jun 26, 2015
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    Came out as gay first but after a couple years I realised I was more asexual than gay.
     
    #10 Higs, Jun 27, 2015
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    with friends I went back and forward and the closet
     
    #11 yaoicore, Jun 27, 2015
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    I first came out as bi because I had never heard of pansexual before. Now that I have, I am trying to come out again as pan.
     
    #12 YinYang, Jun 27, 2015
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    I confused people by dating a couple girls in middle school, even if they were more superficial "relationships". I at least had people thinking I was straight for a while.
     
    #13 TENNYSON, Jun 27, 2015
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    Yup, bi then gay.

    I thought I could be trans as one time in the past as well but realized it was just internalized homophobia that I needed to get over.
     
    #14 Fallingdown7, Jun 27, 2015
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    Bi then Femme.

    Bi didn't feel 100% authentic, but I had no other words for it so I chose what I knew.
     
    #15 Lipstick Leuger, Jun 27, 2015
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    Gender wise, it was all at once.

    Sexuality wise, it went Bi > Gray-A > Pan > Queer/Gay/Demi(???)
     
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    Oh I didn't read the question correctly :lol: I have only came out as gay but I thought I was bi for a while.
     
    #17 Andrew99, Jun 28, 2015
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    Came out as trans originally. Took the trans part back a year later (I did have dysphoria in my teens, but it gradually lessened over time). Came out as bi after, and the bi thing stayed though. I got even more bi with time really... about as bi now as any living thing could be.
     
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    Nope, I always knew what I was and didn't /don't give a damn what people think. Having said that I totally understand other people find it more difficult.
     
    #19 Ste86, Jul 5, 2015
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    I came out to my close friends in High School as bisexual. Then I went back into the closet for a few years before coming out to my parents as lesbian. They didn't take it very well obviously and back in the closet I went. Then I finally had the courage to come out again recently, as bisexual. They took it a little better but they're still homophobes :dry:
     
    #20 Ruby Dragon, Jul 6, 2015
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