How would you avoid people? It seems like everyone is a bad person eveywhere and no one seems to have any good in them anymore.
stop trying. you'll end up isolated. when you've had a lot of bad experiences it's easy to assume that everyone is bad. they aren't. people are self-absorbed and selfish and inconsiderate and you'll get that everywhere, and sometimes it feels like the whole planet is rotten. it can feel overwhelming when you don't know who to trust, and for a long time i was magnificently misanthropic and would experience intense depression over the state of the world and all the horrible people in it. once i stopped focusing on the bad shit and accepted that at least i knew i was essentially good and dealt warily with people without any expectations, i ended up meeting a few genuinely decent individuals who made me realise that even if the majority are pricks, there are one or two who are worth wading through. part of it is building up a thick skin and having enough trust in yourself to be able to shrug off ugly encounters and move on.
I avoid people I don't like by ignoring their existence. I don't see why you'd want to isolate yourself completely... There's good people in the world.
Serious answer? Move to the country, order your groceries online, and work as a self-employed youtuber who specialises in doomsday-prepping video content. But really, the need for human connection will always remain. It's a huge part of us. Even if it can sometimes seem like a huge disadvantage. People can be good sometimes, too. Hang on to that.
Not worth it. Social isolation is probably more misery than dealing with a couple of jerks. Will the good outweigh the bad? Meh I dunno...probably
I really did move to the woods and now I'm stuck here . Don't do it ,there are good people out there it just takes some work finding them.
I'm not pushing this on anybody as I don't truly think it's something for everyone, but I don't know why being sort of a...hermit is exactly a bad thing. Just try it to see if it's your thing or not. As someone who's pretty much lost faith in the world due to having nobody, I've started straying more and more down that path and it's not totally miserable, at least not to me. -Complete- isolation may seem like a stretch, but I find keeping my physical presence and others' apart usually makes me feel at a lot more peace than having to put up with the bullshit that is the world/people(as a general thing). Just my two cents.
The thing is...once we assume most/everyone else is bad, then we ourselves start exhibiting some of the hostile behaviors that we didn't appreciate in others. We in turn, become just like the people we were trying to avoid...and maybe even worse. Challenge yourself to find something good/cool/interesting about everybody you come across. Every single person. Even the incredibly annoying/irritating ones. Even if certain people seem negative to begin with, once you are nice to them, chances are, they will be nice/act positively toward you in return.
I'm interested to know what has happened to make you feel as though you want to avoid people and isolate yourself? Is there anything in particular that has upset you? It may seem like everyone is bad, but it's really not good to allow yourself to develop that sort of mindset. There is a lot of horrible stuff going on in the world and you will meet some unpleasant people, but if you hold onto the idea that it's always the same you could find yourself becoming very depressed. Can you tell us why you feel the way you do?
You can't avoid people. ---------- Post added 28th Jun 2015 at 03:55 PM ---------- "Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not become a monster... for when you gaze long into the abyss. The abyss gazes also into you."
Ain't this the truth? I know a fair number of people. I only like a very small number of them. ---------- Post added 28th Jun 2015 at 09:31 PM ---------- When the jerks bring you down and aren't good friends, a person sometimes has no choice but to walk away. I've had this happen. I have tried to hang on to have more days and nights filled with things to do and places to go but, at a certain point, some of these people weren't worth it.
There would be no point since it never helps to talk about things. People who say they would be a good help never help. People who say they are good friends never are good friends. Everyone just shuts everyone out.
You are correct. Everything you say is an absolute fact. Pep talk Spoiler For you. Don't do what everybody seems to do to you, be the exception. Make it so no longer is it everyone never helping, because you are. No longer is it everyone being a no-good friend, because you are. If you simply reflect what the world casts, you will most likely only experience that. To even have a chance at changing that, you have to make some changes, some alterations in yourself. And they don't even have to be anything ridiculously ballsy. Look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Tell yourself, Hot damn! I've got a sexy eye gaze! Go somewhere different. What do you do if you don't like the cards you're dealt? You fold and reshuffle. I should be able to stop there... ... but let's be honest. The world is a vulture's nest and after school special tidbits don't cut it. Practical talk Spoiler If you provide a genuine and understanding relationship, be it platonic or romantic, there will be manipulative assholes and emotional vampires to hope to take advantage of you. That's just how it is going to be, but you shouldn't worry too much about this. It isn't too difficult to spot these individuals, just take note of their fair-weather availability -- that'll tell you the bulk of what you need to know. But every now and then somebody comes along and, even if it's temporary, they provide you with something. Acknowledgement, kindness, a lesson, maybe love or friendship. Realize that for every time you get screwed over, by becoming withdrawn and cynical, you only reinforce that this type of behavior by and from others is okay. As difficult as this may be, you have to focus on yourself. Find or do something, become a little better each and every day, and pat yourself on the back. Even if only a little bit is done. It builds up. Life does not stop just because you're having a problem. This may come off as a bit cold, but it's what motivates me: If I don't even try to do something, I will be remembered as nothing. What does that mean? Well, by harboring all of the very problems I may dislike or find, it is weighing me down and preventing me from doing anything else. Without being able to do anything else, all I have is time to dwell on my plight-- And that will emotionally kill you. It's a suffocating type of pleasure at first; it's nicely convenient not to care or to really feel, but it prevents you from experiencing pleasure or appreciation as well. You become enslaved to disappointment. If nothing else, refuse to be just another contributor to the problem. You either try and fail until you succeed or you sit back and wait until somebody else saves you. I have no idea if somebody else is ever coming, but I know I'm here and trying. But if you really want to avoid people, it's quite easy. Just be the type of person you see in the world. <3
