"Exploring women"

I am not opposed.

I fucking love women.

 

I shall be brave and volunteer as the first to explore men. I love them too!

 

Fearless I love it!!!!

 

I rather like exploring men, though.

I understand what you mean. There is an insinuation that you're really just having a dalliance, with this silly idea, and eventually, some big, brave man will come and rape you (after helping burn down the village of your birth and murder its male children), add you to his harem of five, and thereby appease the Judeo-Christian god who demands that we cut off parts of our male childrens' penises to appease his imbecilic whims.

If it were not for our dysfunctional culture, I imagine it wouldn't be insulting at all, but I understand why you feel the way you do.

Try looking at it the way I do, though! Try shouting, "YES! I really LOVE to explore women! HAHAHA!" I am certain you would find it entertaining.

 

Context is important.. I mean, I've been experimenting with straight and lesbian porn lately, which I could easily consider as "exploring" women and I don't see anything wrong with that.

 

Sadly when I hear the phrase "exploring women" I think of a badly shot porno parody starring a fake-ass Indiana Jones.

*cracks whip* It belongs in a museum

 

I thought this was going to be a thread about Amelia Earhart and women explorers

 

I personally think it sounds sexy! But I do understand why you dislike it! It's like saying ''hey I might go explore a woman but then go back to men?'' Or? Eh though. I personally enjoy exploring women so whatever to the phrase. God I wish I had a girlfriend!

 

Context means alot.

 

I think it greatly depends on the context it is used in.

That said, to me it seems to describe when someone is exploring their same-sex attractions, and getting to know what it's like to be with women. I just think it's easier to say that you're exploring women. It's a shorter term than exploring same-sex attractions. I don't know, that's how I see it. I have no problem with someone using that phrase, provided they understand what they're actually saying, and are able to explain it to people who are curious about the meaning behind the phrase.

 

I don't see what's wrong with it... We do have a "questioning" category for orientation here. I don't hear it often though. However, I hear the similar "experimenting with men or women" often and used for both sexes.

 

I mostly hear it from men who want me to join him and his girlfriend for a threesome because she wants to explore women. In which case, it annoys the fuck out of me.

 

You should be flattered. No straight couples ever want to "explore men" with me.

 

I own a basic endoscope so I could in theory, quite literally, explore a woman. However I would be a bit surprised if my future girlfriend makes such a request!

 

Well, of course you have to understand that the phrase is meant as shorthand for "exploring my attraction to women".

If you fully realize that you are a lesbian, or if you fully realize you are bisexual...basically, if you are fully confident that you would enjoy sex with women, then it makes no sense whatsoever to use that term. But otherwise, it *is* an exploration.

I no longer explore my house. But I once did. If someone visits, and I'm comfortable with them exploring my house, I don't grudge them the exploration, or calling it exploration, just because their experience is different from mine. They don't know my house...certainly not as I do...how else will they get to know it (and frankly I'm gratified by their interest), without exploring?

Similarly, if someone is curious about women, but has never experienced sex with a woman, isn't sure they'd actually like it...maybe even really has little idea what actually goes on, or the range of what can...words like "experimentation" or "exploration" make perfect sense to me. I would appreciate an elaboration on the objection?

 

I can see how it can be offensive in my opinion.

I think that term was made up because some guys have trouble understanding how to deal with girls, or they find them confusing or something.

 

Ah! That helps me understand the objection. Really, then you object to having other people characterizing your interest in women..."exploring" is just one of a host of things that could be (inaccurately) said. That makes perfect sense.

Certainly if someone said *I* (after 29 years with my partner) was exploring, or "going through a phase" or whatever...I would be outraged...but not by their choice of language. I would be outraged by the narrow-mindedness that would need to perceive a non-hetero relationship as necessarily temporary or exploratory.