Ever Tried Online Dating?

For me, I have always had better luck with communities that are not focused specifically on dating. It's easy to find people, in a community for people who share a common interest, that you could slowly build up a rapport with over time.

Dating sites can be helpful if you are needing to meet people and work on your dating skills, and you're really worried about "wilting on the vine," they can be effective. The problem is that the free sites can be troll-magnets. You can also get a lot of sort of peculiar individuals even at good ones.

Basically, my understanding is that it's helpful if you're willing to be patient with people. You don't actually have to kiss any frogs, but you just aren't going to be compatible with everybody.

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For me, I have always had better luck with communities that are not focused specifically on dating. It's easy to find people, in a community for people who share a common interest, that you could slowly build up a rapport with over time.

Dating sites can be helpful if you are needing to meet people and work on your dating skills, and you're really worried about "wilting on the vine," they can be effective. The problem is that the free sites can be troll-magnets. You can also get a lot of sort of peculiar individuals even at good ones.

Basically, my understanding is that it's helpful if you're willing to be patient with people. You don't actually have to kiss any frogs, but you just aren't going to be compatible with everybody.

 

I've met a guy who's now a really good friend (and hopefully more soon) on a dating app, and I'm going on a date with another dating-app-guy very soon. Sure, it's no high success rate, but it's definitely fun to do.

Stay safe though, and always be careful.

 

If I've said it once, I've said it 1,000 times... I hate online dating. There's good, genuine people on dating sites - they're just hard to find. Too many weirdos for me to enjoy it. Clubs, bars and going somewhere to actually MEET and hang out with people works way better for me.

 

Yes. Tried it. Hated it. Met low lifes or had no luck. When I looked for women online, I got replies from couples looking for threesomes although I specifically posted for couples not to contact me. sigh.

 

Maybe when I'm 18.

 

It is hit or miss. I dated someone for a couple months but we didn't work as a couple so we agreed to just stay friends. I'm still hoping to find someone that I click with but it hasn't happened yet

 

I haven't ever dated anyone offline, so online seems way too farfetched; besides, as somewhat mentioned above, said sites tend to be filled with looneys.

 

No. And if I do they better not live too far away. I won't settle for more than 4 hours away.

 

It was a really hit-and-miss experience with me. I went out with about a dozen guys, but most dates proved fruitless as many guys know there's always someone else out there, so there's always the thought of someone better being out there.

With that said, I met my current boyfriend online and we've been together for a year so it certainly works. 2 straight couples I'm friends with met online and they're both destined for marriage, so it can definitely work. It doesn't matter how you meet people, and online dating hardly has the stigma it did maybe 15 years ago.

 

No and I don't ever plan to. Like Mirko mentioned, people are sometimes different online than in person.

 

I've tried it, but it was pointless because I didn't have a ride. I'll try again when I have my own car. I have no idea how I can meet people in real life. I guess I could if I turn out to like guys. It's impossible to meet girls in real life. Especially for me. I'm in the closet because I have no labels. I also only seem to get along with musicians and artists. I'm not sure I'll find that many at queer focused groups.

 

I recently tried it to talk to other women but made it clear I was just looking to chat since I wasn't ready to date right after my last relationship. But I just wanted to see how much I was actually into women. Ended up talking to a really cool girl that lived 10+ hours away. There were another couple that were nice enough but I didn't click with them. One girl I'm pretty sure was a prostitute, another kept asking me to attend a very suss, all girls house party.
I found women to be less strange then men. Don't get me wrong, there were plenty of nice guys. But then there were the ones that made rape jokes (which I find a tad creepy if I don't know the person and I've already told the person to f off). Or the guy that sent me a dick pic before even saying hi *cringes*

I'll probably try it again in a couple of months though.It can work. Be clear in your description what you're looking for and what kind of people your into. For example, I don't personally like pot, I don't care if other people do but I don't want another stoner partner, it's not my lifestyle, so I'll mention that in my profile to avoid wasting my time as well as other peoples. If you want somebody who loves animals, mention that. If you're only interested in people that can down five bowls of pasta in one meal, mention that.
And only ever arrange to meet them in a public place, like a cafe or restaurant. Don't go back to their place on the first date just in case. And let at least one person know that you're going on a date with somebody from online.

 

I tried online dating but found it was not for me.

My general experience was that people are shallow (if you don't have a nice body, they look right past you) or they're looking for casual sex or they're just creeps. I was on the dating site for a few months and though my profile got many hits, nobody ever messaged me, and I never got responses when I messaged them. I got a message from one guy who lives not too far from me, he wanted to meet up for coffee but I got a bad vibe from him so I just stopped replying to him. The only other person who contacted me was a nice woman who said she liked my profile... So I didn't have much success on it, and decided to delete my account and never go back again. If it means I'll be single for many more years to come then so be it. I'm not putting myself through that torture again

 

The right person will come along!! Online dating isn't right for a lot of people, but you'll still find a lucky someone to be with without online dating

 

Thank you so much for the vote of confidence! (*hug*)

 

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I mean, I'm thinking about possibly doing dating websites when I turn 18... maybe when I'm out of high school.

I still think my chances of getting into a relationship are higher once I enter college. o_o

 

I think I was one of the lucky ones. I met someone my first day on an online dating site and we've been going out since May.

Everyone else that has messaged me on that site was not local and I just don't think that would work. I also got the feeling that some of them were more interested in sex than getting to know me by some of their first questions.

So I can definitely see where it's hit and miss.