What compliments offend you

"I like your hair so much better short" from family members, following a hair cut. They know full well I hate my hair shorter.

Obviously still somewhat annoyed when people not knowing this compliment, but I certainly couldn't blame them.

 

I get annoyed when people are like "you're so young, I can't believe you gave good advice!"

And I'm like get off your high horse, age doesn't automatically mean more wisdom.

 

I die a little bit inside whenever a girl talks to me and later my dad makes comments along the lines of "You're such a stud, stud man!"

 

'You have long eyelashes' - that's what my mother and sister always used to say. They said it as a compliment but I never wanted lady eyelashes, lol.

Now though, I don't care.

 

Whenever people tell me "You're such a pretty/beautiful/gorgeous girl." I know they mean it as a compliment, but still... Not exactly something a guy wants to be told.



Also when people say something like, "You're so smart! For a teenager."



Was that supposed to be a compliment?

 

"You look great!"

Biiiitch, I'm at least radiant!





LOL.

 

I, too, get that a lot. Everyone thinks I'm 21 or 22. :dry: Not that I mind...

 

I don't get offended so, I guess there is nothing.

Happy days

 

Basically, I am offended by any compliments that I think are delivered primarily to manipulate me.

I am mildly put off any compliments I don't see the reasoning behind/truth to...because I have to at least consider the possibility that they were given merely to manipulate me.

 

Basically, I find it unbelievable that so few people get how trying it can be, looking less than your age.

There are positive aspects of it, but when I say "It's a mixed blessing at times," don't say, "Well, you will appreciate when you get older." I am 32 years old. I am old enough to be the father of some people who have said such imbecility. It is not that I don't appreciate my appearance, and I am quite vain about it. However, we are living in a society in which the appearance of age is necessary for one to have credibility, the evidence being inherent in the assumption that somehow I am just "too young" to realize how "blessed" I am. It has drawbacks.

 

This is weird, but when I was around 10-15 I'd hate it when someone said "you're so smart and God gave you talent." In my mind, being intelligent wasn't "good" or "bad," it just was. I felt that if God got credit for my intelligence, a parent with a child with Down syndrome should be elated "God made him that way." I sort of hated if people automatically gave God credit for anything "good" (even chance genetic lottery) and didn't credit him for the other stuff. Weird, I know.

 

"You're so intelligent."
"You must have all the girls going after you."

 

Before I transitioned, there was this weird thing of always saying to girls that they are ''pretty''. I can't convey the exact meaning in English, but lots of girls would get addressed as ''ma belle'' or even ''beauté'' by adults. They translate to ''my beautiful/pretty'' and ''beauty'' respectively. When I got called like that, it angered me so much that I would refuse to talk to the person afterwards, and would call them out as fast as lightning when they said it. It made me feel objectified, like it was all they saw to me. I was trying to be myself, with all my skills and flaws, but it was always reduced to this.

For real, why are people so obsessed with telling girls they're ''pretty'' and stuff? Boys never get told that by teachers and people in charge. Why do girls have to put up with this? Most of them don't care, I guess. I'm just happy that I will never have to deal with it again.

 

Anything forced by a teacher's "get to know each other" project. Like I know my shoes are old AF and that I'm not funny what so ever so don't tell me otherwise... Also when people tell me I'm "not that fat" or I'm"not that ugly" because is that supposed to make me feel better??? And also when someone tells me I can draw better than them. Not really a compliment, doesn't make me feel better. Although I'm not really complimented ever so I guess it doesn't matter...

 

Nobody said this to me but when someone says

"Your to pretty to be gay" or anything to that extent.

Not going to go on about it or this could turn in a big rant about that lol

 

No compliments offend me. But, I always question if the compliments I get are sincere. Like...is there a ulterior motive to them.