I have no friends?

Basically all the friendships I have right now were made online :/

I've been burned too much by real social interaction, so long-distance friendship is really the easiest thing for me to manage.

Sorry if that doesn't really help, but I can definitely sympathize to some extent.

 

I am so sorry. (*hug*)

I'll be your friend! Teenagers can really be cruel these days, I would know :/

Try joining a club, or any other group you find interesting, and you may make some friends from there? I know you don't want to join any clubs or sports, but that's honestly the best (and sometimes only) way to make friends at school, because you're surrounded by people that take interest in similar things.

Also, you can try on join a GSA or something related to that, you might also find other teens like you, and make some great friends there.

Good luck.

 

Is your name Norman Bates? 'Cos you seem to really like your mother... 'Well... A boys best friend is his mother.'... Love that film...

Anyway, yeah, I would say I'm in the same situation, but I'm not, but I can totally relate to alot of the stuff you've said. Most of my close friends are from over the internet and I've never really met...

The stuff that hit me hardest from your wall of text is when you said that your 'friends' turned on you. I get that alot. One of my closed real life friends quite often when around me and the 'cool kids' (aka. Dick heads) says stuff like 'oh what, him? I'm only there 'cos he pays me.' Or things to a simmilar affect.

Just find peace with yourself. That's what I'm gonna do over the holidays. Relax by watching anime and playing guitar. Do the stuff you love doing.

 

I know how you feel, I'm going through something similar. It sucks as you get older too because friends you were close to meet gfs or get married and spend 99% of time with their spouse or their spouses friends. I went from having a handful of friends I saw on a regular bases to seeing them a couple times a year.

Also in the last 6 months or so, my best friend and I have been fighting like crazy and go through periods were we don't talk for days or weeks. He's changed completely and we argue all the time but he's the only person I'd talk/see on a regular basis and now we haven't hung in 2 weeks and it's so lonely.

Everyone says when you get older you spend time with your spouse and less time with friends and then you have kids and then you spend no time with friends, but being gay makes it even harder to find a spouse.

:icon_sad: anyways, I know this doesn't help but you're not alone (*hug*)

 

If I were your age and local to you then I'd be your friend.
Young people can be the cruelest of all and I suppose it's because they have no life experience and can't comprehend the hurt they cause others like older people can.

Shortly before I left school myself, I caught my best friend making a rude gesture behind my back but didn't let him know for a week or so. That hurt as I thought we were mates.

As suggested, try and join a club or two, even if you're not too keen on it. Smile more and try harder to be positive - it helps.
Those people who talk about you or are generally horrible to you are more than likely the same to others so don't think you're the only one they're being like that to.

Chin up son!

 

Wow, it's like I'm reading my life story. Just about everything you said is what I've been experiencing since probably elementary school and continue to do so now. It really sucks being alone and most teens don't really care at all, unfortunately. I remember my mom and others saying to me that the friends you make in high school aren't going to last and then eventually you'll move on with your life. Just hang tight there and eventually you'll make it out okay.

 

Honestly though, it's not a big deal not to have (many) friends as a teen. Get a job, develop your interests and hobbies, strive to do well in school. You'll probably meet people into the same things as you this way. And if not, well.. Friends is what the internet is for :lol:

 

For one thing, stop trying to get people to be your friend. Be one, even if nobody will be your friend in return. That is how you define your worth. You are defined by the good you try to do.

The best thing you can do is get another person to talk. It is magic. It makes a person want to follow you like a lost puppy.

You just have to listen carefully for when people have something to say.

For example, a person might start by whining, "You know, people suck." Ding-ding-ding! It is an affective signal that that person has something that he or she wants to get off of his or her chest. When this sort of thing comes along, it's time for you to be that person's pet cat. Shut up, and listen, using "support" phrases like, "I'm so sorry" or "I know, my Mom does that." It doesn't matter what it is. Just keep that person talking, for starters.

Really empathize with that person, though, not just using empty filler language. Care. Take up that person's cause. Feel the same things that person feels. Understand why this particular issue is so important in this person's life. That is a small part of how to be someone else's friend.

But the most important thing is to get other people to talk. If a person talks constantly for hours and you say five words the whole time, I guarantee that that person will remember you as being much more talkative than you actually were and also having very intelligent things to say. That is because you may have only used those five words, but they were high-impact words. They were perfect words that were perfectly timed to open up a flood-gate.

The one thing that most people like to do, more than anything else, is talk and have someone listen and actually care. They're even happy just to hear themselves talk, most of the time; they just occasionally need something more, which is real empathy, where you have to be more engaged. That's it. That is all you ever needed to do in order to make people like you and trust you.

 

Teenagers can suck. I thankfully have 3 close friends. Though two are still friends with my ex (who they weren't friends with before) and don't really seem to care too much about my life, and the third one I'm pretty sure talks behind my back.

I've been working for a while and am finally starting to get on with people from work. Most of them I'll probably never hang out with outside of work but it is a good feeling being able to talk a bit to people and have them feel like they want to talk to me.
And I'm going to start volunteering at an animal shelter soon, probably won't make friends but who knows.

I'd see about getting a part time job somewhere like a grocery store or something. But don't worry too much right now. Most friends people make in school end up not being their friends after school anyway. Focus your time on studying and hobbies. If you don't have any hobbies, try and find a few. They don't have to be things you do with other people, but just things to do with you time and that might one day be things you could do with other people.

I'd hang out with you if I lived near you! I'd love a super close friend! At least you have online. You won't always be friendless irl

 

Just remember you'll make friends in time You have plenty of years ahead of you. For some people high school can be great, for others it sucks.
If all else fails move to my area and we'll hang out every day
Good luck with it though!

 

I've been there but I'm sure if you weren't around people would miss you.

(!)(!)(!) besides these dancing bananas are your friends and so am I

 

I'll be your friend! (*hug*)

P.S. Is every kid where you live a giant d***? You sound like a nice guy...