Do you think being attracted to girls is a masculine trait?

I don't think so, but it's hard for me to say, since I'm not attracted to girls.

However, I would say that I don't think being attracted to guys is a feminine trait.

 

I vote no. I feel the same in that way for girls and guys, which is always kind of the way you described. Probably on the more "masculine" side, if you had to put a word to it. But anyone can also feel that way about anyone, regardless of gender. Or they could feel what one might describe as the "feminine way" to feel about somebody.
Or something totally else.

I'm not convinced that made any sense, but, ah well.

Edit.
Which is also kind of what makes me think straight guys will be very put off from me, lol. Since I would never personally be interested in a "traditional" female partner role in a straight relationship or what have you. So that's always annoying. Our culture is so messed up...

 

I don't think so (I guess). I guess I act all "girly" when it comes to seeing my crushes. Then again, when I see an attractive female, I guess my mindset kind of becomes sorta like a man.

 

Define 'like a man'.

 

No, not really- it does not work like that for me.

What does it even mean to act 'like a girl who likes a boy'?
There might be some gender-related aspects of attraction & sexuality. I tend to be kind of androgynous and being with a guy made me feel kind of both 'unfeminine' and not able to express a more 'masculine' part of me. With women both of those parts can find a freer expression so I feel both more feminine and more 'forward', but I would not say that I have felt more 'feminine' with guys- I'd say that I felt even less feminine with them.

Similarly being attracted to women did not make me feel that much more masculine- maybe initially when I've felt the need to 'butch up' and generally was discovering the confidence which came from pursuing my interest, - but generally no.

 

I dont think so,

being masculine is more of a personality thing.
for example David and Brannon (1976) two social scientists, describe American Masculinity as four standards:

that's a really good point

 

Hmm.. if we use stereotypes, yes. I mean, if you like girly girl, you act 'like a man', if you like more masculine girl than you are, then you probably would act more 'girly'. But in the other hand, without sterotypes, it's a human trait.

 

No

 

I've been told I'm a lipstick femme and I know I like "girly" girls so I don't see anything masculine there

 

So showing an interest in something that is literally feminine indicates masculinity?



(Just saying... )

 

No, wanting to hug, lie beside, share your life and be romantically connected to a girl is very clearly not a masculine attraction in my eyes as I tend to view masculine attraction as much more sexual and often involves putting one thing into another... :icon_redf

 

Yes, all lesbians are really trans men. This premise is reasonable.

 

Hell no.

*Uncontrollable laughter*

 

I don't think so... I tend to like softer (more "feminine") people, and I flirt very cutesy-girl style XD;;; I'm not attracted to very "masculine" characteristics like big muscles or deep voices or rough attitudes, or stuff like that... I guess I'm a femme who is (usually) attracted to other femme types XD;;;;;

 

Nope.

 

Stereotypes needs balance. Black or white. Not everyone fits them, that's why it's bs most of the time.

 

So how do you explain gay tops? They can be very masculine. They're usually "sturdy oak" types, in my experience. You know, laid-back and cool. That's actually the "passive" side of masculinity, you know, like "I have my sandal-footed feet propped up, with my shades on, and a beer in my hand, and I don't care about nuthin', man!" That's actually the part of masculinity that I am most attracted to. That self-confident, laid-back demeanor of a guy who doesn't feel he has to please anybody is a turn-on.

And most gay guys are attracted to ME because I can be all passionate, and I'm more of a "give 'em hell" type. The guys I am attracted to are attracted to that because it sort of acts as a counterpoint to their own tendencies, and they find me stimulating. I often hear "There's so much of you" in either derogatory or praising tones. The ones I call "Jimmy Buffett" types, the "sturdy oak" to other people, seem to like it.

The "big wheel" types exist, but they annoy me. I'm like, "Who you think you kidding, mistuh?" If they want to date some gold-digger, that's fine with me. Trying to make yourself look like you have more money than you actually do, saying you own resorts when you really just have piddling investments in time-shares or something, don't do that, at least not with me. I'm a ridiculously easy fish to land, but this kind of stuff kind of creeps me out, simply because guys like that are almost never reliable as partners and never faithful. Egotists of any kind scare me shitless.

Okay, so being attracted to women is, by definition, a masculine trait, simply because the majority of men have a preference for women. However, you might have one masculine trait, but you might not have other masculine traits.

There are many "bears," meaning generally a subculture of ultra-masculine gay men, who like others of the same type, and they find so-called "twinks" to be hideously unattractive. They even stereotype twinks as being judgmental and cruel people, who are in a constant fashion contest to "see who can spend the most money on their wardrobe." Does that mean these kinds of men are really less masculine than they appear?

To a certain extent? Yes. It is just that masculinity is multidimensional.