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Are men on the internet that desperate?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by sporn, Jul 15, 2015.

  1. sporn

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    When guys ask for my picture I send them a picture of me wearing thick out of style glasses that look like this. [​IMG]

    They still call me attractive. I don't look attractive in those glasses at all. Are they so thirsty they can ignore thick ugly glasses?
     
  2. Lazuri

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    Honestly, I find it quite endearing myself.
     
  3. Naminaro

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    It could be that they find you and your vintage glasses attractive.
     
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    Well, I know most guys don't really care about that as long as they can see some ass and boobs.
     
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    I think they're cute, personally.

    And yes, many guys online *are* desperate and horny. Beware!
     
  6. sporn

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    Those glasses don't look attractive on me at all. I wouldn't really call them vintage. They were in style about ten years ago. I just tried them on as a joke.
     
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    Look. I think maybe it's a little rude to automatically assume that these guys are just thirsty because you put on a pair of glasses. The way you perceive yourself is often not how other people perceive you. And sure, some of them might just be grubbing for a little action. Or something. But some of them could potentially be sincere and you're so caught up in this preconceived notion that those glasses automatically make you less attractive that you're not considering whether or not they are being considerate, or honestly think you look good in those glasses. I've learned that men tend to be a lot looser towards female fashion than women tend to be. Sure. There might be a more flattering pair of specs out there. But they don't know that, or maybe they don't care. Maybe, some of the guys aren't so preoccupied with what you have on your face, but just the face itself. It seems you're more preoccupied with the glasses being unattractive than these men are.

    I just think it's a really strange attitude to have to call someone thirsty and desperate for paying you a compliment.
     
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    Mixed. On one hand, they are actually trying to be nice. On the other hand, the glasses also make you look young and gawkish, which appeals to some private pedophile fantasies. They are just creeps being creeps. They are usually harmless enough but bored, lonely, depressed, and often in unhappy marriages.

    They are also a little dense and can't distinguish between you and an NPC in a game. They are not doing it to be insulting. They are actually this dense.

    If it bothers you, then consider developing some drug we can give them or something.
     
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    I agree. I thank them & tell them I appreciate that. I'm married & I have guy buddies, but, when I'm in chat rooms & such, I'm usually seeking gal pals. As women we get inundated with responses. I don't read most, since, I'm there for another purpose. When I have, yes, some guys are just wanting to play, others want to make an actual connection & everything else in between.

    Men are more visual & as such, sometimes it would seem they'd be superficial & more exacting. When often the opposite is true. They appreciate & enjoy elements that a woman may perceive to be a flaw within herself. It's not just appearance either. It's other aspects as well.
     
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    I'm about to go against my better judgement on saying this but here goes: Have you considered the possibility that you are actually attractive? So in a sense it could be you, not us (guys on the internet I mean). Just saying...
     
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    I hope you realize that since I said I liked them, you just called me creepy, dense and pedophilic.
     
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    totally, i've got a friend that lurks around a chatroom for nudes or something to stimulate his dirty thoughts. Sometimes he's just desperate to get a girl to talk to him. But I cannot say this is the same situation for all men.
     
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    haha ... "on the internet"

    But yeah, I agree with Naminaro~ :slight_smile:
     
  14. Gandee

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    Totally agree. Also, no one in their right mind would say "Those glasses make you look shit ugly" :lol:. Ofc, excessive complimenting can be quite a turn-off and creepy. But sometimes people are just being nice, it has little to do with desperation. And I think you're a bit hard on yourself.
     
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    It's true. All guys everywhere are desperate and thirsty. Still, is it such a bad thing to be desired? I'd take it as a compliment.
     
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    Attractiveness is subjective. It's entirely possible that they genuinely find you attractive in those glasses. Why not? I'm not at all into facial hair (beyond stubble) on guys - it would tend to turn me off - but there are definitely heaps of people who find it attractive. I can't exactly understand why, because I don't share their sense of beauty, but that doesn't mean that their sense of beauty is wrong or that they're lying. I could say the same about any number of types of physical appearance or fashion that lots of people find attractive, but I personally don't.

    Just because you can't see the appeal doesn't mean other people don't.
     
  17. Fallingdown7

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    But glasses like that are hot D:
     
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    I think its kind of goofy that you think glasses mask attractiveness. They are essentially a helpful accessory, like a helmet, or a mouth guard, and completely independent of what someone's body looks like.
     
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    Yes, it's true! It's all true! Take me away, officers!


    No, but in all seriousness, take it from me: men are hungry savages.

    ...most of the time
     
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    That's really funny. Basically thought what I've noticed is if you find some thing unattractive at least someone else in the worlds going to find it attractive. Plus people are weird. Maybe those guys have a glasses fetish? :confused: