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How do you cope with inappropriate attractions?

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  1. sporn

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    I often get attracted to the wrong people. Generally women who are way too old for me. I usually suppress the attraction. Not sure that's the best idea, but it's how I cope.
     
    #1 sporn, Jul 16, 2015
  2. QueerTransEnby

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    Not sure. I fight the same thing with my cousin's bf. She's one lucky girl is all I have to say. Hot blonde 6 foot guy with a rock hard stomach and chill personality that has confidence yet isn't full of himself. Hard to find...
     
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  3. Cider

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    Usually when I like straight people, or people that are taken, I vent to one of my best friends. For me at least, telling someone about your problem helps a ton.
     
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    Lol, I also get attracted to older women too and I'm not sure how to even deal with it. I usually just think to myself that it's wrong and icky and strange. Like, I don't even know how I developed it in the first place.
     
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    I look away and act socially awkward like I usually am anyway
     
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    Sigh and wish that it wasn't so.
     
    #6 Browncoat, Jul 16, 2015
  7. Gandee

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    Yep, that's what I do, too.
     
    #7 Gandee, Jul 16, 2015
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    Distance myself.
     
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    Yeah, I attempt to go for the uninterested look, when inside I'm thinking, he's pretty hot. :eusa_doh:
     
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    I remind myself that he's straight and i have no chance whatsoever
     
    #10 sartorious, Jul 16, 2015
  11. Beebop

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    I've not had an issue with feeling an inappropriate attraction, but have found myself on the receiving end of this. Typically I just ignore the behavior and/or distance myself until the person finds a new target.
     
    #11 Beebop, Jul 17, 2015
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    I just keep it to myself.
     
    #12 Andrew99, Jul 17, 2015
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    I hide in seclusion away from people in some distant, faraway land and change my name.
     
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    ^ This is the only way to deal with it
     
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    Just yell "down boy" inside my head.
     
    #15 QueerTransEnby, Jul 17, 2015
  16. sporn

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    So glad I don't have a "boy".
     
    #16 sporn, Jul 17, 2015
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    Same.
     
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    The majority of my attractions are to older people (10+) but I know that realistically I could never be in a relationship with that much of an age gap.
     
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    Yeah I'm attracted to older people; I just indulge in the aesthetics of the people I'm attracted to but I don't involve my emotions unless there was a good possibility things could work out.
     
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    Tbh any kind of attraction I experience feels inappropriate, but I have the older people problem too. In any case, I try to isolate myself from the world among books, games, work. I avoid confessing anything about my attractions to anyone because I would end up admitting something I'm very ashamed of, and because I have a hard time trusting people in general.
     
    #20 Weregild, Jul 18, 2015
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