I just wrote a really long paragraph but decided to delete it because I want to keep it simple. Every single guy I find attractive are almost always above 20. There have only been like, three or four cases where they're actually my age and they were all straight. Anyone else with this problem? I'm not looking for a relationship, but it would be a good morale booster to see/meet an attractive guy knowing he's my age and know for a fact he's gay or bi >_>
Mr. Secret.... Are you going to leave everyone here in suspense of how old you really are? No one can accurately respond without you volunteering your age.
From what you said, I'm guessing you're a teenager? Personally, call me prude or old fashioned or whatever, but I don't really care or focus on dating, I focus on school, and my friends and what makes me happy. If there aren't any "cute" guys, then that shouldn't be a problem because you aren't looking for a relationship...
My guess is that there's plenty of cute guys your age, it's just that they aren't out of the closet yet.
I'll assume you're a high school teenager. I've had a few cases where a straight girl found me attractive (and possibly wanted to "get" with me), but have not found a case where a gay guy wanted me. The gay guys at my school are either in the closet, not in my friend group, or not someone I find attractive at all. Although, I feel like we're in a similar position. I think I'm ready to meet a nice gay/bi guy my age who I can get to know, but still not be in a relationship.
I'm 17 almost 18 (So TBH I could date someone who's around 20) but most of the guys are about 21+. And it's true, I'm not looking for a relationship, but it would be nice to know the option is available. TBH even just a friend who's gay/bi would be fine, but I know no one in my town who is either. Plus I was homeschooled since 2nd grade, so classmates are out of the question.
There are tons of cute guys in the 18-25 year range. Maybe not where you live but there are abundance of them (straight and gay) unfortunately the guys I think are cute are out of my range anyways
I'm on the other end of the generation/early 90's baby boom curve. All the guys I want to date are younger than me.
Assuming you're around the age as I am - I'm 16. Yeah; I kind of know what you mean, not a lot of options are this age for LGBT unless you literally know someone who is LGBT and actually has feelings back. X_X Which is quite rare
There are many, many cute guys my age. My campus is a gold-mine of pleasing appearances. Unfortunately, I can assume that the vast majority of them are straight and would want nothing to do with my affection.
Once you turn 18, embrace it. Contrary to what you might think, there's not a big difference between the maturity levels of 18 and 25 year olds. Plus - in all likelihood - would all of the gay/bi 17>18 year olds in your area actually be open about their sexuality? Perhaps they're only straight as far as you know / as far as they are comfortable to divulge.
When I was 15, I saw a lot of cute guys my age. None of them were gay as far as I know though, and I wasn't actually out at the time.
There's also issues with location. I'm 21, live in a small town and finding guys to date is near impossible. The busier the place you live, the more LGBT awareness and the earlier people tend to come out. Also the more open you are about your sexuality the more likely that someone else might approach you. Overall-don't worry about it. sooner or later you'll be in a circumstance where it's much easier to meet other gay people.
Is it like that for women as well? I have the same problem as OP. I find 25 year olds more attractive and interesting than 18 and 19 year olds.
This is only my opinion and from my experience but yes. Most 18-25 year olds (young adults) are still discovering who they are, what their world is all about and how they want to live their lives. Certainly, all of these things continue througout an entire lifetime - but it seems to be in hyperdrive during those years.
