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Do visible femmes exist?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by sporn, Jul 21, 2015.

  1. sporn

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    A lot of people talk about invisible femmes. One person on reddit claimed that she's a "visible femme." Not sure if they exist. I think she was just joking. I'm still wondering if it's possible to be a visible femme
     
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    I really don't know sporn. (*hug*)
     
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    What do you mean by visible femme?
     
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    Visibly queer
     
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    Okay then, ha ha. Can't believe I didn't think of that earlier.
     
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    People realize I'm a lesbian because of my behavior and comments rather than my appearance, being femme generally does mean people tend to think you're straight until they see you making out with your girlfriend. xD
     
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    I guess, like with some people if you have a good gaydar or if they just make it really obvious they're not straight (Joey Graceffa) then yes, but the best thing to do would ask.
     
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    Some people make their sexuality more obvious - but I don't really favor in relating gender identity/expression and roles to their sexuality. It could have a factor in expression but I wouldn't count on that XP

    I also don't really understand the concept of gaydar. XP
     
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    I mean, if some doesn't their hide your sexuality, is very out and corrects people assume they're straight, I'd say they're visible even if they're feminine. It can be harder that when than it is more androgynous women but I think it's possible.
     
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    I sometimes get picked up by OFOS Butches. Probably because I have a tendency to pick up on them first and give them a grin. I recently had one spot me at my work while she was visiting a love one. We both just grinned at each other. Sometimes, it's nice to be noticed, it kinda makes up for all of my people who walk on by.
     
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    I would say I was a visible femme. i have long curly hair and wear dresses and skirts. I think its the gay community who reject me (I'm a femme 4 femme top).
     
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    I don't think so. Maybe I'm wrong. For some reason I feel like masc gay guys are more visible then femme gay girls.

    Maybe I just pay attention to guys more. It all comes down to stereotypes anyway.
     
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    Yes, we're around. I work with a 1 or 2 other femmes who are obviously queer as well.
     
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    I think unless a feminine woman wears some sort of pride paraphernalia then she will most likely be seen as straight. Or if she frequents LGBT places like clubs or a community center.
     
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    I think they're much harder to pick up out of a crowd... Before I shaved part of my hair off - it's still very feminine and long however - I'm pretty sure everybody used to think I was one of the straight girls that frequently crashed the club. I'm getting more visibilty now that my hair is more like this[​IMG]

    I still think that it can count as femme, but if not, then I think that the most visible femmes out there are visible only once you start talking to them :frowning2:
     
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    There's a really feminine-looking girl in my P.E. class, but I suspect she's gay because she's always wearing lots of rainbow jewelry.

    But really, it's hard to know for sure by simply looking at someone. Unless you're that girl at my school who has a t-shirt that says, "I'M GAY" in big sparkly letters.

    There's also a girl at my school who seems pretty girly (definitely not boyish, at any rate) who has a girlfriend. They're always holding hands and sitting really close to each other.