I'm just feeling done

Alright. Here's the thing. I don't know if I'm being much help here though so feel free to say something if I'm not.

Your opinions are as valid as anyone else's. Anyone's opinion is. That's free speech. People may not necessarily agree with you. And on social media and forums? Any opinion can be discussed, argued, tossed over.

Everyone's said dumb things. For me, I think it's important to at least understand, even if you'll never agree, where the other guy's coming from. We've got different opinions. I definitely don't always agree with you. But it doesn't make you a bad person- doesn't make anyone a bad person if they've got a different opinion. As long as an opinion doesn't hurt anyone or come from an intentionally bad place, it should be all good.

I actually got blocked on Facebook earlier today after getting into a debate with a friend who I didn't really realize hated debate. I don't agree with censoring or blocking anyone but there will be times when you'll be arguing with someone and neither of you will be able to really meet half way. It happens. Sometimes, you just gotta step away for a while.

And sometimes, talking to people's a learning experience. Long as you're open to learn and hopefully whoever you're talking to can at least explain what their deal is, it goes alright.

Look, don't beat yourself up. It's not the end of the world.

 

Hey, look. We've all been there. I think the big thing is just to keep your cool. Not everyone else will (I mean, how many times have I fired off at someone when I shouldn't have? Loads of times) and you can't always control how someone will feel about what someone says on a regular basis.

Sometimes, their past experiences mean that it's hard for them to talk about certain subjects objectively. I've personally been there. Other times, it's a crappy day. And sometimes it's just that neither side really knows how to talk to one another.

Here, there's a lot of people who've had a pretty rough time. So it's really easy, and again I speak from personal experience, to fly off the handle or not really understand someone's intentions if a statement rubs someone the wrong way. It's not to mean that it's wrong to not agree with someone. But it can be pretty charged up here and especially in the community itself.

It doesn't mean you're a burden or you're flat out wrong. I mean, believe me. I don't always agree with a lot of people in my own community. And that happens. But it's a community. And the fact that you're saying something should at least matter. Even if you're the odd man out.

 

Man, you need to find happines. <3
Stop worrying so much. Find new friends and explore the world is a beautiful place and so are you. Treat yourself like a temple My friend .

 

Your doing just fine Simple Thoughts. There will always be people on online forums who are gonna react by impulse and not by critical thought and make assumptions and condescending remarks. Sometimes it is better to say agree to disagree than to drag on a conservation that turns to personal insults when one cannot reach common ground. I cannot remember a time where you offended me and seeing some of your posts i think your a decent part of this forum.

 

you have to be creative explore abandoned places and drive in the country. watch the night sky with a goup of friends and order take out. Go on photographyadventures by yourself. I did that today!its very nice. i live inn a small town myself you just have to think outside the box. And always be positive! Even it it drives everyone nuts.. its only because they wish they could be like you. It takees time. I used to be so negative but i got into a different crowd i help people and practice a healthy lifestyle. And now my old friends make fun of me but i dont care! Because im happy. I
Went from being a varsity cheer leader always worried about my weight and my popularity and now i dont care wha. Shirt size i wear cuz my eating disorder was draining my soul. And i realized popularity doesnt matter and now what i do to cheer myself up is i get in my car i go out in the middle of no where and just look at this beautiful world and go through all the things im greatful for. Sunny side up 100% every day

 

Oh god I remember now but I am over it! its all good. But for the most part i have not seen anything else that ticked me off. I hardly remember that lol.

 

I get that I really. I don't think i am this forum's favorite person either my middle ground approach to a lot of things does fly with some people and it gets too be much sometimes. What i would do is take a break from this forum because when it becomes too much to handle it is best to step aside and just not post for awhile. Even try avoiding debate type threads for awhile. When you see a thread with the potential for debate maybe avoid it for some time because sadly most of those threads turn into flame wars and personal attacks.

 

I feel like this too sometimes. I try to not talk on some subjects because I know people will take it the wrong way. I have been caught in some tricky arguments that I have a hard time responding to. I'm not sure if I can be of much help, but I don't think there's anything you can do about expressing all your opinions (even if you truly believe them) without offending someone. I just gave up discussing some issues because I can never debate without it somehow turning into an all out argument.

 

Bruh I don't know what you've been going though as I don't think I've seen too many of your posts' to form an opinion either way but imo having an opinion is never a bad thing your world view comes from your life experiences and it applies to you your never going to get a 100% of people to agree with you and if you do I think it's time to be worried so relax and look for positives where they come honestly you seem like a cool person

 

I understand how you feel. There are alot of people around here with really passionate views on things and everyone has different opinions and naturally as soon as a charged topic comes up it isn't long before people come to blows when otherwise they might get along fine. And it's not just that, we have our own ups and downs, and all kinds of things going on in our daily lives that might impact our attitude in any given post for better or worse. All kinds of things like that to factor in when someone when someone makes a nasty comment. The more of them you think of, the more you realize how pointless it really is, the arguments will amount to nothing anyway, you won't convince anyone of seeing things your way, and vice versa. In the end it's not even a good way of releasing negative energy because you're just hurting others and yourself... I'm not saying all discussions on the site are that way, but we've all seen them. What I'm getting at, is that's why I usually avoid these discussions and try to focus on having fun and making others feel good, since I don't come on here to get stressed and pissed off.

Simplethoughts, even though we haven't really talked, I've noticed you're presence around here for a time, and while I don't remember any of the exact topics, I'm pretty sure I've even seen multiple examples of what you're talking about here. With that I just want to say you've never said anything I'd consider as stupid, invalid, or remotely offensive, no words like that come to mind when I think of you. As a matter of fact I've always admired you because you defend your views fiercely and with pride, no matter how strong the opposition. Besides all of that first and foremost you seem like a wonderful fun loving guy, the type I'd like to be friends with, if that's ok. :3 Please stop feeling useless and etc because that''s not remotely true. I value your input here and would love to see more of it. <3

 

So the problem I see is that when you state your opinion and someone disagrees, you become a bit aggressive...

I know the feeling of wanting to really convince someone you're right; I mean, who doesn't?

The problem is you just have to learn when to walk away. Pay attention to the warning signs, and take your leave if you have to.

Walking away can be hard, but necessary.

The feeling of someone taking what you said and disagreeing with it can be agonizing sometimes... but as said before, everyone has their own opinion and sometimes you just can't convince others to change their minds.

I'm pretty sure none of us here at EC want you to feel bad. We're all family here. So please, don't.

Just be cautious with what you say, and I'm sure everyone will eventually forgive and forget.


I've said this before and I'll say it again: I hate arguments. Nobody ever wins. Please stop with the controversial topics, because they are honestly bugging me a little.

I realize people won't listen to what I say, but I just don't want anyone to feel bad or get unnecessarily banned.