My experience as a female bisexual trying online dating so far...

Haven't actually tried it yet, but have looked at different sites to see what services and options they provide.
I've only found 2 sites that actually allow non-monosexual orientations as an option and on those there are apparently many members who perpetuate the stereotypes you mentioned above, as well as comments like "No bisexuals/no bisexuals need apply".

 

Well, this doesn't look very promising so far. Maybe you could try making two accounts? One as a straight person, and one as a gay person :/ That'd probably do away with the whole threesome thing, but you would eventually have to come out.

 

My experience with online dating

Free to join but have to pay to use service :bang:
I put man looking for a man that's a woman you've matched me with :tantrum:
Why the :***: did I ever go on here :tears:

 

I hope you don't mind a non-bisexual person commenting, but I do have some insight on your situation in regards to my own experiences.

I should warn you that online dating does attract men that are creepy perverts, basically the worst of the male sex are on those sites. I'm not saying all men are bad, but it does seem to attract the worst of the lot.

I am not bi, however, I get creepy messages from men as well. Says "GAY" right on my profile and men are constantly commenting "Can I come over to your house and eat you out?" WTF???

As far as women go, bi women tend to get less messages from them for three reasons:

1) There are more straight men than bi/gay women in the world, and therefore this increases your number of straight messages.

2) Some lesbians are put off by bisexuals and are highly biphobic so they won't message you. However, isn't it better to avoid these people anyway? You don't want to attract people who can't accept you in a real world relationship.

3) Many are fine with your sexuality, but are either shy, haven't actually found you yet, or just find you to not be their type under other factors. In which case, I would recommend searching them up yourself and sending a message.

Some of the "Bisexuals" on the sites have also been straight girls looking to prey on lesbians for threesome benefits in my experiences, so some of these girls are wary for the wrong reasons. In which case, I can understand lying to them at first and coming out via PM.

I wish you luck. I haven't had much luck either though. Usually girls aren't interested at all or they just want to talk and never bother to meet up.

 

As an annoying teenager would say: ''lol, wtf''



You're better off finding someone in real life. It's much more trustworthy, and less... stressful. :lol:

Besides, most of the guys on dating websites are disgusting ratbags just either want to hook up, or troll. Yes, troll. How do I know this? I've seen it myself.

 

My only experience with online dating is when I tried joining T.inder just for fun - some of my friends had gotten a good laugh and one had actually meet her boyfriend on T.inder. I wrote that I was bi sexual and pretty much all the responses I got was from guys asking for three-ways (I deleted my account pretty fast)

But I don't think you should worry, there will of course always be some silly horny guys but if you give this online dating thing some time there is bound to be some sweet and nice people

 

I guarantee you that changing your orientation to "gay" will not change a thing. Mine is set to gay and I make it clear I'm a transwoman and I still get these. Along with one weird indian woman--that I strongly believe was not actually a woman--looking for "dickgirls."

 

Yeesh. I briefly put up a profile on a dating site (took it down as I decided I'm not ready to date yet). On that site there was the option to "hide profile from straight people." Perhaps you could try that option? You would still be seen by bi and gay guys, but it would at least weed out all the straight guys, who are presumably more numerous.

 

Yeah I don't do online dating at all. I tried it and got only creepy replies.

My experience is that you will have far better luck meeting people through groups aimed at particular interests and NOT dating sites. There are far too many people interested in hookups, messing around, and trolling on dating sites. Maybe they work for people with a very thick skin and tons of patience.

 

I used to do online dating before I got with my boyfriend. When I would list myself as bisexual, I usually had a little bit of luck getting matched up with both guys and girls. However, I never actually had a full conversation with someone. I didn't have any luck meeting anyone online until I tried out gay hook-up apps and listed myself as a gay male. That, in itself, was a terrible experience and I met some pretty unsavory types through the app.

I think online dating can work out for a lot of people. But really not for everyone and I think it depends a lot on the kind of site you're on and the culture of people who use it. I did meet my boyfriend online, funnily enough, but it was through a group on Facebook.

Don't get discouraged though. It might just take trying different sites and seeing what works.

 

I can deal with it since I've thick skin. Normally I just ignore them, but sometimes I troll them by leading them on and laughing at the kinda stuff they write to me. My favorite thing is to just act totally oblivious to what they actually want--It's very interesting to see the lengths and frustration they go through just on the off chance somebody is gonna be willing to have sex with them.

That said, I have talked to some really cool people through online dating sites, but I was always the first one to send them a message. There are good people on there, but you'll pretty much have to find them yourself.

 

Hi. First, as a lesbian, let me say thank you for being honest and saying you are bisexual. As a lesbian who tried to just find friends on a dating/friendship site I can tell you it's hard. Finding genuine people out there is practically impossible I find and I was just looking for friendship. All anyone seems to want is sex. Anyway, to attract lesbian or other bisexuals to your profile, can you say something in your profile to address that you are interested in and looking for a relationship with a woman? Might help and you still maintain your honesty about being bisexual.

 

I agree with this. My straight female friends have shown me the messages they get on dating sites. I'm shocked by the level of crudeness these guys display.