I've posted. My situation I'm questioning my sexuality I want it to stop I think I'm bi but idk I've had sex with both men and woman I'm 25 years old I tend to over thunk things I do watch porn both gay and straight I just don't wanna be gay I just have been catching myself looking at guys when I've never been sexually attracted to them but have experimented with them u just don't feel happy but I wanna stop watching porn I recently just got engaged to my girlfriend Nd I don't wanna be with a guy I'm just tired of this confusion and anxeity attacks I just don't wanna be gay it's simple I feel like I'm in control of my own life and how I stand I just want help
Well to address you not wanting to be gay, from what you wrote, you're not. You're attracted to both men and women, so you're not gay, you're probably bisexual. You also need to remember there's nothing wrong with liking someone of the same gender, because you seem very upset at the very possiblity of that happening to you. Try to be honest with your girlfriend and tell her how you feel, (if you want to) and hopefully she'll help you through this. If you're questioning your sexuality, and not yet comfortable with it, it's probably not a good idea getting engaged, but if you truly feel you're ready, then it's fine. Good luck!
*gives a hug* I'm sorry that you've not been getting many replies. Don't worry though I'm sure someone will have some advice to offer. Sadly, I'm likely not gonna be too much help ^^"
It sounds like you're bisexual, there is nothing wrong with it and there is nothing you can do about it. It's not a choice or a selection in your brain you can turn off...
You have to remember that straight people also continue to feel attraction to other people once they get married. This doesn't stop them from getting married and living happily together for the rest of their life. Just because you feel attracted to both men and women it doesn't mean you can't settle down and have a happy marriage with a single person. You will always be bi and you can't control that aspect of yourself yet like everyone else it's up to you to embrace the love that you feel for your partner and find a way to cope with the urges brought on by the attraction you feel for others.
I post sometimes and never get replies. But everyone on here is here to help. Like everyone else said, it is okay to be bisexual, or whatever sexuality you may be.
You could be bisexual, not a big deal hun! And if you are bi it does not mean you HAVE to be with a guy. I would definitely talk to your girlfriend about it if you are comfortable doing so.
Thanks for the advice evreyone I just don't wanna question myself anymore I've had sex with both men and woman I possibly am bi and I pref woman I wanna have a wonderful family and kids someday I just wish these urges were never there it's hard to understand thus and I don't wanna watch porn anymore because I feel like it's caused most of my confusion in my life
It sounds as if you need to accept the fact that you are bi and move forward with your life. I read your older posts and you are clearly uncomfortable with the thought that you are bi, this is having a negative effect on you as you are repressing your sexuality. You might be suffering from internalized homophobia and I would suggest to consider going to a therapist to help yourself cope with this internal conflict. There is nothing wrong with being bi, it's simply who you are. You can be happily married and you might even have a stronger connection to your wife as a result of being bi as you can understand intimately why she is attracted to men and identify with her own attraction to yourself. You need to find a way to stop running away from who you are, you are just hurting yourself by doing so.
Before you get too far into the relationship with your girlfriend, you owe it to yourself to explore your feelings and attractions. I hear you saying two different things: That you find yourself having attractions to guys (as well as girls), and that you don't want attraction to guys. THere are quite a few people here (particularly in the Later in Life section) who convinced themselves they were bi or straight and got married... only to discover that they were, in fact, gay and were in denial. Now they've gotten themselves in a really sticky, and messed up situation that isn't fair to anyone. So... what you really need to explore is where your attractions really do lie, and that's difficult to do because you have such a strong aversion to considering the possibility that you are bi or gay. But until you actually walk into this fear and understand it... it will continue to hound you. So the difficult questions to ask are where your sexual attractions actually lie. Put away the porn and try masturbating without it. Spend a few sessions thinking about girls. Then spend a few sessions thinking about guys. Then spend a few sessions letting your mind wander, without consciously leading it in any direction, and see where it goes naturally. Look at how intense the experiences are, and what excites you more. Be honest! You might find that you're more excited by thinking about girls. Or you might find it's equal thinking about guys or girls.... Or you might find that you're more excited thinking about guys. Whatever you find... that's pretty likely your truth. You can't change it. It won't go away. Wishing it wasn't the case won't make a difference. It... just is. Once you know where your attractions lie, then you can figure out your next steps are. If you are genuinely aroused strongly by women and very little or not at all by guys when you are fantasizing... then you have no problem and can think about what's next with your relationship. If you are more strongly aroused by guys than you've previously been willing to admit... you need to really stop and think, and maybe read some of the threads in the Later in Life section. You owe it to yourself and your girlfriend to be clear on this. You probably also owe it to your girlfriend to be authentic with her about whatever you find. Honesty and authenticity is one of the most foundational building blocks of relationships. Without it... you're building a house on sand. Whatever the outcome is... you'll work through it. And you'll be OK. It might not seem like that right now, but it will definitely be the case.
