well that's kinda ruined my day. - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Jeimuzu · 23rd Dec 2008, 09:54 AM

i was texting my ex, asking if he wanted to meet up. he just kinda said maybe, so i was in town anyways, and texted to ask if he wanted to meet up.

I received this text:

"You can hint all you want and no offence but in this stage of the game you'll be lucky if i'll even go down stairs

"

I thought he'd completely misunderstood.
Hint all you want; I figured he thought I was still trying to get back with him. After all, I'd not been hinting that I wanted to meet up, it was really a fairly plain yes or no question.
This stage of the game... who uses that just to describe the time of the day?
And go downstairs? He lives in a bungalow, so I kinda assumed the... other meaning.

I sent a text back rather baffled and a bit hurt that he thought I was just trying to meet up for sex...

He pointed out that actually, he's upstairs at his friend James' house, and is feeling too lazy to come downstairs, let alone out and it's too late in the evening to be meeting up. And sounded a little pissed off at me. So now I'm kinda glum. =/

I need to work out how to stop misunderstanding people. He told me that I shouldn't jump to conclusions, but really... the meaning seemed pretty plain to me. =(

thebikelady · 23rd Dec 2008, 10:04 AM

I probably would have thought the same thing you did. It is hard to tell what people mean in a text.

BeautifulStranger · 23rd Dec 2008, 10:36 AM

When I read his response I thought the same thing you did.
That's crazy and rude.

He should be a little more understanding because:
1.) harmless misunderstanding
2.) communication via text message

23rd Dec 2008, 10:48 AM

That's one thing I hate about written English. So much meaning is lost with the lack of inflection and/or facial or physical clues about what a person means.

Did you tell him that you just misread the text?

Ty · 23rd Dec 2008, 10:57 AM

Silly exboyfriend is silly.

riddlerno1 · 23rd Dec 2008, 11:16 AM

Yes, i would have probably understood it that way too. This is why i prefer to call people, works out more expensive but at least your speaking to a human!

shakerdancee · 23rd Dec 2008, 03:38 PM

I just lost the game.

Jeimuzu · 23rd Dec 2008, 03:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shakerdancee

I just lost the game.

Out! Out! *fetches holy water* xD

Kryz · 23rd Dec 2008, 11:52 PM

I think we all got the same message when we read the response...

So, it was a missunderstanding, it's not like a HUGE one...

I hope he comes to his senses...

23rd Dec 2008, 09:54 AM	#1
Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	well that's kinda ruined my day. i was texting my ex, asking if he wanted to meet up. he just kinda said maybe, so i was in town anyways, and texted to ask if he wanted to meet up. I received this text: "You can hint all you want and no offence but in this stage of the game you'll be lucky if i'll even go down stairs " I thought he'd completely misunderstood. Hint all you want; I figured he thought I was still trying to get back with him. After all, I'd not been hinting that I wanted to meet up, it was really a fairly plain yes or no question. This stage of the game... who uses that just to describe the time of the day? And go downstairs? He lives in a bungalow, so I kinda assumed the... other meaning. I sent a text back rather baffled and a bit hurt that he thought I was just trying to meet up for sex... He pointed out that actually, he's upstairs at his friend James' house, and is feeling too lazy to come downstairs, let alone out and it's too late in the evening to be meeting up. And sounded a little pissed off at me. So now I'm kinda glum. =/ I need to work out how to stop misunderstanding people. He told me that I shouldn't jump to conclusions, but really... the meaning seemed pretty plain to me. =( __________________

23rd Dec 2008, 10:04 AM	#2
thebikelady EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 9? Age: 28 Posts: 485 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: well that's kinda ruined my day. I probably would have thought the same thing you did. It is hard to tell what people mean in a text.

23rd Dec 2008, 10:36 AM	#3
BeautifulStranger GaGa's Knight in Flaming Armor Full Member Gender: 여왕 Orientation: Boys Boys Boys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Jukjeon-dong, Yongin-si Age: 20 Posts: 1,823 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: well that's kinda ruined my day. When I read his response I thought the same thing you did. That's crazy and rude. He should be a little more understanding because: 1.) harmless misunderstanding 2.) communication via text message __________________ Co-Founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club EC's official Diva Extraordinaire Future 'Mr. Kellan Lutz' "Since women have vaginas, they also have drama to fill the void."

23rd Dec 2008, 10:48 AM	#4
Drizzt DoUrden Guest Posts: n/a	Re: well that's kinda ruined my day. That's one thing I hate about written English. So much meaning is lost with the lack of inflection and/or facial or physical clues about what a person means. Did you tell him that you just misread the text?

23rd Dec 2008, 10:57 AM	#5
Ty Mints ribbed for her pleasure Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oxford, t'South, UK Age: 19 Posts: 305 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: well that's kinda ruined my day. Silly exboyfriend is silly. __________________ Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, exhibit number one is what the seraphs, the misinformed, simple, noble-winged seraphs, envied. Look at this tangle of thorns.

23rd Dec 2008, 11:16 AM	#6
riddlerno1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: London Age: 29 Posts: 712 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: well that's kinda ruined my day. Yes, i would have probably understood it that way too. This is why i prefer to call people, works out more expensive but at least your speaking to a human!

23rd Dec 2008, 03:38 PM	#7
shakerdancee Oom-pah! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not sure Out Status: Anyone who asks Location: California Age: 19 Posts: 304 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: well that's kinda ruined my day. I just lost the game.

23rd Dec 2008, 11:52 PM	#9
Kryz EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 95% gay 4% lesbian 1% polyester. Out Status: 7 friends and my mum. Location: Mexico City Age: 23 Posts: 659 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: well that's kinda ruined my day. I think we all got the same message when we read the response... So, it was a missunderstanding, it's not like a HUGE one... I hope he comes to his senses... __________________ Nobody wants to be alone, everybody wants to love someone... ♪ Glitter and be gay... That's the part I play... ♫ It's SO not a choice. But if it were, I would choose to be gay.

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