Do you feel comfortable when people say stuff like that to you? I don't. I don't mind compliments about my appearance, I just don't like feeling objectified.
Are you kidding? As a person who is very insecure about the way he looks, hearing compliments like these make my whole day a lot brighter! I kid you not, it could even make my week!
For me it completely depends on who says it. When my friends say it, I go "awww" and feel happy inside, but if it comes from a total stranger, I think it's kind of creepy.
I dunno, I've never really thought about it since I've never really encountered the phrase being directed to me. I guess I might be...fine with it? IDK.
I actually don’t mind these, I generally get these from women rather than men which disappoints me if anything but in general I find flattery in any type of compliment given thru an admirable gesture. Could it be that the people sparing you these compliments are being overt?
I've been told I'm beautiful by strangers, and have never felt uncomfortable with it... It's flattering. But it's always been done in a tactful, kind way, not a sleazy way. Most times it's still flirty, but the last time it happened it wasn't even that and it absolutely made my day. I thanked him, and we each went on our way. However, a lot of it depends on the tone and how they're looking at you. If the guys who are saying this to you are doing it in the same spirit as some drunken catcallers, if they're just objectifying you and eyeing you like you're a piece of meat, then I can definitely understand not being comfortable with it and feeling unsafe.
When my friends say it, which sadly only my online friends say stuff like that but oh well, I'm flattered. I'm sure if a random stranger walked up to me though and said it, I might be creeped out a little. Unless it was a hot guy. xD Kidding. Sorta But yeah if anyone in my town said that to me, it would probably be kinda weird. So yeah I guess the short answer is it depends on the person that says it and the context.
I honestly don't really like compliments about my appearance because I'll never believe it. Lol. If it's from a significant other (that I don't have, lol), I'm more accepting of it because I know it's genuine. I prefer to be complimented of my skills & nonphysical attributes.
If it's someone I know, it brightens my whole day. If it's a stranger, it's creepy and weird and makes me really paranoid. Are they just being polite, or do they have another motive? Like, I don't know you, I don't want to know you, and now I feel like people I don't even know are eyeing me up like a piece of meat when I'm not looking.
It's complicated for me because I like the recognition that I'm looking good and doing well with it. At the same time it unnerves me because I don't like being treated like a sexual object for every random person on the street... "Hey, beautiful" I wouldn't mind, it's other stuff that gets to me that's "worse" if that makes sense.
I have never honestly been called "beautiful", not even by people in my family... Maybe once by a therapist a few years ago but the way he said it sounded more like an obligation to make me feel better.
Well, it really depends on who says it, their body language when they say it (facial gesture and whatever) and the tone of voice they use. It can range from sounding really kind and heartwarming to downright creepy.
Compliments depend very much on tone, which I'm sensitive to. If it's just a compliment or someone is very straightforward and respectful about it then that's nice. Some people take an approach where you can tell they're steering the conversation, leering, or trying to flatter you to get something, none of which I like.
