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Does homophobia affect you less if you're introverted?

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  1. xxaquaxx

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    Before coming out, I was an introverted loner (still am). Now seeing homophobic people look at me weird makes me want to punch them in the face but I still don't feel like I'm missing out on socializing with people in general. I could be wrong, but I happen to think that more extroverted gay people who enjoy people's company might feel more affected by homophobia when they come out?
     
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    I don't know. I'm pretty introverted (not online) and it really affects me. I try to explain nicely, and then want to punch them, then I get sad, and avoid the person a lot.
     
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    I don't know, I think a lot of it depends on context. To be honest, I almost feel that if you're outspoken, it's easier to deal with just because you're able to sort of deflate arguments, you're naturally confident (or look that way), and it's easier for you to find a new group if the other one's a crock of puss shit. But it depends on the person, the community, and what homophobia entails in that area.
     
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    I think homophobia affects you even more if you're introverted...
     
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    I'm super introverted, and I dunno sometimes it bothers me, other times I prefer being alone so it's hard to say ^^"
     
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    I'm somewhat introverted in real life.

    For some reason homophobia has never personally bothered me. Yeah, it would make me angry to see that people think like that, but I wouldn't feel bad about myself, even when I was still closeted.

    Guess it depends on the person.
     
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    I guess so too. But that can be just my personal experience since I let everything of that kind affect me. Not sure if that is related to me being an introvert, but still.
     
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    I'm very extroverted and homophobia doesn't bother me much, because I don't experience it.
     
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    Being introverted, I'd say it affects me differently, though not necessaily less.
     
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    Naw. Atleast for me I guess. I've pretty much seen alot of weird characters so It doesn't really affect me, and I've heard alot ofvweird excuses not to like someone. I think it'd be 50/50 for introverts and extroverts
     
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    I think extroversion also helps because you can come up with witty and smart ass replies and actually say them without a problem. I'm super extrovert, but I have only experienced one case of homophobia from my friend, who still accepts me. I live in an accepting town though, so that helps.

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    Also you can better stick up for yourself I guess. I'm not sure. That's a good question.
     
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    I think being introverted helps if you're not stereotypically gay. Mainly because I think it's easier for introverts to hide same sex attraction.
     
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    Not just homophobes, all idiots are more annoying, and cause tears more.
     
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    For me, it was the other way round
     
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    I'm an extrovert and being gay has somewhat turned me into an introvert so I would say maybe... it really depends, I can see introverts still being unhappy with homophobes even if they don't want to be their friend.
     
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    Don't think they are related.
    It all comes down to how you take other folks reactions.
     
  17. ModernCat

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    I think it affects you more since makes you not want to talk to people even more. Then you might feel actually lonely inside because everyone, including introverts, do need someone to trust, and to relate to.
     
  18. waitwhat

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    I don't think so. I'm very introverted and homophobia hurts a lot. I think it's "individual based," the hurt depends on what was said or done, and to whom it was said or done.
     
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    No, I don't think so
     
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    Homo phobia is something they have to deal with. Me personally, I'd get in there face and hope they would start something because I'd love nothing better than to beat the shit out of them.

    Other than that I have no real feeling about the subject.