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Étoile · 24th Dec 2008, 07:52 PM

Normality is constantly brought about in everyday life. Everything is compared to normality; finances, people, jobs, hobbies, state of being.

But what is normal? More importantly, what is your definition of normal? Does normality even exists? Could it possibly exists?

Sorry, I feel like being philosophical tonight.

Wander · 24th Dec 2008, 08:01 PM

No, normal is manufactured. Relative. Very probably nonexistent.

HighintheClouds · 24th Dec 2008, 08:17 PM

As is said: "Don't worry. You're unique, just like everyone else." =)

Normality is what we perceive everyone else to be doing which isn't socially stupid or weird. Individuality is celebrated, but you can't have too much of it, lest you end up being a social outcast.

Kryz · 24th Dec 2008, 11:18 PM

Normal it's the most probable thing to happen...

Airboy87 · 25th Dec 2008, 01:17 AM

"Normal" is just a perception. Nothing more.

Ty · 25th Dec 2008, 09:18 AM

Normal -

noun
1 the usual, average, or typical state or condition : her temperature was above normal | the service will be back to normal next week.
• a person who is physically or mentally healthy.

TheRoof · 25th Dec 2008, 11:51 AM

normal doesn't have a definite definition.
i mean yea it means that something is conventional, or common or whaever,
but people are so different in so many aspects that it's hard to
pinpoint out what is "normal" and what is not.

summersforecast · 25th Dec 2008, 11:57 AM

the majority is "normal"

following a pattern

I like to us normal as an adjective for boring lol :P

heatqueen · 25th Dec 2008, 01:05 PM

Normal is a paradox.

You see, it's like this: Everyone's weird in some way or another, right? Therefore we all have weirdness in common. Since we have all that in common it makes us normal, while normal people are weird because they don't have weirdness in common because they're normal. Since those normal people are weird, they're normal because they now do have weirdness in common, but this makes them weird because they're normal, and hence weird...so weird and normal keep going round in a circle and therefore don't exist.

Kryz · 25th Dec 2008, 02:32 PM

I'm confused.

Since this topic is about "normal" not a "normal person". Of course normality exists.

Does normality exists in human behavior? <--- I think that's the question everybody is answering.

So either I got the wrong message (Which is the most probable thing, it's what I do

), or the OP didn't quite sent the message right, or some other ppl are getting the wrong message...

ColdSnap · 25th Dec 2008, 02:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by trying2behappy

the majority is "normal"

following a pattern

I like to us normal as an adjective for boring lol :P

word for word what i was thinking, when i think normal i think 'majority' and 'boring' :P

tm74 · 25th Dec 2008, 02:39 PM

Combined with "you're unique, just like everyone else" is one of my favourite quotes...

"Everyone is someone else's weirdo"

"Normal" is a state of mind, what's normal for you will be "unusual" to some, and "just plain weird" to others.

fantasmo · 26th Dec 2008, 12:20 AM

"Normal" is completely based on opinions.
What one person constitutes normal, another may not.
Everybody has their own definition of normal.
And, if you don't want to believe in normality, then your normal doesn't exist.

starfish · 26th Dec 2008, 07:14 AM

Normal is a mathematical term term meaning perpendicular to a surface in 3 space.

26th Dec 2008, 07:44 AM

Quote:

As is said: "Don't worry. You're unique, just like everyone else." =)

We have a different saying over here:"You're nothing but a pawn in a greater game. Nothing special. Nothing unique."

Apocalypte · 26th Dec 2008, 08:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by starfish

Normal is a mathematical term term meaning perpendicular to a surface in 3 space.

Chamber of Life · 26th Dec 2008, 04:08 PM

I don’t say normal because I hate that word with a fiery passion. To me normal or not normal doesn't exist. People say "that isn't normal" because we've been custom in this lifestyle of what we're use to seeing everyday. But when people see someone breaking that mold, then it's not normal in their eyes. I look outside the box, some others don’t.

Nixon · 26th Dec 2008, 10:42 PM

anything your not

Chaz · 27th Dec 2008, 01:32 AM

Normal is something that isn't considered taboo in most cases I've seen.

27th Dec 2008, 08:13 AM

I'm really not the right person to talk about normal, as i'm anything but normal but i always think normal is relative, for example what's normal to me would be very weird for most people and vice versa. So i guess, no something can never be truly normal to everyone, i never thought about that before lol is relative, for example what's normal to me would be very weird for most people and vice versa

24th Dec 2008, 07:52 PM	#1
Étoile He ate my heart Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: 95% Gay, 5% Cheesecake Out Status: Out to everyone Location: The Peach State Age: 20 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: Nov 2007	What is normal? Normality is constantly brought about in everyday life. Everything is compared to normality; finances, people, jobs, hobbies, state of being. But what is normal? More importantly, what is your definition of normal? Does normality even exists? Could it possibly exists? Sorry, I feel like being philosophical tonight.

24th Dec 2008, 08:01 PM	#2
Wander Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, aunts, grandma, counselor, online friends Location: Central Alabama Age: 18 Posts: 2,360 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: What is normal? No, normal is manufactured. Relative. Very probably nonexistent.

24th Dec 2008, 08:17 PM	#3
HighintheClouds Well Met (Touché!) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Tis only men I stare at. Out Status: I think rumours spread way too fast for my liking. Age: 21 Posts: 385 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: What is normal? As is said: "Don't worry. You're unique, just like everyone else." =) Normality is what we perceive everyone else to be doing which isn't socially stupid or weird. Individuality is celebrated, but you can't have too much of it, lest you end up being a social outcast. __________________ 希望, Hope, Espoir, Esperanza, Speranza All these words.. All one meaning... We're all over the world. May we find this wherever we are.

24th Dec 2008, 11:18 PM	#4
Kryz EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 95% gay 4% lesbian 1% polyester. Out Status: 7 friends and my mum. Location: Mexico City Age: 23 Posts: 659 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: What is normal? Normal it's the most probable thing to happen... __________________ Nobody wants to be alone, everybody wants to love someone... ♪ Glitter and be gay... That's the part I play... ♫ It's SO not a choice. But if it were, I would choose to be gay.

25th Dec 2008, 01:17 AM	#5
Airboy87 Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: Happyland Age: 24 Posts: 1,816 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: What is normal? "Normal" is just a perception. Nothing more.

25th Dec 2008, 09:18 AM	#6
Ty Mints ribbed for her pleasure Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oxford, t'South, UK Age: 19 Posts: 305 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: What is normal? Normal - noun 1 the usual, average, or typical state or condition : her temperature was above normal \| the service will be back to normal next week. • a person who is physically or mentally healthy. __________________ Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, exhibit number one is what the seraphs, the misinformed, simple, noble-winged seraphs, envied. Look at this tangle of thorns.

25th Dec 2008, 11:51 AM	#7
TheRoof True Blue Full Member Gender: genderqueer Orientation: I like who I like. Location: NY Age: 20 Posts: 1,452 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: What is normal? normal doesn't have a definite definition. i mean yea it means that something is conventional, or common or whaever, but people are so different in so many aspects that it's hard to pinpoint out what is "normal" and what is not. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. -Diane Arbus-

25th Dec 2008, 11:57 AM	#8
summersforecast EC Addict Full Member Gender: Carl Orientation: I like dudes and crazy chicks(mostly dudes) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Johnson City Age: 18 Posts: 777 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: What is normal? the majority is "normal" following a pattern I like to us normal as an adjective for boring lol :P __________________ meh..

25th Dec 2008, 01:05 PM	#9
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,706 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: What is normal? Normal is a paradox. You see, it's like this: Everyone's weird in some way or another, right? Therefore we all have weirdness in common. Since we have all that in common it makes us normal, while normal people are weird because they don't have weirdness in common because they're normal. Since those normal people are weird, they're normal because they now do have weirdness in common, but this makes them weird because they're normal, and hence weird...so weird and normal keep going round in a circle and therefore don't exist. __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

25th Dec 2008, 02:32 PM	#10
Kryz EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 95% gay 4% lesbian 1% polyester. Out Status: 7 friends and my mum. Location: Mexico City Age: 23 Posts: 659 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: What is normal? I'm confused. Since this topic is about "normal" not a "normal person". Of course normality exists. Does normality exists in human behavior? <--- I think that's the question everybody is answering. So either I got the wrong message (Which is the most probable thing, it's what I do ), or the OP didn't quite sent the message right, or some other ppl are getting the wrong message... __________________ Nobody wants to be alone, everybody wants to love someone... ♪ Glitter and be gay... That's the part I play... ♫ It's SO not a choice. But if it were, I would choose to be gay.

25th Dec 2008, 02:39 PM	#12
tm74 Hug Whore Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: no immediate family - pretty much everyone else Location: Wales, UK Age: 38 Posts: 415 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: What is normal? Combined with "you're unique, just like everyone else" is one of my favourite quotes... "Everyone is someone else's weirdo" "Normal" is a state of mind, what's normal for you will be "unusual" to some, and "just plain weird" to others. __________________ "Free your secrets to free yourself"

26th Dec 2008, 12:20 AM	#13
fantasmo Smile Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Take a guess Location: Washington, USA Age: 18 Posts: 35 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: What is normal? "Normal" is completely based on opinions. What one person constitutes normal, another may not. Everybody has their own definition of normal. And, if you don't want to believe in normality, then your normal doesn't exist.

26th Dec 2008, 07:14 AM	#14
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: What is normal? Normal is a mathematical term term meaning perpendicular to a surface in 3 space. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

26th Dec 2008, 04:08 PM	#17
Chamber of Life In my Naughty Tree!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most of my friends. Location: Ohio, USA Age: 21 Posts: 288 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: What is normal? I don’t say normal because I hate that word with a fiery passion. To me normal or not normal doesn't exist. People say "that isn't normal" because we've been custom in this lifestyle of what we're use to seeing everyday. But when people see someone breaking that mold, then it's not normal in their eyes. I look outside the box, some others don’t. __________________

26th Dec 2008, 10:42 PM	#18
Nixon EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Go to Catholic School So, NO Location: Dundee, Nebraska (It's in Omaha) Age: 19 Posts: 575 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: What is normal? anything your not __________________ "I drink to stay warm, then kill selected memories"- Conor Oberst' "Some people don't know me neither do I"

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JWAD Guest Posts: n/a	Re: What is normal? I'm really not the right person to talk about normal, as i'm anything but normal but i always think normal is relative, for example what's normal to me would be very weird for most people and vice versa. So i guess, no something can never be truly normal to everyone, i never thought about that before lol is relative, for example what's normal to me would be very weird for most people and vice versa